Setting boundaries with people can be deeply scary, so Kami Orange (she/her/hers) is here to guide us through what to say and how to say it. As a recovering(?) people-pleaser, Sophia gets Kami’s advice on specific scenarios where fat & plus-size people often feel like they need to set a boundary but struggle to do so. And then Kami gives Sophia a huge a-ha moment with a few brilliant coaching questions.

Kami Orange is a fat queer autistic white cis woman. Raised in a small cult subset of Mormonism in Utah by religious extremists and leaving home at age 17, she has an eclectic background. Having been everything from a psychic medium to a business consultant, Kami learned through doing how to set kind but direct boundaries as she moved 27x across the United States. After years of getting boundary scripting requests from friends...then friends-of-friends...then friends-of-friends-of-friends, she became a Boundary Coach in February 2020. Almost two years later, Kami has 250k followers on TikTok @kami_orange, clients in 8 countries, and a book on the way! Check out her top 40 favorite boundary phrase flash cards at kamiorange.com for $10.

Connect with Kami on her website and on TikTok.

Sophia reads Advice to Myself by Louise Erdrich on this episode.

All things Fat Joy can be found here…

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatjoy.life/

YouTube: https://youtube.com/@fatjoy

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fatjoypodcast

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fatjoypodcast/

Website: http://www.fatjoy.life

Patreon: http://patreon.com/fatjoy

If you want more conversations like this one, please rate and review us in your podcast player!

And please consider becoming a Patreon supporter of the Fat Joy podcast. For as little as $2 per month, you’ll be helping make all of our work possible and enable us to offer an honorarium to expert guests, which is key to centering marginalized voices.

Deep thanks for their hard work go to Hi Bird Designs and AR Media for keeping this podcast looking and sounding joyful.