Before Anyone Else - BAE Podcast

This week on the podcast, Joyce speaks to Abby about the super awkward to the all-time cringiest moments – they’re exchanging all the horrible dating stories you wouldn’t believe. From the ups and downs of dating to what it’s like dating a partner with kids, we follow Abby’s dating life.

Highlights

* A horrible Valentine’s Day* A cringey restaurant date (especially when the bill comes)* Gather around the campfire: Dating Ghost Stories * What it’s like dating a partner who has kids

Resources

* Follow Abby on Instagram at @crumblexcheesecake

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This week on the podcast Keith speaks to Joy Fajardo, a marketing professional living in PEI, Canada. Joy and her husband moved from The Philippines to Singapore and more recently to Canada. As they start a new life in a new country together, Joy shares the conversations and experiences that led them to making a big life decision despite having different perspectives.

* How to get on the same page when you want different things* How immigrating to a new country can affect your relationship with your partner * Addressing fears and concerns about moving to a new country and starting a new life together* Why communication is key to expressing your goals to your partner

Takeaways

* Lean into scary topics like immigrating – it can only make your relationship stronger* Listen to your partners perspectives, big decisions affect both of you* Be a team player and trust that your partner can handle your unfiltered thoughts (your partner is your partner for a reason)* Consider the timing of your communication

Resources

* Visit Joy Fajardo on Youtube* Follow Joy Fajardo on Instagram

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Dating apps can be exciting, nerve-wracking and overwhelming all at the same time. But what if you could get inside the male brain to learn more about what they’re thinking when they’re on apps. This week on the podcast we welcome Alex, a British Expat living in Toronto who is well-versed in the world of dating apps.

He’s giving you his best advice on how to thrive on dating apps and sharing all of his cringe-worthy dating app stories.

Grab your glass of wine, take a shot, and let’s dive in.

* Bumble, Hinge, Tinder and more – What apps should you be swiping on* From the male perspective – what are women doing wrong on dating apps* How to present yourself on apps to find the type of relationship you’re looking for* What are the red flags to look out for on dating apps* How to make app dating part of your lifestyle* How to avoid app burnout (it’s a real thing)

Takeaways

* Be strategic with the pictures you choose for your dating profile (Alex shares the top picture faux-pas to avoid)* Foodie? Traveler? Who isn’t. Write an original personal bio that isn’t yawn-worthy* Don’t invest too early, pace yourself when swiping* Fit app dates into your lifestyle – avoid disappointment if your date is a flake* Women may have the advantage on dating apps – but with great power, comes great responsibility 😉

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Becoming parents can be an incredible step to take with your partner. Yet, it also has the potential to change your relationship dynamics. Kristina, a busy lifestyle blogger, writer, and soon to be mom of two shares her journey and experiences as a parent.

* How meeting your partner can change your mind and open yourself up to something that you’ve closed yourself off to before* It’s not always the biological clock – How passions and careers can influence your decision to have kids* Addressing fears and concerns about becoming a parent* How to connect with your partner during pregnancy and after the baby is born* How to maintain your sense of self life and not just your parental identity

Takeaways

* Communicate in real-time with your partner about your needs- “go to the bones” * Always find time between parenting duties to focus on yourself and connect with your partner* Realize that children depend on you for everything – you need to have patience and change your lens to understand their thought-process and feelings

Resources

* Follow Kristina Dapaah on Instagram

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Being in a relationship with the right person can be a beautiful thing. However, what happens when you start to have doubts? Kirthiga has been in a few relationships that started off well, but a few flags started to pop up. So she left. We sat down with her to hear some of her relationship stories.

* What is the most important thing to help determine whether you should leave or not* How did it feel when you first left someone* How did you get over that first hump of leaving* What are some flags to look for * How did this effect the way you dated and how you viewed other relationships* How did you make this a learning experience

Takeaways

* Remember, you deserve better* Be open minded to change and learning from experiences* Dating is the best way to learn and build yourself

Resources

* Follow Kirthiga on Instagram

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Get to know the hosts of BAE podcast with part two of an inside look at their relationship backgrounds from their foray into dating apps to long-term relationships.

* The ultimate tips for navigating dating* Sharing the hosts favourite or most memorable date * The ultimate tips for when you’re in a relationship* How their views on relationships has changed and grown over time* If they’ve been influenced by their significant other

Get to know the hosts of BAE podcast with part one of an inside look at their relationship backgrounds from their foray into dating apps to long-term relationships.

* Sharing their personal dating and relationship histories* The hosts untangle their upbringings and how it has influenced their approach to relationships* The meet cute moments and unexpected ways they met their significant others

Most of us remember the notorious episode of the Netflix show Dating Around where Punjabi-American, Gurki Basra experienced a heated culture clash on one of her dates. After sharing her divorce and parents arranged marriage – Gurki was met with a less than understanding date who questioned how her culture had played a role in her decisions.

The date went viral. Streams of fans were left impressed with Gurki’s composure during the cringeworthy exchange.

This week, the hosts of BAE Podcast speak to Netflix’s Dating Around’s Gurki Basra about her experiences being a divorced South Asian woman, being gaslit on television, and how her parents arranged marriage has formed her views on dating and relationships.

* An inside perspective on how Gurki felt during her Dating Around appearance and why she didn’t accept a second date * The sociocultural pressures of getting married and the stigma of getting divorced* Marriage: the glorification, big business, and family dynamics in Indian cultures* Dating and relationship taboos – why relationships are celebrated while being single is shamed* Challenging the classic commentary surrounding dating and relationships from family* Preconceptions of arranged marriages

Takeaways

* Divorce isn’t always sad – sometimes we can be empowered by our decision to leave the wrong relationship* Ask your your loved ones better questions – are you happy? versus when are you getting married?* How cultural practices can work for some people but aren’t right for everyone* How complete honesty even when it causes waves can actually lead to deeper relationships with the people closest to you

Resources

* Visit Team Gurki on the web* Follow #TeamGurki on Instagram* Follow Gurki Basra on Instagram

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Everybody talks about the star, but rarely does the spotlight shine on the baseball wives and girlfriends (WAGs). This week the hosts of BAE podcast speak to Erika Richardson, the wife of professional baseball player Dustin Richardson. She shares how she’s been able to establish her own career path while dating and ultimately marrying a pro ball player. Erika helps reveal some of the misconceptions about the world of WAGs.

* Are the popular WAG shows we see on tv realistic?* How to establish your own identity and career-path* How to support your partner during the ups and downs of their athletic journey* How do you maintain a trusting relationship when your partner travels often for their job* The challenges of financial planning when the future is uncertain

Takeaways

* Communicate your needs and fears often even when it’s challenging* Discover ways to pursue your own passions, careers goals, and interests* Support each other throughout the ups and downs of your career (the breadwinner in your relationship may change)* Only travel for your partner if it feels right to the both of you

Resources

* Follow Erika on Instagram

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A recently married millennial couple, who recently moved back in with his parents, talk to us about what happens post-wedding and what to consider when living with in-laws. This week, the hosts of BAE podcast welcome David and Rebecca Dapaah. As millennials face unique lifestyle and financial challenges, more are opting to make the move back home. But how do you navigate this environment with your partner while married?

* New reasons for living with your parents* Putting old societal views on living at home to rest* Navigating finances as newlyweds* How to change your mindset and fight societal expectations* How to communicate when making the decision to move back home* How to spend quality time together when living in a full-house * How do you adapt your goals or lifestyle when sharing a space

Takeaways

* Short term pain for long term gain – sacrifices can get you ahead in the long term* Communicate your comfort levels, often, with your partner * Share your choice with friends to give them more insight into your decision

Resources

* Follow Kojo Dave on Instagram* Listen to his music on Apple, Spotify and most music platforms. * Follow Bexdrums on Instagram* Subscribe to Bexdrums on Youtube

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