Becoming Her: Raw & Real

By Joyce Kelly & Mary Nastukov

We are two widows on a mission to shatter the stigma of "the good Christian girl." No topic is off limits. Our hope is to help women solidify their identity and self-worth in Christ and become wome

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How many episodes does Becoming Her: Raw & Real have?

The podcast currently has 40 episodes available.

Becoming Her: Raw & Real episodes:

November 04, 2022 Episode 10: Woman Erased
We are living in a culture that doesn't make sense. So often we get frustrated and fire back. But is that how we SHOULD respond to a hurting world? Yes, we as Christians need to stand up for biblical truth, but what is the right way?

In today's episode we will focus on one hard topic in particular: the "erasing" of the words "woman" and "mom" from our society's vocabulary. Is there a need for separate genders? Why? What's the big deal? Is there a reason for our specific gender roles?

Listen in and tell us your thoughts...
RESOURCES:

Lioness Arising by Lisa Bevere: https://www.messengercourses.com/lioness-arising
Kristi McCulland Ezra Kingdo: https://youtu.be/qoJoU_L3_SE

CONTACT/FOLLOW US:
Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com

CONTACT/FOLLOW US:

Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com
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38min
October 21, 2022 Episode 09: Walking Through Grief as a Family (With Grant Kelly & Sydney White)
Walking through grief is hard enough alone. As moms, we also carry the weight of our children's grief and we often wonder if we're doing enough.

How do we talk with our children about their feelings?
How do they really feel when they lose someone they love at such a young age?
What do we need to do to minimize their trauma and help them heal?

In today's episode, we have the privilege to speak with Joyce's two children about their own journey of grief after losing their father, Ron Kelly. Our hope is that this helps other parents understand the often hidden feelings of their children (and vice versa) as they walk through this truly difficult time together.

CONTACT/FOLLOW US:
Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com

CONTACT/FOLLOW US:

Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com
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57min
October 14, 2022 Episode 08: Christian Women Building Wealth
Conversations about money have always been hard. We all have our own fears and obstacles when it comes to money and often these feelings will determine how we manage (and multiply) it.

In this episode, we will discuss the money mindset as believers. Why is tithing so important? What does God say about women building wealth? Are you willing to trust God? Are you walking in fear and making money an idol? What about those Christians living in huge houses and driving luxury cars?

CONTACT/FOLLOW US:
Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com

RESOURCES:
Scripture References
1 Timothy 6:10
Habbakkuk 2:2

CONTACT/FOLLOW US:

Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com
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30min
October 07, 2022 Episode 07: XXX - Let's Talk About Sex & Porn
It's time to get REALLY real and raw about a pretty difficult and very secret struggle.

Is watching porn ever ok?
What should or shouldn't we allow in the bedroom of our marriage?

We live in a culture that glorifies sex, women and the narrative that it is ok to satisfy every desire. The world of pornography has changed from having to GO OUT to get it, to CLICK A BUTTON to get it, in the privacy of our homes. It’s a billion dollar industry, so money seems to be the driving force. Are we over-thinking it?

Over 40 million Americans regularly visit porn sites. Many, actively involved in the church!
1 in 5 youth pastors and 1 in 7 senior pastors struggle with pornography.

It seems to be no big deal... but is it?

Has culture got it wrong?
Does it really affect our relationships?
Does it damage our relationship with God?
Can we really find freedom?

Before we go any further, know that there is NO judgement or condemnation. We ALL struggle or have struggled with something that we have not fully surrendered.

Join us as we use God’s word as our plumb line to dive into difficult boundaries and the importance of accountability. This doesn’t mean we won’t be tempted, this doesn't mean that we won't struggle, but it does mean we are able to live a life of an overcomer!

CONTACT/FOLLOW US:
Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com

RESOURCES:
Scripture references
1 John 2:16
1 Cor. 6:12
Phil 4:8
Prov. 6:25-28
Matt 5:28
Eph. 4:19

Jackie Hill Perry: https://JackieHillPerry.com
Matt Droguett: https://MattDroguett.teachable.com
For Women Only: God's Design for Female Sexuality and Intimacy by Dr. Shay Roop
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0899571352/ref=cm_sw_r_api_i_PMAFD3MVJZ67TKQZN8F6_0

CONTACT/FOLLOW US:

Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com
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43min
September 30, 2022 Episode 06: Dating - Friends Without Benefits
So you've decided that you're ready to date. Now what?

Can you date AND honor God?
Why would you want to?
Is it even possible?
What is the benefit of going it God’s way?

Joyce & Mary chat about the challenges of meeting someone, connecting once you've met, and having same sex friendships once you're in a relationship.
In a culture that shouts "DO WHAT YOU WANT, WHEN YOU WANT, HOW YOU WANT," it can be challenging waters to navigate. God had clearly given us tools that will help us traverse the waters of the dating world.

If you desire a life that is God-honoring, join us as we get raw and real about the need for boundaries, to set intentions beforehand and the importance of accountability.
CONTACT/FOLLOW US:
Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com

RESOURCES:
"Undressed" by Jason Illian
https://www.amazon.com/Undressed-Naked-Truth-about-Dating/dp/0446526746

"Can Guys & Girls be Just Friends?" Heather Lindsey
Article: http://heatherllindsey.com/2012/01/can-guys-girls-be-just-friends.html/
Youtube: https://youtu.be/eos9bmcnqgQ

"Life with the Lindsey's - Ep. 58 - Boundaries and the Blocked Button
https://youtu.be/VldUBhK8U34
CONTACT/FOLLOW US:

Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com
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43min
September 23, 2022 Episode 05: Dating - Are You Ready?
We are shifting gears a bit this episode and and talk about something that many of us are asking ourselves this very moment.... How do I know when I'm ready to date?

Whether you're a teenager with a crush, a young adult with a ticking clock, a seasoned single or a divorcee/widow that has been there, done that, got the t-shirt... we have some thoughts to help you make that decision for yourselves. AND, do it God's way, EVEN though we don't always feel like it.

CONTACT/FOLLOW US:
Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com

RESOURCES:
Madi Prewett - madiprew.com
Insta: @jackiehillperry
Insta: @refugewidowers
CONTACT/FOLLOW US:

Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com
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39min
September 16, 2022 Episode 04: Help Me Help You (Through Your Grief)
Every single one of us has experienced loss to some extent in our lives. Whether the loss is a job, a relationship or the death of a loved one, grief is always hard and messy. But it should never be awkward or shameful.

In this episode, we will not only share what healthy grieving REALLY looks like, but how you can help someone walking through grief right now. Our hope is to equip you with a better understanding of the grief process so that you don't have to feel helpless as a friend or family member, or misunderstood and alone as the one grieving.

CONTACT/FOLLOW US:
Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com

RESOURCES:

GriefShare: https://www.griefshare.org
CONTACT/FOLLOW US:

Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com
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42min
September 11, 2022 Episode 03: Marriage From a Widow's Perspective
Today we are chatting about marriage from a widow's perspective. If you lost your husband tomorrow, what would you regret? We know marriage can be hard, but some days you just get tired. How do you "do the work" to provide the best atmosphere of healing in your home so that you can have the marriage you desire without regret?

As two women who have lost our husbands, the idea of "hard" looks much different. We all know that hindsight is 20/20, so Joyce & Mary each share 3 things they would change if they could go back and do things better.

We are chatting about fun, finances, sex, self-healing, building trust and conflict resolution...

Let's go!

CONTACT/FOLLOW US:
Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com

RESOURCES:
Ephesians 4:2-3 - Peace & unity
Ephesians 5:21 - Submit to one another
Proverbs 27:17 - Iron Sharpens Iron
Philippians 4:8 - Focus on the good
Revelation 12:11 - We overcome by the blood of the Lamb and the power of our testimony.

"Power of a Praying Wife" by Stormie Omartian
https://www.amazon.com/s?k=the+power+of+a+praying+wife+book&crid=19P2DYN4T12OQ&sprefix=the+power+of+a+praying+wife+book%2Caps%2C166&ref=nb_sb_noss_1

Beating 50 percent: https://www.beating50percent.com

Mary's Conflict Resolution Tool & "Loving the Unloveable Husband" course release: subscribe to Mary's updates at www.marynastukov.com

Love & Respect (The Crazy Cycle): https://www.loveandrespect.com/blog/the-crazy-cycle-why-we-negatively-react

The Love Dare: https://kendrickbrothers.com/product/the-love-dare/

Dave Ramsey (Finances): https://www.ramseysolutions.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjwguGYBhDRARIsAHgRm4-7nDLmzn0l-YNov060ZfO9EJRMtjxDWqqLeHI5G9_hiP7L_n1OSTQaAm-1EALw_wcB

CONTACT/FOLLOW US:

Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com
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34min
September 10, 2022 Episode 02: Digging Up Your Dirt
In today's conversation on Becoming Her: Raw & Real, we ask the question, why does it take courage to heal? Joyce's answer is simple: grief requires an excavation of self.
In the dictionary, the word "excavation" is an unearthing, uncovering, and revealing of something under the surface. In an archaeological dig, it require exposure, processing and recording of what remains.
So how do we know if we are broken? And if we ARE broken, where do we even begin to process and heal? Is this "excavation of self" even worth it?
The short answer is yes. Let God build back beautiful.
CONTACT/FOLLOW US:

Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com
RESOURCES:
Galatians 5:22 The Fruits of the Spirit
Isaiah 51:5 Deliverance & Excavation
Psalm 13:5 I will trust in your unfailing love
Psalm 13:6 The Lord has been good to me
Deliverance Ministry
Christian Therapy
GriefShare https://www.griefshare.org
Celebrate Recovery https://www.celebraterecovery.com
Alanon https://al-anon.org
Dr. Carolyn Leaf https://drleaf.com
The Grieving Brain by Mary Frances O’Connor PhD
https://www.amazon.com/Grieving-Brain-Surprising-Science-Learn-ebook/dp/B093ZZ7HZY/ref=nodl_?dplnkId=5e6d14aa-bea6-4735-b405-c801369c36a9
CONTACT/FOLLOW US:

Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com
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38min
September 09, 2022 Episode 01: Falling Apart & Following Jesus
During today's conversation on Becoming Her: Raw & Real, we are going to ask the question, "Can you fall apart AND follow Jesus at the same time?” The world that we are living in is delivering some hard blows. No one is exempt. So how can we follow Jesus when we are falling apart? Is God ok with that?

In the worst moments of your lives where do we go to find direction?
Where do YOU go when your world is falling apart?
What role does the Word of God play?
Does community help?

We will tackle the real reality of dredging through the darkness and find Jesus sitting right there with us. Through His word and God’s community you can walk through your deepest loss and come out stronger.
Keep showing up! God will meet you where you are. Wrestle it out with God (He can handle it) Choose daily surrender and keep going in the strength you have.
Lesson 1: Build the discipline to be in the Word daily. You will fail and that’s ok. Keep trying. Dust off your Bible and try again.
Lesson 2: Build a community. They will be your support system. Serve. Get into small groups. Connect. Consistently. It’s not a feeling it’s a choice.
Lesson 3: Keep showing up.

CONTACT/FOLLOW US:
Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com

CONTACT/FOLLOW US:

Follow Joyce:
https://www.joycekelly.net
https://www.iamfreedomgirl.com

Follow Mary:
https://marynastukov.com
https://www.withloveanonymous.com
...more
46min

FAQs about Becoming Her: Raw & Real:

How many episodes does Becoming Her: Raw & Real have?

The podcast currently has 40 episodes available.