Becoming Me

EPISODE 49   

When we lack integration in our own identity, we do not have the power to love ourselves or others well. The work of interior integration helps us to love not only much but also love others well.

In this episode I share how inner child healing helped grow my capacity to love others well:
- Made me more self-aware of when I was using connection with others to avoid connecting with myself
- Helped me to stop shape-shifting in relationships
- Helped me learn to recognise where healthy boundaries are and act on them

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CHAPTER MARKERS
(00:00:19) - Introduction
(00:02:46) - Three Ways Inner Child Healing Made Me Better at Loving Well
(00:03:08) - 1. Awareness of my Reasons to Reach Out
(00:08:42) - 2. I Stopped "Shapeshifting"
(00:14:46) - 3. Drawing Healthier Boundaries
(00:25:05) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act
(00:25:05) - Summary
(00:27:36) - Conclusion
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TRANSCRIPT
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REFLECTION PROMPT
Listen.
- When you were listening to my sharing in this episode, which points maybe struck you most?
- What resonated with you?

Ponder.
- Which of the three points do you struggle most with in your own relationship with others?

Act.
- Write down in your journal what it is you struggle with. 
- What is it about this specific relationship that you can do to make it healthier?
- Think of one specific relationship where you're struggling with drawing boundaries.
- Write down how exactly you're struggling with boundaries in that relationship.
- Let what you've written down then be an impetus to encourage you to continue to take a next step in your interior healing journey.

For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.

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EPISODE 48

Have you ever felt the frustration and bewilderment of why your love for someone pushes them away or why your beloved feels harmed by your best intentions?

Loving Much ≠ Loving Well. We can love much and harm ourselves and others if we do not also learn how to love well.

In this episode I share how loving well is something we simply cannot do unless we heal and integrate our core selves from the unconscious traumas we may have accumulated in our lives. 
 
You can find the video of the original sharing (without introduction and praxis)  from this episode on YouTube here.

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CHAPTER MARKERS
(00:00:23) - Introduction
(00:06:09) - Loving Much VS Loving Well
(00:08:35) - What Does Loving Well Look Like?
(00:14:26) - Do I Really Need Expert Help?
(00:21:47) - Our Core Self
(00:26:25) - An Invitation
(00:28:53) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act
(00:33:44) - Conclusion
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TRANSCRIPT
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REFLECTION PROMPT
Listen.
- As you listened to my sharing earlier, was there anything that particularly resonated with you? What was it?

Ponder.
- Can think of an instance in which you feel that you have loved much?
- What relationship comes to mind?

Act.
- In what way may you have loved poorly this person that you love very much?
- List one or two ways that you suspect you're not loving him or her well. What is it?

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EPISODE 47         

Have you ever experienced a dissonance between knowing that you are loved and really FEELING that you are loved in your body? For the longest time I used to think there was something wrong with me because I couldn't really experience the love that I cognitively believed God loved me with.

In this episode I share about why this dissonance existed and how inner child healing finally helped me to bridge that gap. Inner child work was the practical healing I didn't know I needed to help me experience God's love for me - and my love for myself - in an embodied way.

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RESOURCES
How To Know If You Have Experienced Trauma
Why Your Family of Origin Impacts Your Life More Than Anything Else

CHAPTER MARKERS
(00:00:16) - Introduction
(00:02:36) - Our Image of God
(00:04:05) - Dissonance Between my Intellect & Body
(00:14:13) - Recall Memory VS What our Bodies Remember
(00:21:49) - Reparenting my Inner Child
(00:30:49) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act
(00:35:06) - Conclusion
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TRANSCRIPT
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REFLECTION PROMPT
Listen.
- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, was there anything in today's sharing that really resonated with you?

Ponder.
- Have you ever experienced a dissonance between a reality your brain tells you is true, and how your body feels about it?

Act.
- Write down one or two ways in which you have experienced this kind of dissonance between what your mind tells you and what your body feels.
- Write down what it is that you cognitively believe versus what the reactions of your body is telling you about what you actually believe.
- Do not reject or minimize what your emotion, or your body is trying to say to you, don't try to push it down or rationalize it away.

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EPISODE 46 

Just what kind of impact can healing your inner child make in your life? In this follow-up episode to the interview with Dr Jean Cheng, I share about three ways that inner child healing helped me increase my capacity for authenticity and integrity by:

- Helping me to stop second-guessing myself;
- Helping me to stop people-pleasing;
- Helping me grow my moral courage to use my voice and stand by my choices calmly

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CHAPTER MARKERS
(00:00:21) - Introduction
(00:01:32) - How Inner Child Healing Made Me More Myself
(00:02:30) - 1. Trusting My Intuition & Judgment
(00:09:10) - 2. Less People-Pleasing
(00:14:49) - 3. Grow in Moral Courage
(00:22:37) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act
(00:24:11) - Conclusion
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TRANSCRIPT
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REFLECTION PROMPT
Listen.
- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, was there anything that jumped out at you that really resonated with you?

Ponder.
- Were there, among the three points, one in particular that you also struggle with?

Act.
-  Continue to explore resources on inner child healing.
- You may wish to refer to the last episode I recorded with Dr. Jean Cheng. 
- Check out the show notes for some book titles and other resources.
- When you're ready,  I invite you to seek out a spiritual director, or a counsellor, or a therapist who is trained in inner child work and request to try some inner child healing.

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EPISODE 45     

In this third and final part of the series on Inner Child Healing with Dr Jean Cheng, we talk about:

- How do we begin to heal our inner child? What is inner child reparenting?
- How does healing our relationship with ourselves help us love others better?
- What might we be able to expect if we embark on inner child healing?

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BOOKS ON INNER CHILD HEALING
Healing Your Aloneness by Erika Chopich & Margaret Paul
Homecoming by John Bradshaw
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lyndsey Gibson
Running on Empty by Jonice Webb

PODCASTS FEATURING DR JEAN CHENG
Reparenting My Inner Child
My Healing Journey

CHAPTER MARKERS
Available here.

REFLECTION PROMPT
Listen.
- As you listened the conversation, was there anything that resonated particularly strongly with you?

Ponder.
- How easy is it for you to get in touch gently, without being overwhelmed with your emotions?

Act.
- Take one step towards learning more about inner child work. 
- Pick one of these resources to begin with.

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EPISODE 44   

How did we learn to distrust our emotions? Or to disconnect from our inner knowing about our needs in order to keep pushing through to deliver what is expected of us, even if it harms us?

In this second part of my conversation with Dr Jean Cheng about inner child healing, we talk about how our inner children received wounding and what's at stake when, as adults, our inner children do not find healing

This episode is particularly rich with analysis, examples and stories about children and how these relate to our inner children. 

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CHAPTER MARKERS
(00:00:18) - Introduction
(00:02:16) - How Does An Inner Child Get Wounded?
(00:09:01) - When Does Our Inner Child Start Getting Wounded?
(00:17:27) - What's At Stake If Our Inner Child Does Not Experience Healing?
(00:33:24) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act
(00:40:22) - Conclusion
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TRANSCRIPT
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REFLECTION PROMPT
Listen.
- Was there any part of this episode that resonated particularly strongly with you?
- Pay attention to what that story or sharing, a particular point might be, that you felt resonated with you.

Ponder.
- Stay a little longer with what had come to your attention as you listened to your own reactions.
- Can you identify what emotion you're feeling?
- Take notice of what you're feeling. Don't rush out of this step.

Act.
- Look at a photograph of your younger self. Do you remember how you were at that age?
- Imagine what it was that you had most desired to hear when you were that age.

For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
- Dr. Jean Cheng's Instagram

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EPISODE 43   

Who or what is my inner child? What is inner child healing and how does it help me in my interior journey?

In this three part series on Inner Child Healing, clinical psychologist Dr. Jean Cheng and I delve into how this particular kind of interior work can help bring us to wholeness and live a more authentic life.

In this episode we hear a little about Dr. Jean Cheng's own journey and get introduced to who/what our inner child is.

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CHAPTER MARKERS
(00:00:13) - Introduction
(00:01:41) - Introduction to Dr. Jean Cheng
(00:10:07) - Why "Talitha Koum"?
(00:21:45) - Different Parts of our Bodies
(00:25:11) - Our Inner Child
(00:28:05) - Wounded Inner Child
(00:31:35) - Being Curious with our Inner Child
(00:35:56) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act
(00:38:55) - Conclusion
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TRANSCRIPT
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REFLECTION PROMPT
Listen.
- Did you resonate with any particular part of the episode when you were listening to it?
- Was there something that connected with your heart a little bit more? 
- Was there any emotion you felt?

Ponder.
-  Ponder when was the last time that you remember feeling an emotion that seemed like it came from a younger place in you?

Act.
- Look at some old family photos of your younger self; when you were a little girl or little boy.
- Maybe listen to this episode again, or for the future episodes on inner child, have that photograph ready with you. 
-  As you listen to us talk about inner child and inner child work and inner child healing, look at that face of your younger self. 

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ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
- Dr. Jean Cheng's Instagram

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- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises
- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me
- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude
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EPISODE 42   

Many of us long to be more authentic than we are able to be. We feel that our ability to be authentic is constrained by a lack of acceptance from other people. But what if we can increase our internal capacity to be authentic regardless of extrinsic circumstances?

In this episode I talk about how the journey into wholeness enlarges our capacity to be our true selves even when we experience rejection from others.

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CHAPTER MARKERS
(00:00:20) - Introduction
(00:01:24) - A New Theme
(00:03:18) - Speaking My Truths Vulnerably
(00:10:09) - Capacity To Hold Ourselves
(00:14:21) - Accepting Our True Self
(00:20:58) - Hitting (False) Limits
(00:25:23) - The Healing Journey
(00:29:14) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act
(00:32:47) - Conclusion
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TRANSCRIPT
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REFLECTION PROMPT
Listen.
- As you listened to my sharing in this episode, what hit you? You know, what was one thing that maybe resonated the most with you? 

Ponder.
- When was the last time or is there an incident that you can recall where you showed up as yourself and then felt that you were rejected?
- How did you feel?

Act.
- Revisit that memory that you called up for Ponder – that that incident where you experienced showing up as yourself and felt rejected. 
- Exercise: 
• Spend some time with yourself back in that moment when you were rejected.
• Write a note or write a letter to yourself.
• Stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eyes and tell yourself there's nothing wrong with you. 

 For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
- Ep 19 True vs False Limits

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EPISODE 41  (BONUS)

How do we maintain our course towards greater authenticity and integrity when our Church is rocked by scandal?

In this podcast I talk about how important it is to acknowledge and include our emotions in our response instead of denying, repressing, or bypassing them.

I also share some tips and resources that can help with processing our complex thoughts and emotions in these challenging times.

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- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude
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EPISODE 40  (BONUS)

Are you stressed during Chinese New Year? Hate the feeling of having to give a "progress report" of your life to relatives who want to know about your marital/family status, work, studies etc?

Here are some simple reminders to help keep you calm, grounded and prepared to honour your boundaries as you go CNY visiting!

Happy Chinese/Lunar New Year everyone!
- Ann Yeong

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- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises
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- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude
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