BDSM United Podcast

What I commonly find is that many people's online FetLife profiles don't match the identity listed by their name. Not to mention the vast majority of people that don't even fill the profile out! We share our own tips to writing a profile that matches your identity as consistently as possible. We also share advice from Dating Kinky expert Nookie.

Vetting a potential play partner an old school practice in BDSM that gets ignored too often in today’s meet-online-first world. Before you get kinky with someone for the first time, do your homework on who this person is instead of just taking their word for it.

As we move from Libra season in the season of Scorpio, a heightened sense of the drama of life, both in a philosophical and personal sense, leads to an increased awareness of the dynamics of one's own existence. A highly critical attitude emerges that cuts away careless generalizations and sloppy thinking, and aims for the essence of truth. Based on the book "The Secret Language of Relationships" by Gary Goldschneider and Joost Elffers. https://amzn.to/3QbMqbX

Several years ago there was an internal push within the kink community to erase "Top and bottom" by those who erroneously stated "You're not real unless you are into D/s!!" Today we dispel that myth and give a crash course on Topping and Bottoming.

The formal lifestyle is filled with traditions and ceremonies that are seldom witnessed by the outside world and perhaps one of the most moving and meaningful is the "bonding ritual" or Ceremony of the Roses. This ceremony is steeped in symbolism and mystique. Today we explore this beautiful ritual together!

Do you have a spirit of submission, that is an aura or an essence of it? Is submission just something you do or is it also part of your inner being? If being a submissive is your identity, you should be developing submission in your heart. Today we give you two practical exercises you can do to immediately begin to develop your submissive identity.

When beginning a power exchange dynamic in a new or existing relationship, it is usually helpful to have a series of discussions in order to form a Training Contract. Today we give you tips for creating them and help ease the anxieties surrounding making relationship contracts.

Consistency is great for an identity within a power exchange relationship. As long as those involved have the good character and willingness to make the relationship work, consistent structure will work for them. But consistency is bad for fetishes, kinks, and sexual expressions. There is a time and a place for those things.

We find ourselves in a middle path between Tradition and Innovation trying to do a power exchange relationship that is both modern yet respectful of traditions. How do we tell that we are being successful in those goals? What can we use to measure success? Today we talk about the hidden key to it all.

Today we look for a middle path somewhere between traditional BDSM and TNG. Because we can't go back in time and yet we want to honor what has already been built and passed along to us. "Having a good idea of what has been tried in the past is an enormous asset, but it has to be combined with a willingness to adapt the lessons of the past to the needs of the ever-changing present. A body of knowledge that remains absolutely fixed over time, incapable of absorbing new lessons and insights, is not a tradition but a corpse." -John Michael Greer