BDSM United Podcast

You know, it’s an amusing thing, the stereotype: the thigh-high boots, the fishnet stockings, the corset, the riding crop, the smirking smile. But that’s how some people still think of the Dominant Woman. Likely as not, unless you’re one of her chosen, you’ll never know who is one and who is not. She rarely fits the stereotypes you imagine.

We often hear people (usually men) claiming Dominant Women are rare. In our experience, this is not true. We encounter many women who would enjoy dominating men if they could find one who meets their needs. Being a Male submissive may not be what you think it is at all. There are very few men who understand what a Dominant woman is looking for, what she actually wants.

One of the most confusing parts of this lifestyle for many people is the toys we use. A person may look at some of the toys and think to themselves, does someone actually enjoy that? For others, the idea is extremely exciting and they can't wait to try it. Today we are discussing many of the different types of oils and ointments used during BDSM play. We also tell you the risks involved and how to safely use them. 

This exercise in our Sex Magick podcast series is a bit like a Kundalini working. This simple but powerful practice offers deep somatic benefits such as discharging stagnant energy, stimulating lymphatic circulation, reducing stress, releasing trauma, and increasing an overall sense of well-being. If you have PTSD or tend to dissociate, be extra mindful that this practice is done with a felt sense of the body and present awareness.

One of the most confusing parts of this lifestyle for many people is the toys we use. A person may look at some of the toys and think to themselves, does someone actually enjoy being hit with that? For others, the idea is extremely exciting and they can't wait to try it. In this episode we talk about erotic spanking including the various positions, techniques, and sensations involved.

Although this is specifically not a sexual practice or a place to pick up potential partners, it is very effective for opening erotic channels throughout your body that lead to greater embodied awareness. Ultimately, ecstatic dance will put you in touch with your humanity by getting you out of your head and into your heart. Keep moving. Push through your limitations and be curious about what is on the other side. Allow the energy to move through you.

This next exercise in our Sex Magick series are simple but powerful techniques that can help you increase sexual mindfulness and decrease sexual anxiety. You’ll learn to shift from having a goal orientation in lovemaking to being in the moment. During all stages of sensate focusing, the focus is on sensations, and the exercise may be stopped or slowed down if either partner becomes anxious or orgasm focused.

One of the most confusing parts of this lifestyle for many people is the toys we use. A person may look at some of the toys and think to themselves, does someone actually enjoy being hit with that? For others, the idea is extremely exciting and they can't wait to try it. There are all kinds of toys available to be used and each one gives a different sensation. In the episode we talk about paddles, crops, and straps. We discuss the different types, how they feel and how to use them. If you watch us on YouTube you can see items from our personal collection.

Divination is the art of seeking hidden knowledge by the aid of supernatural powers. Sacred objects are used to gain answers to questions or to foretell the future. In this exercise, your eros is used as a divination tool in place of a crystal ball, dowsing rod, or tea leaves. You can practice with a partner or partners, as long as everyone is in the purest state of surrender and service before engaging in this work.

One of the most confusing parts of this lifestyle for many people is the toys we use. A person may look at some of the toys and think to themselves, does someone actually enjoy being hit with that? For others, the idea is extremely exciting and they can't wait to try it. There are all kinds of toys available to be used and each one gives a different sensation. In the episode we talk about floggers, different types, how they feel and how to use them. If you watch us on YouTube you can see items from our personal collection.