In this episode I go over the reasons why making and having money is the #1 solution to ending your burnout.

I've been coaching moms out of burnout for over two years. In today's episode we discuss the main conclusion I've come to.

It's not surprising that money plays a very big part in mom burnout. If you don't have enough money you will be more burned out. If you do have enough, the chances of you banishing your burnout significantly increases.

Tune in to hear my plan for helping moms earn money so they can put an end to their burnout once and for all!

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Moms, the holidays are coming ... ready or not! Now is the time to block off space on your calendar for yourself. I'm calling these blocks of time "Important Meetings" or "Important Appointments" and I'm advising you to schedule them ASAP!

In this episode, I talk about signs I've experienced that burnout is on its way. This is a high risk time of year for Mom Burnout. Be on alert. Be warned. And take advanced precautions by scheduling down time/break time right now -- aka "important meetings" and "important appointments." Get them on your calendar before the holiday craziness gets going. These are blocks of time you're going to use to rest and recover from all of the holiday to dos on the way.

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Money is power and until women have equal control and awareness of their money, they are forfeiting power. In this episode, I shine a light on what I have experienced and what I'm seeing regarding women being disengaged with their money and the reasons why.

My husband was in charge of all of the "money stuff," it was his "department."

I was like an ostrich with my head in the sand when it came to our money matters. And I knew it. I just didn’t have the time, energy or immediate reason to do anything about it.

Happily (refer to episode 4) I straightened this out. How? I got up to speed on my money AND I even hired my own financial advisor who helps me separately from my husband to make sure that I’m always in the loop with my money. But I continue to see this same lack of relationship with money with other women – my clients, my friends, I see it everywhere and I want to shine a light on it.

In truth, this is something that’s been bothering me for a VERY long time. It has to do with an underdiscussed (in my opinion) issue with women and money. Here’s my observation…

Despite how much money a woman has, if she’s not involved in her money, she’s disempowered. And many women are not involved, or at least not involved enough. This leaves them wide open to the risk of not being able to thrive and even survive down the road of their lives.

This is also a big contributor to burnout.

Coaching Referral Mentioned: Stacey Mendelson - Divorce Coach https://lifelinecoaching.ca

Articles Mentioned: Women, Money and Power: The Next Generation (Correction - this article was written in 2017 not 2016 as mentioned in the episode)

The Allianz Women, Money, and Power Study: Empowered and Underserved

Women, Wealth, and Investing - A Story of Evolution

Book & Podcast Recommendations: Rewire for Wealth: Three Steps Any Woman Can Take to Program Her Brain for Financial Success

The Ramsey Show

Money Guy Show

Challenge Questions -

1. Make sure you are aware of all of your accounts, amounts, logins and passwords.
2. Make a list of all of your assets and liabilities.
3. Make a list of the insurances you have and the ones you might be missing.

Please Note: He/She Man/Woman Husband/Wife/Partner are used in this podcast for simplicity, but I welcome and support all gender preferences.

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After realizing the impact of internalized patriarchy (IP) on mom burnout, I have come up with a strategy to deal with it. Join me today as I share this burnout "hack" with you.

Here's what I know about internalized patriarchy:

• It's internal, we cause it
• Men, in general, don't suffer from it.

(Disclaimer: I'm not sure how gender identification plays into this so I am referring to men and women to keep this concept simple - but know I support all forms of gender associations).

Therefore, here is a hack ... find a man or person who does not suffer from internalized patriarchy (I have affectionately termed this person to be your IP partner) and when you find yourself experiencing IP -- pause -- and ask the other person what they would do in this situation. Bam! Now at least you see what's going on and you have some options to find a way out.

Join me for this episode of BMB where I run actual scenarios in my life by my chosen IP partner, my husband Walter, who shines a light on what he would do in each scenario.

IP is a massive cause of burnout. And I'm on a mission to conquer it! Join me!

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Kelly Hollingsworth is a brilliant and masterful coach for coaches.

She has opened my eyes to so many things including internalized patriarchy, the need for equality in the home and how to engage powerfully with others. I have Kelly's guidance to thank for creating this podcast!

In this episode Kelly and I talk about how she is teaching mostly women how to engage powerfully with others and how this helps women make money.

We talk about Type 1 vs Type 2 patriarchy.

We discuss how the way Motherhood is being handled right now is a giant barrier to women earning money.

I am so proud and so honored to be one of Kelly’s coaches and I could not be more excited to share this conversation with you.

To listen to Kelly's How to Make More Money podcast click here (I especially recommend episode 21).

Enjoy!

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Step 4 of Banishing Mom Burnout is stop overmomming and use that time and energy to build your life outside of motherhood. One great way to do this is to read. Read... a lot. Reading is a fantastic way to escape/take a break without going anywhere. You can do it while semi-supervising your kids. You can do it while you wait for your kids at activities. Thanks to one of my favorite things, Audible, you can listen to books while mom taxi-ing all over the place. Reading/listening to books is the best! Reading is also one of the best ways to learn new things and continue to grow as a person, which is so important to prevent burnout!

Any reading is good, but I personally love reading about self-development (kinda my thing).

For today's episode I've selected a few of my recent picks that have helped me with mom burnout. Here are the amazon/audible links:

Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women's Happiness and Fulfillment

Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans

The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control over Their Lives

The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure

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This summer wasn't the restful break I thought it would be, but I learned many valuable lessons that I'd like to share. These are lessons that will help you with parenting and mom burnout.

I sent my kids away this summer and was looking forward to some quality time-off from "momming." What I experienced was a shift from in-person to long-distance momming, as I dealt with two of my kids struggling while away from home.

Coincidentally, I was reading a book called The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure by Jonathan Haidt & Greg Lukianoff.

This book addresses many topics parents need to know about the kids of "Gen Z/I-Gen." I only scratch the surface of the information in the book in this episode; there is so much more. I recommend you read the book yourself, it's well worth the time.

One concept that I found relevant to my summer experience was new to me: "Safetyism." The authors of the book define safetyism as a culture or belief system in which safety (which includes "emotional safety") has become a sacred value, which means that people become unwilling to make trade-offs demanded by other practical and moral concerns.

It is through Safetyism that modern parents are perpetuating fragility in our kids and, ironically, making our kids less safe. In my opinion, the helicopter parenting, overparenting, etc. that goes hand in hand with Safetyism is doing something else: it's exhausting us and burning us out.

In this episode I go over how I personally applied concepts from the book The Coddling of the American Mind to my kids over the summer.

Note: next episode I will be discussing Patriarchy Stress Disorder as written about in the book by Valerie Rein.

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Summer is upon us and it's time to take the ultimate mom break. How? By sending your kids to camp. Preferably sleep away camp. I can't think of a better way to push the escape button on momming. We're talking up to 7 weeks without kids!!!

In this episode I discuss my personal experience deciding to send my kids to sleep away camp. I address the mom guilt that many feel and recommend a book that helped me a lot: Homesick and Happy By: Michael Thompson, PhD

To help even more with the mom guilt relating to outsourcing some momming, we discuss Chapter 15 of "Hunt, Gather, Parent" by Michaeleen Doucleff PhD to review how throughout history humans have turned to others to help raise their kids. This is not a one mom job. It takes a village. If you don't have a village to help you, camp is a great substitute.

Finally, I announce a summer reading assignment: Patriarchy Stress Disorder by Valerie Rein, PhD

I will be taking a break from the BMB podcast for July & August but will return in September when we will talk about Patriarchy Stress Disorder and how, as written on the cover, it is "the invisible barrier to women's happiness and fulfillment."

Have a relaxing summer everyone! See you in September!

-Sabra xo

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As moms, our time and energy is undervalued. We give it away without question. We give our families carte blanche over our schedules, our time, our energy. I know that’s how it was in my house in the past. The kids needed something, they’d ask and I’d drop everything to deliver. Whether they wanted to do an activity, get a ride somewhere, go out to dinner ... they asked and I made it happen. But this approach wasn't sustainable and it led to ... you guessed it ... burnout. I have limited time and energy and if I don't value it then nobody else will. Mom math is a way we can quantify our time so that we can value it more.

Mentioned in the episode:

The 2012 Netflix show "Old Enough" https://www.netflix.com/title/81506279

We take a look at the amazing toddlers featured in the show and discuss how kids are so much more capable than we give them credit for.

Saturday Night Live skit mentioned in the episode: https://youtu.be/VhGTtWsW9F8

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In this episode I talk to my personal Beach Body coach, Hod Rubenstein, about the role that exercise has played in helping her manage her mom burnout and how others can do the same.

Hod Rubenstein knows the way out of Mom Burnout. She introduced me to the power of exercise to manage stress which was my turning point out of burnout.

Join Hod and me for an intimate discussion about how and why exercise has been the key to keeping her sanity throughout motherhood. We take a deep dive into what has officially become Step 1 to banish mom burnout: to lift weights and exercise.

Who is Hod Rubenstein? Hod has been my Beach Body coach since 2017, but more than that she has been a close friend since we were at Tufts University together in the early '90s. Hod later got her Masters in Social Work from Columbia University, became the mother of two amazing kids who are now teens and then ventured into a career in nursing. She has become an accomplished nurse and has continued to be a dear friend. Her perspectives on using exercise to manage the stress of motherhood is what got me through Step 1 of banishing my burnout. I am excited to share her wisdom in this episode.

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© 2022 Sabra Staudenmaier