In a world where everyone wants to be seen, heard, and understood, why do we so often expect that from others first—without pausing to offer it ourselves?

In this episode, I’m joined by Jennifer Tee (@Jenteemusic) to explore the complexities of expectations. The conversation looks at how people move through life on different timelines, and how lessons arrive at different moments for different individuals. It reflects on why seeking understanding matters, and how it can act as a bridge that deepens relationships, even though it is often mistaken for criticism.

The episode also questions whether it is fair to hold someone to a specific set of expectations if those ways of being do not come naturally to them. How do you know when someone is meant to stay in your life, and when it is time to walk away?

In this episode, I discuss the quiet struggles that come with growing older and the unspoken pressure to have life figured out and to know everything. After years of being under our parents’ guidance and control, learning to take hold of the steering wheel of your own life can feel both liberating and overwhelming. I explore the challenges of navigating the shifting nature of friendships in university and the workplace, and how, as we age, the experiences that shape us into the complex individuals we are also make it harder to find people who truly see and understand the depths of us, as everyone becomes more caught up in their own worlds.

In this episode, I’m joined by musician and songwriter Jennifer Tee (@Jenteemusic) to explore the role of catharsis in emotional release and how it supports emotional regulation. We discuss how catharsis can act as an outlet to process rather than suppress emotions, sharing personal experiences of navigating pain and trauma through journaling, conversations with friends, and physical activity. Jennifer also reflects on how her music has become more than just a creative expression for her but has been a profound and personal form of catharsis.

In this episode, I explore the common reasons behind our habit of suppressing emotions and how it can quietly impact both our mind and body. I also discuss the importance of allowing ourselves to feel and process our emotions as a step toward healing and growth. I’d love to hear your thoughts/comments - please share them with me! @beneathesurface.pod :)

In this first episode of Beneath the Surface, I open up about what led me to start this podcast—from living in fear of judgment to finally choosing myself. I also share the purpose behind creating this space and the topics I’ll be exploring, from self-growth and healing to navigating relationships and much more.