If you are situationally reactive and think that yelling at your kids is going to build character think again. Discipline means to teach and it's a process that parents, teachers, and even children need to go through. Discover the three behaviors that need to be developed in all children and how to get children to be compliant and do what they are told to do when they are told to do it. This is a must listen for parents and teachers. 

The New 3R's In Education: Respect, Responsibility, and Relationships

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 When you are an effective teacher, your teaching takes hold, and your students slowly but surely learn from you, and the learning is permanent. Remember, too much too fast won’t last. It is much better to spend 10 days teaching one skill that your students will be able to use for a lifetime, than teaching 10 different skills in 10 days that your students will forget the day after you taught them. The problem that you may be faced with is being expected to move quickly through an overly ambitious curriculum. If you have the sense that your students have not grasped a concept, then spend more time on it. 

When you are efficient, you have the ability to take care of the day to day administrative paperwork that seems to be never ending such as attendance, grading papers, your grade book, your lesson plans, etc. in an efficient manner. Administrative items must be dealt with efficiently so that you are freed up to teach. Understanding the difference between being effective and being efficient will help you understand what is important and what you need to devote their time to. Listen in as Jim breaks down the difference between the two. 

The Bully Proof Classroom

We all know that bullies are motivated by power. They love to impose their power on those that are weaker and who are different. Victims on the other hand are motivated by revenge. When we strengthen the victims of bullying we help build their confidence and give them the opportunity stand up for themselves and become resilient. But, a victim left to themselves doesn't have the skills to stand up to a bully, and emotionally manage difficult situations. They then become angry, and bitter and need to take out their rage on someone or something. Join Jim as he walks you through the process. Take notes. 

The Vortex Of Violence

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Bullies have a keen eye and can zero in on a victims rather quickly. They look for weaknesses and differences in the victim that can be used to berate, belittle, and harass. So what are some of these characteristics, and how can we as teachers and parents proactively work with our students and children to help them become more aware of their behavior. No one deserves to be bullied so let's help the victim gain an understanding of what steps they can take to develop more confidence and resiliency. 

We all know that kids need to develop resiliency and confidence. To just tell them to stand up for yourself or face your fears doesn't help Here are 10 concrete things that kids need to do if they are being bullied. I have included a link for Strengthening The Victim Of Bullying (online course) below. 

Strengthening The Victims Of Bullying

All conflict has to be finished. Who we finish it with can be a problem. If we have had unresolved conflict with out parents it has to be finished with them; not our boss, spouse or any significant other. Finish what was started in order to achieve lifelong peace and success. 

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The brain learns best at certain times in a person's life. The younger the better. These are called windows of opportunity. The Social and Emotional Window of Opportunity opens between 2 and 30 months. If closes around the age of 5. We need to take advantage of this time and build children up so they don't have to be mended as adults. 

I am not a doctor or a psychologist but I do have my thoughts on why young kids are getting more and more anxious by the day. It could be medical, organic, or environmental for sure. My thoughts, our kids have to learn how to deal with, disappointment, and discomfort at times. If we do too much for them when they are young, they will always feel less capable then they really are. As kids get older responsibilities only increase, they don't decrease. So the bed that a 4 year old is making helps set the stage for their future success as an adult. Greater Responsibility can mean Less Anxiety. 

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Three things that anyone can do to make someone feel special or to build any relationship. They're not hard and when practiced they can help make the world a more kind and caring place. Join Jim for this short podcast on what we can do to make positive contributions to the climate of the world in which we live. 

We help inspire and motivate other when we do some of the little things in life. Sometimes just a smile will do it. Join Jim as he explains why the little things are the big things, and why they communicate the love and respect that others may need just at the right time. 

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