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Behind the Throne
By Helen Hope Kimbrough & Charlitta HatchSociety & Culture
Behind the Throne episodes
- 25. The Power of a Positive No | Book Discussion on Setting Boundaries, People Pleasing, and More
After a full season of lots of amazing guests, the OG duo is back on the mic this week! In this episode, we’re discussing the book The Power of a Positive No by William Ury, which piqued both of our interests as people pleasers who tend to say “yes” when we want to say “no.” We share what it taught us about setting boundaries, trusting your intuition, healthy relationships, and more!
Resources mentioned:
The Power of a Positive No by William Ury
Mamas, don’t forget these key takeaways!:
Think about when you’re saying “yes” when you want to say “no.” Who are you trying to accommodate? How can you stay true to your no in that moment?
One of our responsibilities is modeling healthy communication and boundaries for our families. It’s okay to let your kids see you and your partner disagree so they can see how to do so in a respectful way.
Respect your “no.” Once you’ve said “no,” don’t turn back on it, or let people bulldoze you into saying “yes.” You can be creative about holding space to still help in a different way, but stick to your “no.”
Mothers are the queens of the castle, but let’s be real: it’s not all ball gowns and glass slippers. On this podcast, we’re giving you a peek Behind the Throne at the privilege and responsibility of wearing the crown. Hosted by Helen Hope Kimbrough - a proud wife and mom of two adult sons - and Charlitta Hatch, a proud wife, married to her high school sweetheart, and a proud mom of two little ones. Get ready as we share jewels with each other and you around all things connected to motherhood!
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26 min - 24. What I Wish My Mother Had Told Me | Live Panel Discussion on Mental Health Within Mother-Daughter Relationships
In April, we were invited to be a part of a discussion called “What I Wish My Mother Had Told Me,” which centered mental health topics around the relationship between mothers and daughters. Helen led a panel of community leaders and asked them questions about self-esteem, boundaries, worthiness, and social media, and how all of these tie in to mental health.
Panelists:
Helen Hope Kimbrough, panel moderator
Jade Dawkins
Dr. Daisy Walker
Lynn Conner, MSW, LCSW - Be & Belong Therapy, PLLC
Resources:
The Academy of Goal Achievers
Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988 or visit https://988lifeline.org/
Some key takeaways from this discussion include:
Find a mantra to work through on your own and with your kids to help their self-esteem. Some of the mantras we heard from the panel were “your body is the least interesting thing about you,” and “you are worthy exactly the way you are.”
Setting boundaries is so important for your mental health, and for your relationships. There’s a misconception that boundaries create distance between people, but mutually respectful boundaries actually bring you closer to your loved ones.
Social media can have a huge impact on your mental health if you aren’t intentional about using it. Unfollow or mute accounts that make you feel bad about yourself, take breaks from social media now and then, and remember you’re seeing a highlight reel, not real life.
Mothers are the queens of the castle, but let’s be real: it’s not all ball gowns and glass slippers. On this podcast, we’re giving you a peek Behind the Throne at the privilege and responsibility of wearing the crown. Hosted by Helen Hope Kimbrough - a proud wife and mom of two adult sons - and Charlitta Hatch, a proud wife, married to her high school sweetheart, and a proud mom of two little ones. Get ready as we share jewels with each other and you around all things connected to motherhood!
Connect with Us!:
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Charlitta’s Instagram
Helen’s Instagram
35 min - 23. Deciding to Join the Military, Experiential Learning, and Being a Younger Brother with Avery Kimbrough
In this episode, Helen is joined by her younger son, Avery Kimbrough. Avery is a senior at the United States Military Academy at West Point. He shares his experience of growing up with his older brother Austin, deciding to join the military at a very young age, and how his mom advocated for his learning style in a public school setting.
Episodes mentioned:
Episode 17: The Things I Learned From My Mom with Austin Kimbrough
Some key takeaways from this episode include:
Helen’s sons couldn’t be more different, but they have such a deep relationship and respect for each other that they’ve always celebrated and nurtured those differences.
Not everyone is a traditional student that absorbs information easily and loves to read. Helen had to advocate for Avery to have more experiential learning in the classroom, which allowed him to excel.
Avery decided at a young age that he wanted to join the military, which can be a difficult path for parents to watch their kids enter. Avery’s advice is to be strong in your faith and allow them to explore all the opportunities and resources available to them.
Mothers are the queens of the castle, but let’s be real: it’s not all ball gowns and glass slippers. On this podcast, we’re giving you a peek Behind the Throne at the privilege and responsibility of wearing the crown. Hosted by Helen Hope Kimbrough - a proud wife and mom of two adult sons - and Charlitta Hatch, a proud wife, married to her high school sweetheart, and a proud mom of two little ones. Get ready as we share jewels with each other and you around all things connected to motherhood!
Connect with Us!:
Podcast Instagram
YouTube
Charlitta’s Instagram
Helen’s Instagram
18 min - 22. Amplify Your Voice By Starting a Podcast feat. Our Producer Kristen Stegall
Since we started our podcast, we’ve gotten questions about how we started from listeners wanting to start their own shows. So in this episode, we brought on our producer, Kristen, to share how you can amplify your voice and message through podcasting, her best tips for podcasting, and how she started her business.
Kristen is a Podcast Producer and the CEO of Novice Studios, a full-service video podcast production company based in Charlotte, NC. You can learn more about Novice Studios at https://novicestudiosclt.com/, or connect with Kristen on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/novicestudiosclt/.
Some key takeaways from this episode include:
Honor your season of life and go with the flow. When we feel out of control, it might be a sign to bet on yourself and take ownership of something that pushes you out of your comfort zone.
People are craving connection, which is one of the reasons why podcasts are so popular. Starting a show is a great way to build a connection and help people feel seen and understood.
Kristen recommends having a strong brand and strategy from the very beginning of your podcast. Know who your audience is, where they hang out online, and the topics that matter most to them.
Mothers are the queens of the castle, but let’s be real: it’s not all ball gowns and glass slippers. On this podcast, we’re giving you a peek Behind the Throne at the privilege and responsibility of wearing the crown. Hosted by Helen Hope Kimbrough - a proud wife and mom of two adult sons - and Charlitta Hatch, a proud wife, married to her high school sweetheart, and a proud mom of two little ones. Get ready as we share jewels with each other and you around all things connected to motherhood!
Connect with Us!:
Podcast Instagram
YouTube
Charlitta’s Instagram
Helen’s Instagram
21 min - 21. Charlitta Gets a Mommy Report Card From Her 7-Year-Old Son, Mark
We are so excited to have a very special guest on today’s episode: Mark Hatch III, Charlitta’s 7-year-old son! In this episode, Charlitta interviews Mark to see just how much he knows about her, what he’s absorbing from the lessons she’s been teaching him, and his favorite things about her.
Some key takeaways from this episode include:
Your kids know way more about you than you might realize! They are observing your interests, your patterns, and your likes and dislikes at all times.
If you’re helping your child improve at something, or there’s a lesson you’re constantly repeating to them, we promise they are hearing and absorbing it even if it doesn’t always feel like it.
If you’ve never asked your kids to give you a mommy report card, we highly recommend it. Pretend you’re recording it for your own YouTube channel so you’ll have a home video you can watch back for years to come.
Mothers are the queens of the castle, but let’s be real: it’s not all ball gowns and glass slippers. On this podcast, we’re giving you a peek Behind the Throne at the privilege and responsibility of wearing the crown. Hosted by Helen Hope Kimbrough - a proud wife and mom of two adult sons - and Charlitta Hatch, a proud wife, married to her high school sweetheart, and a proud mom of two little ones. Get ready as we share jewels with each other and you around all things connected to motherhood!
Connect with Us!:
Podcast Instagram
YouTube
Charlitta’s Instagram
Helen’s Instagram
9 min - 20. Preparing Black Mothers for Birth & Postpartum | Working with a Doula, Setting Boundaries, & More with Kris Elle
Welcome to season three of Behind the Throne! We are starting off the season with a special guest, Kris Elle, a Certified Doula, Certified Lactation Consultant. Kris is the Founder of Mother of Ease, a Black maternal and family health practice that specializes in supporting Black women and their families through pregnancy and birth. In this episode, Kris shares how she empowers clients to create their vision for their birth and postpartum journeys, setting boundaries with providers and family members, and learning to ask for help when we need it.
Resources mentioned:
Oh Sis, You’re Pregnant!: The Ultimate Guide to Black Pregnancy & Motherhood
Some key takeaways from this episode include:
Birth is one of those experiences that nothing can prepare you for. Many new mothers feel a mix of bewilderment, euphoria, grief, and everything in between. All those feelings are valid!
When preparing for postpartum recovery, think about what you need to have on hand or have help with. Do you need freezer meals prepared? Does a clean kitchen keep you calm? Make a list and when someone offers to help, give them something from the list.
Doulas support people emotionally, physically, and often spiritually through life transitions. There are birth doulas, postpartum doulas, and even death doulas.
Mothers are the queens of the castle, but let’s be real: it’s not all ball gowns and glass slippers. On this podcast, we’re giving you a peek Behind the Throne at the privilege and responsibility of wearing the crown. Hosted by Helen Hope Kimbrough - a proud wife and mom of two adult sons - and Charlitta Hatch, a proud wife, married to her high school sweetheart, and a proud mom of two little ones. Get ready as we share jewels with each other and you around all things connected to motherhood!
Connect with Us!:
Podcast Instagram
YouTube
Charlitta’s Instagram
Helen’s Instagram
39 min - 19. Dr. Claudine Gay’s Resignation, Microaggressions, and the Burden of Being the First Black Woman in a Role
When we heard the news of Dr. Claudine Gay’s resignation from her role as the first Black female president of Harvard University, we knew we had to unpack our feelings and the wounds it opened on the podcast. In our experiences as Black women, we’ve faced microaggressions, assumptions about our qualifications, and a lack of support and allyship from our colleagues. In this bonus episode, we’re covering all of that and so much more.
Some key takeaways from this episode include:
So many Black women know what it means to be the only double minority in the room. It’s not something to celebrate anymore; we really need to question why there is not significantly more diversity in the workplace, specifically in the highest leadership roles.
Black women’s accomplishments have been dismissed because of affirmative action or DE&I, but Black women have earned their spots in their respective roles. Those programs simply get their foot in the door so they have the opportunity to showcase their qualifications.
Perfection is a huge weight that Black women carry because of the expectations to be the very best so they can get in the room. They have to be twice as good as their peers just to be seen as comparable to them. Even then, there’s a fear that even one mistake can derail it all.
Mothers are the queens of the castle, but let’s be real: it’s not all ball gowns and glass slippers. On this podcast, we’re giving you a peek Behind the Throne at the privilege and responsibility of wearing the crown. Hosted by Helen Hope Kimbrough - a proud wife and mom of two adult sons - and Charlitta Hatch, a proud wife, married to her high school sweetheart, and a proud mom of two little ones. Get ready as we share jewels with each other and you around all things connected to motherhood!
Connect with Us!:
Podcast Instagram
YouTube
Charlitta’s Instagram
Helen’s Instagram
58 min - 18. Our Top 5 Episodes, Reflecting on 2023, and our Goals for 2024
Season two and 2023 are coming to a close, so in this episode, we’re counting down our top five most viewed episodes of the year! Plus, we each share our reflections from the past year and our personal and professional goals for 2024. See you in season three!
Our Top 5 Episodes:
#5 - Ep. 3: Mom Hacks | Habits That Will Make Your Life Easier
#4 - Ep. 14: Navigating Career Changes & Identity Shifts in Motherhood
#3 - Ep. 12: The Affirmative Action Ruling
#2 - Ep. 6: The Challenges, Joys, and Misconceptions of Fatherhood feat. Marcus Kimbrough & Mark Hatch
#1 - Ep. 1: The Mothers That Shaped Our Own Motherhood Journeys
Some key takeaways from this episode include:
From parenthood, to mom hacks, to Black maternal health, this podcast has allowed us to cover so many different topics in just two seasons. We hope you’ll catch up on our content while we get ready for season three!
This show has also allowed us to step into a new level of sisterhood as podcast co-hosts! Even if you don’t have a podcast, I hope this show will empower you to start having deeper discussions with your friends.
Reflect on this last year and set your intentions and goals that you want to manifest in 2024. We can’t wait to achieve our goals together! Leave us a comment with your goals for next year so we can cheer you on!
Mothers are the queens of the castle, but let’s be real: it’s not all ball gowns and glass slippers. On this podcast, we’re giving you a peek Behind the Throne at the privilege and responsibility of wearing the crown. Hosted by Helen Hope Kimbrough - a proud wife and mom of two adult sons - and Charlitta Hatch, a proud wife, married to her high school sweetheart, and a proud mom of two little ones. Get ready as we share jewels with each other and you around all things connected to motherhood!
Connect with Us!:
Podcast Instagram
YouTube
Charlitta’s Instagram
Helen’s Instagram
17 min - 17. The Things I Learned From My Mom | Helen Interviews Her Son, Austin Kimbrough
This week, we have a very special guest on the podcast. Helen’s son, Austin Kimbrough is on the mic! Austin is living and working in Houston, Texas, so while he was home for Thanksgiving, he joined Helen in the studio to share the lessons he learned from his mom, what stuck into adulthood, and what he had to learn on his own.
Some key takeaways from this episode include:
It was important to Helen that Austin take school seriously and put a lot of effort into it, but Austin's goal was to do the bare minimum. In retrospect, he’s grateful she was involved in the school and pushed him to put his best foot forward.
Stay in tune with your child’s gifts and skills. Austin was always very expressive and talkative, and rather than train him out of that, Helen helped him hone those skills and learn to listen as well as he communicates.
Absolutely do everything you can to help your children learn life skills that will serve them well, but understand there are some things they will learn on their own through lived experiences that will drive home what you’ve been teaching them all along.
Mothers are the queens of the castle, but let’s be real: it’s not all ball gowns and glass slippers. On this podcast, we’re giving you a peek Behind the Throne at the privilege and responsibility of wearing the crown. Hosted by Helen Hope Kimbrough - a proud wife and mom of two adult sons - and Charlitta Hatch, a proud wife, married to her high school sweetheart, and a proud mom of two little ones. Get ready as we share jewels with each other and you around all things connected to motherhood!
Connect with Us!:
Podcast Instagram
YouTube
Charlitta’s Instagram
Helen’s Instagram
24 min - 16. An OB/GYN’s Perspective on Black Maternal Health With Dr. Mala Freeman-Kwaku
In the last episode, we shared our personal birth stories and how Black maternal health issues hit so close to home for us. In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Mala Freeman-Kwaku of Arboretum Gynecology in Charlotte, NC to share her perspective on the challenges Black women are facing in the healthcare system, what’s causing the disparities, and how we can make informed decisions about our care moving forward.
Dr. Mala Freeman-Kwaku is a board-certified obstetrician and gynecologist with twenty years of experience in obstetrics. She is a mother of four and believes in considering the whole woman when evaluating her healthcare needs.
Resources mentioned:
Listen to Ep. 15: Sharing Our Birth Stories | Black Maternal Health Pt. 1
All-hands-on-deck for Black maternal health by Eugene A. Woods
Some key takeaways from this episode include:
There is so much information available to us about pregnancy, birth, genetic information, and everything in between, but sometimes that information can incite fear and feel very overwhelming.
Personalization is missing from the healthcare system, especially OB/GYN care. If you can build a relationship with your healthcare provider, they can better assess when something’s wrong and how to advocate for your needs.
Your primary care physician can take care of a lot of your health needs, but having specialized doctors like a gynecologist is important as well. A gyno will give you specific care related to hormones, family planning, cancer screenings, and more.
Mothers are the queens of the castle, but let’s be real: it’s not all ball gowns and glass slippers. On this podcast, we’re giving you a peek Behind the Throne at the privilege and responsibility of wearing the crown. Hosted by Helen Hope Kimbrough - a proud wife and mom of two adult sons - and Charlitta Hatch, a proud wife, married to her high school sweetheart, and a proud mom of two little ones. Get ready as we share jewels with each other and you around all things connected to motherhood!
Connect with Us!:
Podcast Instagram
YouTube
Charlitta’s Instagram
Helen’s Instagram
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Mothers are the queens of the castle, but let’s be real: it’s not all ball gowns and glass slippers. On this podcast, we’re giving you a peek Behind the Throne at the privilege and responsibility of…
wearing the crown. Hosted by Helen Hope Kimbrough - a proud wife and mom of two adult sons - and Charlitta Hatch, a proud wife, married to her high school sweetheart, and a proud mom of two little ones. Get ready as we share jewels with each other and you around all things connected to motherhood!