Are you familiar with "The Giving Tree" by Shel Silverstein? Most parents love this book. I read it to my children only once because I found the message disturbing. This mother (the tree) gives and gives until she has nothing left, and her son takes and takes, with no regard for her. Is that how you want to show up for your children and them for you? If not, you'll appreciate this perspective on doing less for everyone else and doing more for you. You have a life and hopefully dreams. You matter.

Foundations: Self-Care, Boundaries, Potential

*Disclaimer* - This content reflects the opinions of Fern Weis. It does not represent, nor is it a substitute for mental health or medical advice.

The Boiled Frog is a short story with a big lesson. It illustrates what it takes for us to see what's really going on in our family, and tips to avoid reaching a crisis point. Preparation is key. I've also included a mini-script you can adapt for your individual situation.

Foundations: Communication, Prevention, Awareness

It's too easy to stay in a bad mood and wallow. Know that it's okay to feel sorry for yourself, and that it's not healthy or helpful to stay there for too long. Here's my #1 tip to get out of your funk faster, and to teach this to your kids.

Foundations: Mental Health, Boundaries, Role Model

DISCLAIMER: These are coaching strategies, and are NOT a substitute for mental health care. If you struggle with anxiety, depression or other mental health issues, please consult with medical/mental health professionals.

People pleasing was my M.O. It meant avoiding conflict at all costs, and impacted all my relationships. Being a people pleaser also affects how you parent, and not in a good way. Enjoy some personal insights into the world of being a PP. You're not alone, and you can change.

Foundations: Relationships, Self-Care

At some point we launch our children into their future and their life is no longer in our hands. The poet-philosopher Kahlil Gibran speaks for all parents in "On Children" (commonly known by the first line, Your Children Are not Your Children). I encourage you to find it online and read along with me. I was introduced to this poem at a difficult time in our family's life, and it spoke deeply and profoundly to me. Stay with me as I share its meaning to me.

Foundations: Relationship Building, Self-Care