You might've noticed that traditional Jews don't hold hands when they're on a date and prospecting for marriage. As a matter of fact, it's common for there to be a physically awkward space between both potential partners when considering such an important life decision. This is also apparent after marriage. When meeting a married person of the opposite sex, and they come from an orthodox background, it's probable that they couldn't shake hands with you when introducing themselves. This practice is called 'Shomer Negiah' which translates to "One observant of touch".
In this episode of Bad Jew, life coach Kevin Nahai discusses the values of Shomer Negiah from the unique angle of being secular. While Kevin does not follow the rules by the book, he carries on the mitzvot of finding a middle ground that makes sense for him and his clients (who are also predominantly secular). Chaz Volk, host of Bad Jew, peels back the layers of this Jewish principal while opening up about personal experiences from his past in hopes to relate to the value.
About Kevin Nahai:
When I was 19 years old, I was suddenly diagnosed with an incurable disease of the stomach that caused me to be unable to eat. Almost overnight, I went from being a bright-eyed college Freshman to being completely despondent and incapacitated. In a flash I lost complete control of my life, and rapidly fell into a dark spiral of depression, anxiety, and severe anorexia.
By the middle of my Freshman year, I was down to 112 pounds of pure skin and bone. I was starving myself, refusing to take my medications, and denying that there was a problem.
By age 20 I felt completely hopeless and helpless. Relationships were out of the question. While everyone around me was having the time of their lives, I was cowering in my dormitory planning a suicide.
After hitting this rock bottom, I had no choice but to make a change and get some professional help. With the support of my family, I began taking accountability, making serious lifestyle changes, and getting healthier.
I made some good friends, became a Personal Trainer, and started helping others. I even got a girlfriend.
I thought I was doing great. But as my girlfriend and I got deeper into our relationship, I quickly learned that I had some real emotional issues in the love department: codependency, unhealthy attachment, and fear of abandonment. And although I was loved, at my core I felt completely unlovable -- and it was showing up in my relationship.
So, back to counseling I went.
I once again had to humble myself and change my behavior. I did the work and began to see real progress. I developed authentic confidence and learned what healthy relationships consist of; I learned how to be happy and at peace; I learned how to have the things I want and want the things I have.
Fast forward after many years of working on myself, I’ve transformed my life inside and out. I believe the final stage of healing is using what you went through in order to help others; so every day, I harness my experiences and teach others how to improve their lives.
Through practical guidance and actionable steps, I will teach you how to love and respect yourself, discover your unique gift, feel fulfilled, and create lasting relationships.
I have an extraordinary life because I was willing to change my thoughts and actions for the better. Now it is your turn.
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