Becoming Me

EPISODE 29 

Making the interior journey into authenticity and wholeness is not easy. But could we also be making it even more difficult than it has to be? 

In this episode I talk about three common ways we often unwittingly sabotage ourselves by treating ourselves with contempt, having unrealistic expectations, and not availing ourselves to the support we need.

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CHAPTER MARKERS
(00:00:08) - Introduction
(00:01:04) - 1. Self-contempt
(00:09:52) - 2. Unrealistic Expectations
(00:20:34) - 3. Not Getting Sufficient Help
(00:28:22) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act
(00:33:18) - Conclusion
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TRANSCRIPT
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REFLECTION PROMPT
Listen.
- As you listened to this episode, which points maybe resonated with you more?
- Was there something that jumped out at you?

Ponder.
- Which of the three points do you feel is the most relevant for you?
- Which one of these are more of an issue for you at this point in time?

Act.
- With one of the three points you have picked, consider one thing you can do towards helping yourself.

For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:
- Ep 12 Am I Regressing?
- Ep 24 Is it Selfish to Live the Life I Want?
- Ep 26 Can You Be Gentler With Yourself?

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EPISODE 28 

What impact does making the interior journey have on a marriage? Henry and I look back at our 22 years of couple-hood and 14 years of marriage and share how our own commitment to our individual healing and integration has transformed our relationship. 

In Part 2 of this conversation we continue to talk about how practicing healthy boundaries transformed our relationship, how we have learned to respond when our insecurities are triggered and how becoming more skilled at repairing ruptures in our relationship has made us less afraid of conflict.

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CHAPTER MARKERS
(00:06:42) - Dealing with Triggers
(00:13:32) - “I Need To” vs. “I Want To”
(00:14:20) - Explicit Communication
(00:18:37) - Repairing
(00:25:03) - Final Note
(00:31:02) - Announcements
(00:31:59) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act
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TRANSCRIPT
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REFLECTION PROMPT
Listen.
- As you listened to the conversation between Henry and myself, what struck you?
- Hold that in your heart, or journal it. You may want to return to it later.

Ponder. 
- Why do you think that those were the points that struck you?

Act.
- What might be one thing that you can commit to in your interior journey for the sake of your loved one?
- Try and come up with a concrete step that you could take.

For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:
- Ep 4 & 5 Living from the Inside Out
- Ep 14 Where Do You End and I Begin?
- Ep 23 Safe Spaces for Growth: Trust, Truth and Compassion
- Ep 27 You Don't Complete Me Part 1/2 (with Henry Hoo)

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- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises
- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me
- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude
- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing
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EPISODE 27 

What impact does making the interior journey have on a marriage? Henry and I look back at our 22 years of couple-hood and 14 years of marriage and share how our own commitment to our individual healing and integration has transformed our relationship. 

In Part 1 of this conversation we talk about the liberating discovery that we are not meant to complete each other, the joy of discovering beauty in what IS in the here and now, and what practicing healthy boundaries with our selves and each other has done for our marriage.

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CHAPTER MARKERS 
(00:02:01) - Three Layers of Living
(00:03:23) - First Point - You Don't Complete Me
(00:16:08) - Second Point - Striving for the "Ideal"
(00:22:38) - Third Point - Boundaries within a Marriage
(00:35:15) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act.
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TRANSCRIPT
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REFLECTION PROMPT
Listen.
- As you listened to the conversation between Henry and myself, what struck you?
- Was there some pot that you could identify with in your own experience, perhaps in your marriage or some other intimate relationship?

Ponder.
- In what ways might you have unknowingly made it harder for yourself to be happy in your relationship by seeking completion or happiness from your partner?

Act.
- Identify one area in your life where you have struggled to be patient and kind to yourself.
- Find some quiet alone time and have conversation with that part of you, that part of you who struggles to live up to your ideal self.
- Sit with yourself as you would a beloved child or a dear friend, and just listen.

For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:
- Ep 4 & 5 Living from the Inside Out
- Ep 14 Where Do You End and I Begin?

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- Downloadable & Printable
- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises
- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me
- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude
- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing
- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribers

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EPISODE 26 (BONUS)   

Do you try to dominate and push yourself into living more authentically? Or have you learned to accompany yourself with reverence and compassion?

(This episode first appeared as an IGTV and Facebook video. You can find it on YouTube as well.)

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TRANSCRIPT
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ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:
- Ep 7 Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with Yourself

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- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises
- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me
- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude
- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing
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EPISODE 25 (BONUS)   

What do you do when you find yourself living life at an unsustainable pace? Do you slow yourself down or find yourself peddling harder, thinking that you'll catch up if you go fast enough?

In this special bonus episode, I bring you 'behind the scenes' into how I accompany myself when I struggle with slowing down even when I know that's what I need. My sharing illustrates how I try to honour the pace I need when life throws some unexpected curve balls. 

I also share a couple of announcements about an upcoming live event that I will be part of as well as a course that I will be teaching.

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CHAPTER MARKERS
(00:00:45) - A Different Kind of Episode
(00:04:21) - Life's Curve Balls
(00:14:50) - What's At Stake if I Don't Slow Down?
(00:18:59) - Announcements
(00:21:17) - PRAXIS Question
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TRANSCRIPT
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REFLECTION PROMPT
- If you don't slow down, what will you end up sacrificing? And if you don't want to pay the price, what can you do to make a change of pace so that you can give yourself a little bit more grace, a little bit more room to be present to yourself and to those whom you love?

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:
- Ep 4  Living from the Inside Out (Part 1)
- Ep 8 The Necessary Practice of Making Space
- Ep 9 The Wisdom in Slowing Down

LINKS MENTIONED
New Evangelisation Conference 2021
A Leader's Spirituality Course

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- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises
- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me
- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude
- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing
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EPISODE 24 

It can be easy to feel guilty for wanting to live a life that would make ourselves happy. As a result, many of us end up living according to other people's desires for us instead of choosing a life aligned to our own heart's deep desire.

In this episode, I explain why listening to our heart's deep gladness is a necessary part of living a life that truly blesses others.

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Blog Post: Your Life is About You (Too) 

CHAPTER MARKERS
(00:00:40) - Is it Selfish to Honour Our Desires?
(00:06:08) - The Danger of Not Listening to Our Desires
(00:13:22) - Respecting Our Design
(00:20:11) - Our Deep Desires Show Us Our Design
(00:26:07) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act.
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TRANSCRIPT
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REFLECTION PROMPT
Listen.
- As you listened to today's episode, what struck you? Does something resonate particularly strongly with you?

Ponder.
- How do you feel when you imagine yourself living a life that is aligned with your heart's deep gladness?
- What emotions do you feel?

Act.
- Identify; on a scale of one to ten, how would you rate your life right now?
- On a piece of paper, list down all the things that are holding you back from living your life at a 10.
- Look at your list and ask yourself what step can I take today to begin making this list shorter?

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:
- Ep 3 You Are Worth Becoming
- Ep 14 Where Do You End and I Begin?
- Ep 21 Safe Spaces For Becoming (with Edwina Yeow)
- Ep 22 Being A Safe Space For Myself (with Edwina Yeow)

PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK
- Downloadable & Printable
- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises
- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me
- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude
- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing
- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribers

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EPISODE 23

If we want go beyond feeling accepted for being who we are and to actually grow in authenticity and wholeness and become our best selves, we will need safe spaces that will give us the courage and faith to confront the things in our lives that need confronting.

In this episode, I expand on the theme of safe spaces to look at three essential ingredients that are required for a safe space to be conducive for interior growth and talk about why they are necessary if we want real transformation in our lives.

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CHAPTER MARKERS
(00:00:42) - Safety Beyond Comfort
(00:04:41) - Trust, Truth and Compassion
(00:09:43) - My Inability to Trust Myself
(00:16:31) - The Power of Safe Spaces to Set Free
(00:22:45) - Are You Ready to Take Action?
(00:28:33) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act.
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TRANSCRIPT
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REFLECTION PROMPT
Listen.
- As you listened to today's episode, what struck you? Does something resonate particularly strongly with you?

Ponder.
- How would you rate the level of trust you have in yourself right now?
- Why did you give yourself that rating?
- Are you happy with how much you trust yourself? Why?

Act.
- Identify an area in your life which you wish could be met with truth and compassion.
- Reflect on what is holding you back from seeking the help you need.
- Write down what you are feeling and hold those truths with love and compassion.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Blog Post: Unbound and Set Free
 
PARRHESIA www.parrhesia.sg

Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:
- Ep 21 Safe Spaces For Becoming (with Edwina Yeow)
- Ep 22 Being a Safe Space for Myself (with Edwina Yeow)
- Ep 7 Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with Yourself

PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK
- Downloadable & Printable
- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises
- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me
- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude
- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing
- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribers

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EPISODE 22 

How hospitable are you to yourself? Does your inner self feel safe to reveal itself to you? Are you able to believe that all your emotions - even anger, hurt, envy, and other 'negative' feelings come bearing a gift for you?

This episode is the second half of a two-part conversation I have with experienced soul guide and spiritual companion Edwina Yeow . We discuss what it means to become a safe space for ourselves.

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Contact Edwina Yeow.

Blog Post: From Shame to Freedom

CHAPTER MARKERS
(00:01:43) - How can I stop being self-critical?
(00:11:35) - Beginner tips for self-hospitality
(00:15:37) - Befriending negative emotions
(00:21:09) - Unconditional self-acceptance
(00:30:18) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act.
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TRANSCRIPT
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REFLECTION PROMPT
Listen.
- As you listened to today's episode, what struck you?

Ponder.
- At this point in your life and in your journey, how safe a space are you to yourself?
- How hospitable are you to your own emotions and the physical sensations that your body may feel?

Act.
- Notice the emotions that are surfacing in the course of your daily life.
- Allow whatever thoughts, judgments, criticisms that might surface be contained. Give permission for the feelings to just be without criticising them.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:
- Ep 21 Safe Spaces For Becoming (with Edwina Yeow)
- Ep 7 Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with Yourself
 
Article: Loving Your Inner Enemies by Alison Cook PhD

PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK
- Downloadable & Printable
- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises
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- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude
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EPISODE 21 

Have you experienced a lack of understanding and acceptance when you had opened up to someone you trusted about your interior journey? We need people who can be safe spaces for us as we make this journey, but we need to know how to identify them.

In this first half of a two-part conversation I have with experienced soul guide and spiritual companion Edwina Yeow, we discuss why we need safe spaces and how to identify if someone can be a safe space for us.

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CHAPTER MARKERS
(00:06:30) - Why do we need a safe space for the interior journey?
(00:11:14) - What constitutes a safe space?
(00:13:51) - Why our loved ones may not be safe spaces
(00:20:24) - How can I tell if someone is a safe space?
(00:29:40) - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act.
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TRANSCRIPT
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REFLECTION PROMPT
Listen.
- As you listened to today's episode, what struck you? Does something resonate particularly strongly with you?

Ponder.
- Can you remember any time in your life where you have experienced what we describe as a safe space? Who was it that made you feel like you could really just be who you are and not be judged or evaluated or criticised?

Act.
- Where you are now in your journey could be quite different from the last time that you experienced being in a safe space with someone.
- Try to identify someone whom you think could be a safe space for you now, at this point of your journey.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Blog Post: Where can I be unafraid to become who I truly am?

Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:
- Ep 7 Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with Yourself

PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK
- Downloadable & Printable
- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises
- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me
- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude
- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing
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EPISODE 20

Why is it that we often wait until things get worse, sometimes until we hit bottom, before we really try to address the destructive patterns in our lives? Why is it that we have so much inertia to seek help or address our issues even when we are in pain?

In this episode, I share 3 reasons based on my own life experience and observations why this happens more often that we would like to admit. 

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CHAPTER MARKERS
(00:09:39) - 1st Reason: It's Too Hard
(00:11:26) - 2nd Reason: It's How We Learn
(00:13:38) - 3rd Reason: Intense Pain Wakes Us Up
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TRANSCRIPT
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ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Blog Post: How much do you desire to be your True Self?

Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:
- Ep 7 Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with Yourself

PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK
- Downloadable & Printable
- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises
- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me
- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude
- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing
- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribers

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