In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around co-parenting after a bad break up, dating men to make your parents happy and tackling depression and isolation.

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This is a special bonus episode where Astrid run's your host through a pre- tie negotiation as well as a post tie debrief.

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- Shibari 101: Let’s Talk About Japanese Rope Bondage - https://www.autostraddle.com/shibari-101-japanese-rope-bondage-350309/

- Shibari Is a Sex Practice That’s a Lot Like Bondage—but Better - https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a32240707/shibari-definition/

- Speaking BDSM: A Glossary of Terms Used to Describe BDSM - https://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/speaking-bdsm-glossary-terms-used-describe-bdsm/ (Everyday Health)

- 1 in 5 of Your Friends Is Getting Kinky — Should You Be Too? - https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/kinky-sex-bdsm (Healthline)

- Starter Guide to BDSM: Rules, Core Values, and Words You Should Know - https://greatist.com/connect/bdsm-for-beginners#rules (Greatist)

- A Beginner’s Guide To BDSM, According To Sex Educators - https://www.bustle.com/wellness/81383-how-do-i-get-into-bdsm-a-guide-for-beginners-because-the-most-important-thing-you (Bustle)

- How To Properly Choke Your Partner During Sex - Practical tips for mind-blowing breath play - https://medium.com/sexography/how-to-properly-choke-your-partner-during-sex-a730bf49a27e (Medium)

How is rope a form of couple communication? Does rope make Astrid h*rny? Why are old white guys always in the mix with everything?

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- Shibari 101: Let’s Talk About Japanese Rope Bondage - https://www.autostraddle.com/shibari-101-japanese-rope-bondage-350309/

- Shibari Is a Sex Practice That’s a Lot Like Bondage—but Better - https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a32240707/shibari-definition/

- Speaking BDSM: A Glossary of Terms Used to Describe BDSM - https://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/speaking-bdsm-glossary-terms-used-describe-bdsm/ (Everyday Health)

- 1 in 5 of Your Friends Is Getting Kinky — Should You Be Too? - https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/kinky-sex-bdsm (Healthline)

- Starter Guide to BDSM: Rules, Core Values, and Words You Should Know - https://greatist.com/connect/bdsm-for-beginners#rules (Greatist)

- A Beginner’s Guide To BDSM, According To Sex Educators - https://www.bustle.com/wellness/81383-how-do-i-get-into-bdsm-a-guide-for-beginners-because-the-most-important-thing-you (Bustle)

- How To Properly Choke Your Partner During Sex - Practical tips for mind-blowing breath play - https://medium.com/sexography/how-to-properly-choke-your-partner-during-sex-a730bf49a27e (Medium)

Why are friendships so important? How do you navigate casual dating after years of being in serious relationships? What is a sex coach?

In this episode we get to sit with a fave Kgothatso, who is my sweety baby and a whole sex- positive titan to speak about their love, sex and work.

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- Why we need more platonic intimacy in our lives - Scary Mommy - https://www.scarymommy.com/platonic-intimacy-beyond-friendship/

- 18 Stories of Platonic Intimacy to Warm Your Heart - https://greatist.com/connect/examples-of-platonic-intimacy

- What Does A Queerplatonic Relationship Look Like? - https://divethru.com/what-does-a-queerplatonic-relationship-look-like/

- Queerplatonic Relationships - https://lgbtqia.fandom.com/wiki/Queerplatonic_relationship

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around sorting out issues when in a long distance relationship, trying out new things in bed without being pushy and dating a person who wants to also explore with men.

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How does kink bring about community? How do you go from being fucky to fucking right? And is it OK to randomly take off your top in the middle of a recording session?

In this episode I get to sit down with two faves to find out all about their journeys to be the s*x positive bad bads that they are, from navigating intimacy at a young age

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How do you write about s*x and sexuality? What is it like to date a white person? How do you handle group s*x? How should you act in s*x clubs? Are exes sometimes the absolute ghetto? (Yes.)

We sat around and chatted about all things writing, race, books and relationships.

An online conversation between Kim W., Efemia, Nakhane, Roche and your host Tiff around the themes in the book, their experiences with lovin', livin' and sexin' and also being a writer around sex.

TW: Mention of emotional abuse.

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Efemia: @efemiachristiana

Kim: @blazingnonbinary

Nakhane: @nakhaneofficial

Roche: @rochekester

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In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around sending nudes in a new , figuring out where your partner learned that thing they did in bed and having a low s*x drive.

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Is yoni steaming just squatting over hot herbs? How do you heal after an abusive relationship? What is self love coaching and does it involve masturbation?

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Do I have a partner? How did we get together? Have I made her better? (Yes, yes I have) This is Basically...Life: looking at queer sex love and living and I am your host Tiff Mugo bringing you a random garden chat, with my partner of 12 years.

In this episode Tiff sits down with her boo thing and they have a chat.

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Dua Kilifi Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/duakilifi/

Free Touch Manual - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1S2Py-f_ccm1XkdYQcGNnhk-NCNW5r80p/view

For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide / When the Rainbow Is Enuf - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/For_Colored_Girls_Who_Have_Considered_Suicide_/_When_the_Rainbow_Is_Enuf

For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide / When the Rainbow Is Enuf (Book) - https://www.amazon.com/Colored-Girls-Considered-Suicide-Rainbow/dp/0684843269

The Wildness with Tiff & Manda - http://smarturl.it/rd3lo3

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