Why is leaving a narcissist so hard… and why do women stay?

When you’re caught in the cycle of a narcissistic relationship, it isn’t as simple as just walking away. Narcissists thrive on control, manipulation, and keeping you second-guessing yourself. Women often stay because of trauma bonds, fear, financial ties, family pressure, or the deep hope that the person they fell in love with will finally show up. In this Back Porch Confessions episode, we dive into the emotional rollercoaster of loving someone who only gives just enough to keep you hooked... and why breaking free feels like breaking an addiction. This raw conversation will help you understand the patterns, name the pain, and begin to reclaim your power.

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The Truth About Post-Menopause:

What It Means for Women

Post-menopause isn’t just the end of hot flashes and night sweats - it’s the start of a whole new chapter. In this candid bonus episode, we unpack what happens after the final cycle and how women’s bodies, minds, and souls adapt in this season of life. From shifting hormones to changes in bone and heart health, to the emotional release of no longer planning life around a cycle - it’s equal parts science, real talk, and soul talk.

We’ll explore:

• 🌱 What “post-menopause” really means and how long it lasts

• 💪 The new health priorities women face

• 💭 The emotional and spiritual side of stepping into this stage

• 🔥 How freedom, wisdom, and self-acceptance become the gifts of this season

Grab your tea, pull up a chair on the porch, and join me for a heart-to-heart on the next chapter of womanhood.

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We talk about physical wounds like they’re the only ones that matter, but what about the emotional ones that never got stitched up? 😔
In this episode, we dive into the deep stuff: emotional immaturity, unhealed trauma, and how we sometimes bleed all over people who didn’t cut us.
It’s raw. It’s real. And it might just be the mirror you didn’t know you needed.

💔 Still Bleeding from Scratches Nobody Sees
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“The body keeps the score... and honey, mine’s been taking notes in bold.”

Episode 11: When the Body Remembers – More on Generational Trauma
Just when you thought we were done, we’re peeling back another layer. In this follow-up episode, Barbara dives even deeper into how generational trauma doesn’t just haunt our minds, it settles into our bodies. From chronic illness to anxiety and autoimmune storms, we talk about how trauma passed down through generations shows up physically and how naming it is the first step to healing it. It’s real, it’s raw, and somehow still funny (because what else can you do but laugh sometimes?). Your nervous system deserves this listen.

I thought I was just tired… turns out, I was carrying three generations of unspoken pain, repressed emotions, and probably my grandma’s unprocessed rage. Oh, and also ... I needed a nap and magnesium. 😂 But for real, your body remembers what your mouth was too scared to say. Healing? It’s messy. But it’s holy.

Episode 10: Breaking the Cycle – Generational Trauma & Women’s Health
🧬 “What your grandmother survived might still be living in your nervous system.”
In this eye-opening episode, Barbara dives deep into the connection between generational trauma and the rise of autoimmune diseases in women. With honesty and heart, she unpacks how the pain we don’t heal can become the burden our bodies carry ... showing up as illness, anxiety, and burnout. It’s raw, real, and packed with truth that every woman needs to hear. Healing starts here.

Autoimmune Association | Awareness, Advocacy & ResearchSomatic Therapy: Benefits, Techniques, and Finding a ProviderWhat is EMDR? - EMDR Institute - EYE MOVEMENT DESENSITIZATION AND REPROCESSING THERAPY

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) - Symptoms and causes - Mayo Clinic

Episode: Hot Flashes, Mood Swings & Mystery Symptoms – Welcome to the Hormone Circus
Perimenopause and menopause: where the Wi-Fi’s glitchy, the body’s confused, and your emotions take you on a rollercoaster you didn’t sign up for. In this laugh-out-loud episode, Barbara pulls back the curtain on the wild ride that is womanhood after 40 ... talking brain fog, night sweats, and that one chin hair with VIP status. It’s hilarious, a little unhinged, and 100% relatable. If you’ve ever cried over a sandwich or threatened someone over the thermostat, sis… this one’s for you.

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Episode: Juggling Loans, Listings & Little League – with Stephanie Rothe
Meet Stephanie Rothe ... lender, ex - realtor, ball mom, and expert plate-spinner haha. In this episode, we dive into what it’s really like wearing all the hats and still trying to find peace in the chaos. From the closing table to the ballfield bleachers, Stephanie shares the funny, the frantic, and the faithful parts of doing it all while keeping her heart grounded. It’s relatable, real, and full of reminders that peace isn’t found in the quiet ... it’s found in the middle of the mess.

Bonus Episode: A Little More on the "Subject"
Get out the tissue... this gets deep and real! Sometimes the story doesn’t end when the episode does. In this bonus drop, Barbara leans in just a little deeper - sharing the moments that tugged her heart and the thoughts that kept her up at night. It’s raw, reflective, and wrapped in wisdom. If you thought the main episode hit home, this one will settle right into your soul. Don’t miss it.

Episode 7: Barbara in the Hot Seat – The Heart, the Hustle & the Humor
This time, the mic flips! Angel J takes over and puts Barbara in the hot seat, and nothing is off limits. It’s real, it’s raw, and it’s ridiculously funny. From deep heartstrings to hard truths, Barbara opens up about life behind the hustle, faith through the fire, and why showing up matters even when it’s messy. You’ll laugh, you’ll feel, and you just might walk away seeing your own story a little clearer.

The Beauty in Becoming

In this heartfelt and soul-stirring episode of Back Porch Confessions, Barbara sits down with her second bestie and wisdom-spitting soul sister, Angel(a) Bailey. They get real about what it means to evolve as a woman, from unlearning old habits, to embracing the uncomfortable stretch of growth. Angel opens up about the battles behind the beauty, the grace in the grit, and how becoming isn't a destination...it's a journey. Raw, honest, and empowering, this is your reminder that who you are becoming is worth the process.