In this episode of Basically Unbothered, Blake sits down with the brilliant and multitalented Lauren Marie — neuroscientist, creative, and all-around powerhouse for women of color. And listen… we go everywhere. From the ethics of using AI in creative spaces (because yes, we’re side-eyeing some of y’all) to the way celebrity culture can warp our relationship with our own bodies.

We talk about how science and spirituality actually hold hands way more than people think, and how exhausting it is trying to meet society’s ever-changing body expectations. There’s also a moment where we spiral — lovingly — about Adele’s upcoming acting debut and the very chaotic news of a Devil Wears Prada sequel. Plus, we get into Kim Kardashian’s acting in All’s Fair… and let’s just say, opinions were had.

Then we slide right into money mindset — the real kind, not the delusional “just manifest harder, babe” TikTok version. Lauren breaks down how our subconscious beliefs run the show, why consistency is non-negotiable, and how breaking generational patterns isn’t cute Instagram graphics, it’s actual inner work. We also geek out over Ryan Murphy characters, the camp of it all, and how reality TV shapes personal branding more than people admit.

It’s honest, it’s funny, it’s deep, it’s messy-in-a-good-way — basically everything you expect from us.

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In this episode, Gabi and Heiress dive headfirst into the generational chaos we all inherited without signing a contract. We’re talking dissociation as a family pastime, conflict avoidance masquerading as “peace,” and why so many of us learned to shrink ourselves before we ever learned to breathe deeply.

The conversation gets real about how money trauma shows up in adulthood, why looking “put together” is basically survival mode in heels, and how childhood conditioning still tries to run the show when we’re grown and tired. Between astrology tangents, friendship honesty, and calling out the patterns we didn’t realize we were repeating, this episode is equal parts therapy session, comedy hour, and a soft reminder that healing is messy—but we’re doing it anyway.

If you’ve ever looked at your reactions and thought, “Wow… that’s not even mine, that’s my grandma’s,” then pull up a chair. We’re unpacking the baggage our families handed us, and we’re doing it with humor, honesty, and a little bit of delusion to keep us going.

Chapters

00:00 Kendrick’s Grammy Nominations and Industry Dynamics

01:51 Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants Turns 20

03:56 Sydney Sweeney’s Controversial Interview

09:51 Modern Christianity and Its Hypocrisy

18:26 The Delicate Nature of Performance

20:49 Generational Trauma: Breaking the Cycle

22:36 Understanding Childhood Trauma

25:13 Navigating Family Relationships

28:01 The Impact of Secrets and Lies

31:10 Conscious Parenting: A New Approach

01:16:02 Understanding Generational Trauma

01:18:44 The Burden of Expectations

01:19:25 Navigating Identity and Freedom

01:19:25 Body Image and Societal Pressures

01:22:09 Friendship Dynamics and Jealousy

01:22:11 Breaking Generational Trauma

01:24:27 Encouraging Individuality in Parenting

01:26:04 Navigating Emotional Dependencies

01:27:20 Acceptance and Meeting People Where They Are

01:30:00 PureTifa Podcast Video (800 x 800 px).mp4

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In this episode, I’m catching you up on life — the highs, the lows, and the “I’m just trying to make it through the week” in-betweens. We’re talking about mental health, creative burnout, and what it really feels like to keep showing up when anxiety and depression try to steal the spotlight. I get real about my current headspace, dive into the chaos of millennial adulthood, and yes — we’re talking Hilary Duff’s return to music because obviously, that matters. It’s one part therapy session, one part pop culture breakdown, and fully, unapologetically Basically Unbothered.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates

09:26 Creative Projects and Mental Health

19:03 Pop Culture: Hilary Duff and Frankie Muniz

20:56 Ariana Grande’s Hair Transformation

23:33 Reviewing ‘Allsphere’ and Kim Kardashian’s Acting

30:12 Millennials: Education vs. Financial Stability

36:13 The Cost of Conformity

40:58 Navigating Anxiety and Depression

01:07:21 Finding Hope in Struggles

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In this episode, Gabi sits down with author and cultural anthropologist Nikki Auberkett for a fun, thought-provoking dive into everything from culture and creativity to Halloween chaos. They swap stories about how social media has turned spooky season into a full-blown production, unpack how fandoms shape modern myths, and geek out over beloved book series like The Mortal Instruments and A Court of Thorns and Roses. It’s a cozy mix of lit talk, cultural commentary, and laughter — all wrapped up in a reminder that community, creativity, and a little bit of magic keep us connected.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Connection through Literature

10:59 Exploring Anthropology and Storytelling

13:41 Celebrity Halloween Costumes: A Fun Discussion

15:46 Cultural Commentary on Costumes and Representation

18:21 Anthropological Insights on Halloween and Identity

21:01 Reflections on Personal Costumes and Alter Egos

23:35 Anticipation for Upcoming Halloween Events and Media

25:35 Casting Controversies and Public Perception

26:47 The Impact of Current Events on Movie Excitement

27:44 The Challenges of Movie Attendance Today

30:09 Cultural Reflections in Fantasy Literature

31:15 Does It All Add Up? Analyzing Fantasy Lore

32:23 The Mortal Instruments: A Case Study in Storytelling

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Summary

This week’s bonus episode hits close to home. Gabi sits down with her mom, Anicia, for an open and emotional talk about surviving breast cancer — the fear, the faith, the pain, and the plan to live. Recorded during Breast Cancer Awareness Month, the two get real about what it means to fight for your life while still showing up for the people you love. It’s raw, vulnerable, and full of the kind of honesty that reminds you healing isn’t linear — but it is possible.

Takeaways

* Breast cancer awareness is crucial for early detection.

* Personal experiences shape our understanding of health.

* Support from family and community is vital during illness.

* Faith can be a powerful tool in facing health challenges.

* Navigating cancer treatment requires emotional resilience.

* Sharing stories can help others feel less alone.

* It’s important to acknowledge both highs and lows in life.

* Receiving help is as important as giving help.

* Maintaining a positive mindset can aid recovery.

* Every individual’s journey with cancer is unique.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Chit-Chat

03:56 Breast Cancer Awareness Month and Personal Journey

11:00 Diagnosis and Initial Reactions

17:16 Understanding Stage Four Cancer

20:36 The Plan to Live

28:30 Community Support and Coping Strategies

32:30 Navigating Family Challenges and Loss

34:56 Coping with Health Challenges

36:31 The Emotional Toll of Diagnosis

39:05 Miraculous Outcomes and Hope

42:47 Personal Growth Through Adversity

46:32 The Weight of Family Concerns

48:17 Faith and Resilience in Hard Times

54:02 Finding Strength in Community

55:41 Celebrating Highs Amidst the Lows

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Summary

This week, it’s just Blake — raw, reflective, and a little tired, but still showing up. From navigating family chaos and mental health dips to figuring out life one deep breath at a time, she opens up about where she’s been lately and what healing really looks like. In between the real talk, there’s a pop culture rundown featuring Jennifer Aniston’s honesty about infertility, the celebrity takeover of Halloween costumes, and Kim Kardashian’s big podcast moment. It’s messy, emotional, and unfiltered — basically, life.

Takeaways

* Blake is currently navigating personal struggles, including family health issues and mental health challenges.

* The importance of self-care is emphasized, particularly through small acts like getting nails done.

* Jennifer Aniston’s candid discussion about her infertility journey resonates with many women facing similar issues.

* Halloween costumes have become a significant cultural event, showcasing creativity and self-expression among celebrities.

* Blake expresses excitement about the upcoming TV show ‘All’s Fair’ featuring Kim Kardashian.

* Kim Kardashian’s appearance on ‘Call Her Daddy’ reveals insights into her relationship with Kanye West.

* Blake feels overwhelmed by the pressures of life, including financial struggles and family responsibilities.

* The conversation touches on the emotional toll of losing loved ones and the importance of support systems.

* Blake is focused on her upcoming book release but is not planning a big celebration for her birthday.

* The episode concludes with a promise of more intimate conversations and special episodes to come.

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Personal Struggles and Family Challenges

05:35 Pop Culture Roundup: Jennifer Aniston’s Infertility Journey

10:54 Halloween Costumes: A Celebrity Celebration

15:45 Anticipating New Shows: All’s Fair and Kim Kardashian

27:43 Reflections on Relationships and Personal Growth

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Episode Summary:This week on Basically Unbothered, Gabi and Donny dive into everything from morning routines and creative burnout to the messiness of relationships and pop culture chaos. They swap stories about filmmaking, writing, and trying to stay sane while chasing creative dreams. From Harry Potter’s new reboot and No Doubt’s comeback to Meghan and Harry minding their royal business, the conversation flows like a Sunday chat with your smartest, funniest friends.

Of course, it wouldn’t be Basically Unbothered without some pop culture side-eye — this time, they break down Taylor Swift’s latest album (and that one song), the backlash over Bad Bunny’s Super Bowl halftime show, and how celebrity obsession gets weird fast. Plus, a heartfelt talk about what it really means to be a creator in a world that both celebrates and exhausts you.

Basically, it’s art, chaos, caffeine, and cultural critique — all in one unbothered conversation.

Takeaways

* Donny discusses the importance of morning routines for productivity.

* Gabi shares her journey into tea and its calming effects.

* Both speakers reflect on their creative aspirations in filmmaking and writing.

* The conversation touches on the impact of family support in pursuing creative careers.

* They discuss the importance of personal space in relationships.

* Gabi expresses her thoughts on representation in the Harry Potter series.

* The speakers share their excitement about music reunions and residencies.

* They reflect on the public’s perception of celebrity relationships.

* The conversation shifts to the impact of loss in the entertainment industry.

* Gabi shares her thoughts on Taylor Swift’s new album and its reception. Taylor Swift’s music is evolving, but her image remains consistent.

* Sabrina Carpenter’s influence on Taylor Swift’s recent work is notable.

* Cultural reactions to artists like Bad Bunny highlight biases in the music industry.

* The Super Bowl halftime show often overshadows the actual game.

* Indie authors face unique challenges in promoting their work.

* Self-publishing allows for more creative control and faster release times.

* The writing process can be deeply personal and varies for each author.

* Social media presence is crucial for indie authors to connect with readers.

* Finding the right audience is essential for indie authors’ success.

* The journey of writing and publishing can be filled with self-doubt and external pressures.

Chapters

00:00 Morning Routines and Personal Preferences

04:12 Introduction to the Podcast and Guest

05:06 Creative Journeys: Filmmaking and Writing

12:07 The Role of Family in Creative Pursuits

14:29 Passion vs. Profit in Creative Work

17:08 Diversity in Media: Harry Potter TV Series Discussion

23:29 The Twilight Saga and Robert Pattinson’s Impact

24:56 No Doubt’s Las Vegas Residency and Band Reunions

28:48 The Evolution of Iconic Bands and Their Legacy

30:56 The Appeal of Las Vegas Residencies

33:51 Meghan Markle and Prince Harry: Navigating Public Scrutiny

41:52 Reflections on Celebrity Relationships and Personal Space

43:44 Taylor Swift’s New Album and Public Reception

45:26 Taylor Swift’s Musical Evolution

50:39 Cultural Reactions to Super Bowl Halftime Shows

01:01:22 The Power of Music Across Cultures

01:02:24 Celebrating Literary Achievements

01:10:08 Finding Time to Write

01:13:28 The Writing Process and Inspiration

01:18:37 Organization and Neurodivergence in Writing

01:27:59 The Indie Author Journey

01:34:11 Promoting Your Work and Building a Brand

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Summary:This week, Gabi is back with guest Mya and stories, side eyes, and a little chaos. From Mya’s Brazilian adventures (and her ongoing visa saga) to Gabi’s big chop that symbolizes her “new era” energy, the girls get real about embracing change and living life on your own terms. They slide effortlessly from digital nomad confessions and tax loopholes (because yes, that’s a thing) to pop culture breakdowns—Bad Bunny at the Super Bowl, Hilary Duff’s comeback, and all things spooky season. Expect travel talk, a few language lessons, and a reminder that Americans really need to leave the country more often. Basically, it’s giving growth, gossip, and global citizenship—with vibes.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Travel Tales

03:11 Catching Up: Life in Brazil

08:43 Personal Changes: Hair and Identity

12:08 Pop Culture Roundup: Celebrity Relationships

17:50 Bad Bunny and the Super Bowl Controversy

28:11 The Phonetics of Names and Apps

29:29 Spooky Season Anticipations

31:40 Halloween Traditions and Celebrations

33:23 Nostalgic Halloween Movies

35:25 Pop Culture Roundup: Hilary Duff’s Comeback

49:49 Understanding the Digital Nomad Lifestyle

54:47 Navigating Taxes and Health Insurance Abroad

56:54 Exploring the State of the US and Personal Utopias

59:40 Redefining Work and Life Balance

01:04:16 The Freedom of Remote Work and Non-Traditional Lifestyles

01:07:52 Living Arrangements for the Digital Nomad

01:11:14 Embracing Change and Reinventing Oneself

01:14:20 Advice for Aspiring Digital Nomads

01:17:25 Cultural Exploration and Personal Experiences

01:21:11 The Joy of Traveling and Future Plans

01:24:05 PureTifa Podcast Video (800 x 800 px).mp4

Takeaways

* Gabi discusses her recent trip to Brazil and visa issues.

* Mya shares her experiences as a digital nomad in Brazil.

* The conversation touches on personal changes, including Gabi’s new haircut.

* They discuss the significance of celebrity relationships in pop culture.

* The hosts reflect on the impact of Bad Bunny’s Super Bowl performance announcement.

* They emphasize the importance of language learning and cultural awareness.

* Mya shares her thoughts on the challenges of being an American traveler.

* Gabi expresses her feelings about the media’s portrayal of celebrities.

* The hosts discuss the complexities of sharing personal relationships on social media.

* They reflect on the evolution of their own hair journeys and identities. The phonetics of names can lead to interesting debates.

* Spooky season brings excitement for movie nights.

* Nostalgia plays a big role in Halloween traditions.

* Hilary Duff’s return to music is highly anticipated.

* Digital nomads often face challenges of loneliness and constant change.

* Traveling full-time can be freeing and adventurous.

* Home can be a fluid concept for digital nomads.

* Celebrating Halloween varies greatly by culture.

* Movies from childhood can evoke strong memories.

* The importance of community and connections while traveling. A significant reason for not traveling to the US is tax benefits.

* Living abroad can provide substantial savings on health insurance.

* Traveling allows for a broader perspective on life and culture.

* The importance of finding a work-life balance that suits individual needs.

* Living arrangements can vary greatly for digital nomads, from co-living spaces to Airbnbs.

* Reinventing oneself is a continuous process that can lead to personal fulfillment.

* Trying out the digital nomad lifestyle doesn’t require giving up everything.

* Cultural experiences can be found in many places, not just traditional tourist spots.

* Meeting new people while traveling can enhance the experience.

* Traveling can be a way to explore different lifestyles and find what works best.

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Summary

This week, Gabi sits down with Davonna Hytower for a ride through all the things we love to love (and side-eye). From nostalgic TV reunions that make us feel like kids again, to the chaos and culture of modern music festivals like Coachella, they cover it all. The conversation hits on celebrity headlines—yes, Rihanna’s new baby included—before diving into the ever-shifting world of books: what’s trending, what’s tired, and how we deal with problematic tropes and authors. At the heart of it, it’s about holding artists (and ourselves) accountable, while still enjoying the messy, magical world of creativity.

Takeaways

* Gabi hates being cold and prefers warmer environments.

* Davonna keeps her thermostat at 68 degrees year-round.

* Smoothies are a convenient and healthy option for both hosts.

* Gabi prefers to do errands on her off days, especially Sundays.

* Order pickup is a time-saving strategy for grocery shopping.

* Grocery shopping can be stressful when fulfilling specific requests for others.

* Gabi shares her experience with grocery delivery services and their challenges.

* Davonna is excited about her final semester and capstone project in library science.

* Diversity in literature is important, and representation matters in academia.

* The reunion of Dawson’s Creek highlights the show’s impact and emotional connections. Reunions in TV shows evoke nostalgia and community.

* Coachella’s lineup reflects the changing music scene.

* The festival experience can be overwhelming and unappealing.

* Ticket prices for concerts have significantly increased over the years.

* Celebrity parenthood often comes with public scrutiny.

* Literary trends can be polarizing among readers.

* Character development is crucial for engaging storytelling.

* Problematic tropes in literature can perpetuate harmful narratives.

* Authors have a responsibility to their audience and the messages they convey.

* Accountability is essential for artists in today’s social climate.

Chapters

00:00 Cold Weather Preferences and Thermostat Wars

02:06 Smoothie Talk and Amazon Shopping

04:40 Time Management and Errand Running

07:45 Grocery Shopping Experiences and Delivery Services

10:33 Podcasting Journey and Business Ventures

13:28 Hobbies and Creative Pursuits

16:20 Concert Experiences and Emotional Connections

19:12 Life Updates: Car Accidents and School Projects

21:45 Pursuing Education in Library Science

24:45 Diversity in Literature and Personal Experiences

27:40 Film Discussions and Industry Insights

30:46 The Struggles of the DC Universe

31:18 Selena Gomez’s Secret Wedding

32:30 Beauty Standards and Relationships

34:38 Dating Preferences and Physical Traits

37:30 Makeup and Authenticity

39:12 Celebrity Relationships and Authentic Love

40:22 Dawson’s Creek Reunion and Nostalgia

46:38 Coachella Lineup and Celebrity Culture

55:51 Rihanna’s New Baby and Privacy in Fame

58:55 Celebrating New Beginnings

01:01:51 Literary Preferences and Pet Peeves

01:05:35 Character Dynamics in Literature

01:08:41 The Impact of Problematic Tropes

01:14:06 Navigating Author Accountability

01:26:54 The Complexity of Art and Intent

01:33:43 PureTifa Podcast Video (800 x 800 px).mp4

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Summary

Gabi kicks off the new Basically Unbothered format with guests Ivy and Don. Life updates? Check—Gabi’s dog adoption chaos included. Pop culture? We’ve got Twilight drama and Kanye’s latest antics. Then it gets real: representation of Black trans women, age gaps in books, and how Hollywood handles our faves. Plus, Ivy, Don, and Gabi dive into polyamory, queer identity, and what family really looks like—unfiltered, honest, and basically unbothered.

Takeaways

* This is the first episode of the Basically Unbothered podcast.

* Ivy identifies as a cosplaying, poly, pan princess.

* Don is an author, speaker, and activist.

* Gabi shares her hectic week and dog adoption experience.

* The conversation touches on the new Twilight special edition release.

* Kanye West’s documentary highlights his struggles with mental health.

* The discussion includes the importance of representation in media.

* Age gaps in literature are examined through popular book series.

* The House Made by Frieda McFadden is being adapted into a movie.

* Miss International Queen USA highlights the challenges faced by black trans women. Empowerment comes from self-protection and self-acceptance.

* Navigating queer identity can be challenging but is essential for personal growth.

* Polyamory is distinct from polygamy and requires ethical considerations.

* Parenting in a polyamorous relationship is possible and can be fulfilling.

* Open communication is crucial in maintaining healthy relationships.

* Compersion, or finding joy in a partner’s happiness, is a valuable emotional skill.

* Honesty with children about relationships fosters trust and understanding.

* Family dynamics can be redefined beyond traditional structures.

* It’s important to embrace the spectrum of relationships and personal identities.

* Self-awareness and understanding one’s needs are key to successful relationships.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Basically Unbothered Podcast

02:42 Meet the Guests: Ivy and Don

05:33 Catch-Up: Personal Updates and Dog Stories

08:28 Pop Culture Roundup: Twilight Special Edition

10:43 Kanye West Documentary Discussion

12:44 Practical Magic 2 and Other Sequels

15:34 Reflections on Age Gaps in Relationships

26:49 Nostalgia for Inuyasha and Parenting Themes

29:36 Book Discussions: The House Made and Its Adaptation

35:24 Exploring Morally Gray Characters in Literature

37:27 Miss International Queen USA: Celebrating Diversity

44:01 Polyamory vs. Cheating: Understanding Relationship Dynamics

55:05 The Dynamics of Polyamorous Parenting

57:46 Navigating Relationships and Communication

01:00:48 Understanding Compersion and Emotional Growth

01:05:51 Honesty and Openness in Polyamorous Families

01:16:04 Redefining Family Structures and Societal Norms

01:21:08 PureTifa Podcast Video (800 x 800 px).mp4

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