House hunting taught me something I wasn't expecting. I thought the hardest part would be finding the right home. Instead, it was realizing how much of the process depends on making an impression, without ever being given enough time to make one.

Listen to this episode to hear what mattered most in the end.

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The movies we watch, the music we replay, the books we return to, the experiences we keep seeking out, none of it is random. If we pay attention, each one becomes a clue to who we really are. That's what this week's episode is about.

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“What are you shining the most light on?” my meditation teacher asked. I knew exactly what I was focusing on. And it was exhausting.

This episode is about a life circumstance I didn’t choose and the stories I’ve been weaving around it.

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My therapist once told me I'm not as difficult as I think I am. That stayed with me. For a long time I wondered if I was expecting too much. Almost guilty for expressing what I want.But I've realized that knowing what you need isn't being difficult. It's being self-aware.Isn't that the whole purpose of adulthood? To keep discovering more about ourselves, what works for us and what doesn't. Listen to it in my latest episode.

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I recently found out I have to leave the house we’ve called home for the past six years.

Since then, every corner of the house has started reminding me of the life we built here.

Plucking lemons from the backyard for my morning tea. Hearing the voices of school kids behind the fence. Waving goodbye to my son as he leaves for school each day.

Endings are never easy. Especially when we have to say goodbye before we’re ready.

Maybe part of life is learning how to end things well.

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None of us is taught how to have difficult conversations, so people do what feels most comfortable to them. We ghost, we get busy, we make excuses. And we move on carrying a little guilt, a little regret, knowing we could've handled things better.

What if incompatibility isn't a failure but just a fact of life?

In my latest episode I discuss why we struggle to tell friends and partners that things aren't working.

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In this episode, I reflect on something I read in How to See Yourself as You Really Are by the Dalai Lama that stayed with me long after I finished reading it.

It made me think about why people struggle to connect with those who have different beliefs, and how understanding another person’s faith or philosophy can sometimes feel threatening to our own identity.

Does learning about other people’s beliefs and respecting them make us any lesser?

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I walked onto the stage without my sheet music and had to walk back to get it. Then I played until I finished.

My first violin recital didn’t go the way I expected. So for my second, I was nervous going in. What if I mess up? What if I forget?

I had to coach myself through it. The goal wasn’t to be perfect. It was to keep playing, regardless of what happened in the middle.

This week’s essay and podcast episode are about what it actually feels like to perform when you're terrified of messing up.

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How we respond under pressure, who we reach for, and how much we rely on others often comes down to how supported we felt as children.

Some people move through the world feeling more secure. Others have to learn to build that over time.

I didn’t fully understand this until one night at the airport, trying to pick up my son. I couldn’t find the gate, and I kept calling my husband. No response.

And then I realized something. I wasn’t calling for directions. I was calling to feel okay.

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I thought I knew Trevor Noah’s story. I didn’t.

When I read Born a Crime, what stayed with me most wasn’t apartheid or even his survival skills.

It was his mother.

A woman who wasn’t afraid to break rules to give him a better life. She exposed him to books, sent him to better schools, and made sure he knew there was more to life than what he saw around him.

And yet, this fierce, fearless woman couldn’t protect herself.

It made me pause and think about my own son—and whether I’m doing enough to shape the man he’ll become.

This is a reflection on the bond between a mother and a son, and how she shaped him into the man he is.

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