Before Anyone Else - BAE Podcast

So, they popped the question, but you’re from two different cultural backgrounds. How will you incorporate both cultures on your big day and meet family expectations? From the guest list to the wedding ceremony, we’re exploring the best ways to avoid culture clash and navigate intercultural weddings. 

In this episode

* We’re tapping into our experiences and opinions to explore another controversial topic in the world of dating and relationships. * How do two people from different cultural backgrounds find wedding day bliss? * Setting ground rules with your parents to fulfill your dream wedding and their expectations. * How to avoid culture clash on your wedding day. We’re diving into traditions, languages, customs and more. What are the dos and don’ts? * Our hosts share their vision for their wedding days with their respective partners. Unpacking traditional and non-traditional wedding days.

As we move into a more diverse dating scene, are we actually dating with open minds and open hearts? Does preferring to date a specific race mean you are being prejudice? From stereotypes to self-hate, where do these preferences come from? In this episode we explore whether or not it’s okay to have a type when it comes to race and how socialization can play a role in forming these attitudes.

In this episode

* Where do our preferences for dating and relationships stem from? We discuss factors such as bias from socialization and early childhood experiences as possible answers. Upon deeper reflection, the concept of racial self-hate is explored.* Furthering the discussion, we weigh in on the aspects of racial preference. From racial fetishization to backhanded compliments — are stereotypes ever positive?* The hosts unpack why we as a society attach certain positive stereotypes to certain races and negative stereotypes to others. * Sharing pop culture examples of how the media plays a role in influencing the way we see race.* How dating apps highlight racial preference in dating. Should dating apps continue to filter based on race? 

On this special two part series, we run through each hosts list of type of people they wouldn’t date. From one host to the other, we let each person voice their opinion on why they wouldn’t date a type of person while the other hosts give their opinion with the usual roasting peppered in.

On this special two part series, we run through each hosts list of type of people they wouldn’t date. From one host to the other, we let each person voice their opinion on why they wouldn’t date a type of person while the other hosts give their opinion with the usual roasting peppered in.

Society really romanticizes the passion and many ups and downs of a relationship. But are relationships really supposed to be this hard? How hard is too hard? We’ve heard that relationships are hard work but is there a limit? Should you work through all the problems? Should you change yourself for someone else? When is it okay to just leave if the relationship is too tough?

Getting married is a lifetime milestone in society. Is getting married the actual end game in life? As marriage is romanticized in movies and by our parents, have we got the wrong idea? Should we date to get married? Do people get in relationships just to get married? Does marriage change people’s lives?

Our guest Judy Lui, MSc, CCC, RP is a registered Psychotherapist specializing in relational therapy. We ask Judy how can we help support a partner facing mental health issues. Is there a certain way to approach the topic? How can I ask for help when my partner doesn’t feel comfortable doing so themselves? How can I encourage them to go to a therapist? Should I feel guilty about leaving someone with a mental health issue?

Resources talked about in this episode:

Judy Lui, MSc, CCC, RP

EMail: [email protected]

Website: https://www.judylui.com/

Instagram: @judyluicounselling

Our guest Judy Lui, MSc, CCC, RP is a registered Psychotherapist specializing in relational therapy. We ask Judy when should you see a relational therapist? We explore the therapeutic process and some of the most common issues that couples see therapists about. Is there a certain time or situation where you should see a therapist? How can we distinguish between an obstacle a couple can overcome vs a problem when you should leave the relationship? Is it too late to see a therapist? When does the therapy end? Why should you see a therapist?

Resources talked about in this episode:

Judy Lui, MSc, CCC, RP

EMail: [email protected]

Website: https://www.judylui.com/

Instagram: @judyluicounselling

Power and Control Wheel and Equality Wheel

What is the #MeToo movement and how does it affect our social life and dating? In this episode, we take a look at the history and the many events that have happened to spur the popularity of the #MeToo movement. From the positive impacts to the negative impacts, we take an unbiased look at some of the ways society has been affected by the movement. How are new cases handled by society after the movement became popular? Have some social norms changed positively because of the movement and are there any negatives?

You’ve found a great prospect and they’ve asked you out on a date. You’ve never met this person so naturally you feel a bit cautious. What steps can you take to feel safe when going on a first date with someone you have never met before? Are there red flags that you can watch out for? What are some things you can do before stepping out to feel safe? We provide some tips from the beginning of the date to the very end so you can take steps to feel safe.