Die Gelykenis van die verlore Skapie

How to support someone who is going through a difficult period

Please also fill up all the radio silences, the waiting period, while we are waiting and expecting Your Eph 3:20 answer and transformation, fill it up with beautiful memories, that we can celebrate You in the waiting period, that we can fill up Instagram with so many beautiful memories You have created and orchestrated for us. 

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Please give the men seven compliments for each insult they have received, give them a positive boost in their self-esteem, make them whole, I love the Greek word for healing – sozo, give them daily, until it is complete emotional healing. I have also had this incident with my phone recently, the speaker stopped working. When I plug in my earphones it works perfectly, but the phone’s speaker stopped working. I did a quick Google search, they gave a couple of tricks, one was a ghost connection still present with a portable speaker. I switched of my blue tooth connection, then restarted the phone and then it worked perfectly. Sometimes I too think we have ghost connections still with the past, with an ex, with a mistake we make in the past, we are still captives in the hamster wheel of being Lot’s Wife. Please cut off all these ghost connections. Please erase, eliminate all the unholy soulties. I also belief further we start getting hardened hearts, we try to protect our hearts ourselves. Please Lord give us marshmallow hearts again, we surrender all the need and will to protect ourselves. I do not want to guard my heart anymore, I want you to guard it for me. 

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God also recently revealed to me that the reason why we should not covet is because everything is supposed to inspire us to pray bigger. My one friend recently departed on an all expenses paid trip to Israel, she sent me the forwarded whatsapp her friend sent her to invite her along to Israel. I said Lord if you did it for you, you will definitely do it for me too. This was a source of inspiration for prayer for me. I have actually had a couple of close encounters to this major bucket list item to visit Israel this year, I see these as preparations. So instead of the men being intimidated by us, switch off the covet or intimidated button in their soul, and switch on the being inspired button instead. 

It recently came under my attention that maybe I’m too independent, I’m 36years old, never been married, so I’m used to making plans on my own. So me and my one friend, shoutout to my cut wisdom decided we need to work on it. As fate would have it, my laptop crashed a couple of days later, I thought this was an excellent situation to be more needy. Needy is a label I have never had in my life. I planted the seeds, with no success, off course my girlfriends, without me even asking came to my rescue, offering a loaned laptop until I buy a new one, another shoutout to my Hero-colleague, my other friend said she will ask her husband for counselling and guidance, another shoutout to my marshmallow friend. But now I’m a little bit confused? So teach me Lord, how to ask for assistance better in the future. I want to be a Ruth, whom Boas assisted. I also know about the Jefferson concept, asking for help might increase the person’s fondness of you. 

Give us a battle plan, a plan of strategy with each man in our life, some men need constant boosts of their ego, other despises it, some need you to ask for assistance, some just want random information about your life, but teach us, You are the best teacher, You know the inner chambers of their hearts, you know the voids in their life, please teach us. Who taught Delila how to tempt Simson? Was it You or was it the enemy? If it was You, please teach us the same way you taught Delila, if it was the enemy, he copy cat something you made to be used for something beautiful, so teach us how to use it conductively. We want the Delila super power. Give us good connections too, something that we see that will remind us of them, something intimate we can share with them and they will understand the context of this. Please also clear all the blocked communication the enemy has blocked. Please flood our communication channels with your elysian, Spiritual drain cleaner. 

I once dated a Swiss guy, his first language was German, then Swiss-German, then French, then English. So our communication was strained, to say the least, shoutout to all international couples out there I salute you, that is challenging to say the least. Deepl translator soon became my best friend while we were dating. He battled to say he was scared; instead he used to say I’m scary, so this part of the podcast is then appropriately named 50 shades of scary. The numerous masks I have encountered that men decide to wear when they are scary, are as countless as the stars in the sky. This realization only came to me after years of Spirit-led counselling and life-coaching. This time last year I thought I had a battle-plan against the deep-seated root of fear when entering a relationship, it is only now that I realize no earthly battle plan, no earthly weapons can enter this spiritual war, hence now I’m changing once again my strategy to heavenly or spiritual weapons against the 50 shades of scary. 

On this topic of understanding the subtitles of their emotions, their messages, I once listened to this very profound Podcast from Rob Bell, this is just another note, prayer and declaration that I would like to make, I want the double portion of anointing than Rob Bell have, all the healing and grace I have written on the tables of my heart by listening to all of his podcast, my prayer is that this Podcast will have double the anointing effect on the listeners. Just me feeling generous, just me feeling loved and sharing the love. Rob Bell spoke about the order that we have to love God with all our strength, he touched on the topic that some people have less strength, or less muchness as he explained it on the Podcast. 

This also stroke a chord deep inside me, I know I’m intense, I overlove, I invest a lot in other people’s life, because God has filled me with His Spirit and not with a small measure, God has given me so many beautiful flower-people along the way, so I have a Land Cruiser size love-tank inside me, but some people only have a Pasola kind of love-tank inside of them. I have also been down and out in my life, where just the hallo how are you kind of whatsapp message was all that I had energy for to muster up, just to get a little bit of attention. So this is also a journey I’m currently on, like Jesus saw the lady giving only two coins and He said she gave the most, some people can only muster up a little bit of love, only the two coins amount of love, but they gave you all the love they have inside of them. May we learn daily not to trample on the two coins kind of love, because it is literally all they have. May we celebrate these two coins kind of love, the same way we will celebrate the Land Cruiser love tank kind of love, because after all, it is only grace that we have the Land Cruiser love-tank, nothing special we did right and they did wrong. I want the men in my life to love me like they do, I do not want them to conform to the existing ideas and thoughts I think this is what love is, I want them to love me like they do.

I truly belief something magically happens when you plan a romantic date or a romantic breakaway for your loved one. I actually think that you invest a small little part of your heart or your soul into the other person. Thinking and planning what the other person will like, what will please them. I’m not a Mugg and Bean kind of date girl, I know I’m high maintenance, I was actually at a hair salon about three years back, and then the topic once again surfaced why are you still single? Then the cleaning lady chirped into the conversation, saying she is difficult. It is a label I will take on gladly, I have standards, I’m worthy and I know I’m something special, so are you, we all are. We need to be cherished. So last week I went on one of those finely planned and orchestrated dates, my first Uber ride ever, it was one of my favourite dates ever. May God infuse the men with a copy and paste effect of my planned date for all of the Princesses out there. I have recently heard that the reason why we have to give testimonies is because the root of the word testimony is for God to do it again. 

Editors note – while I was writing the script for this podcast, the song from James actually played on the radio, I listened to LM Radio – a huge shoutout to LM Radio all the way from Maputo, Mozambique for your fantastic playlists, always providing me with a source of inspiration in the music stream. While the song was playing, I said a little prayer to God –please God restore the passion again in our marriages, in our relationships. 

I have been intensely journeying with several women over the cause of the past three years, numerous times I have seen the severe influence the condition of the man’s heart have on the women. I truly belief in happy wife, happy life. In order for this statement to manifest, I cannot help but to think that we should really start investing more time in praying for the emotional wellbeing of the men in our lives. So this is the sole purpose of this podcast season, giving you bullet-points on how to pray for the men in your life, do not only think about your husband, boyfriend or fiancee, no think broader think about your father, your brothers, your friend’s husbands, your colleagues and your male friends. I have realized that we serve a talking-God, God wants us not only to think about Him, but He wants us to declare His Promises over our lives, He wants us to declare His blessings over our lives. Furthermore I see one of my callings on life to inspire fellow pilgrims to inspirational creative, next level prayers, so here goes. May this inspire you. 

Furthermore before I continue to pray, I have seen time and time again that the darkest hour is just before the dawn, that it usually goes a little bit more difficult before it gets easier. I want to pray against that from the start, please place us in your bubble of protection, but furthermore please erase all the backlashes from the devil as we launch this prayer campaign for praying for the men in our lives. Furthermore I also declare that You will infuse me with Your creative Holy Spirit in order for the ideas to flow, furthermore I also declare that You will give us confirmations on so many different levels, You are the creative, limitless God, that will answer our prayers in a myriad of ways. 

I’m an alien, I’m a legal alien, this is how feel time and time again when I spend time with my family. I feel weird, I feel a little bit unnoticed. Jesus preached that a prophet will not be recognized in their own fatherland, this is something that I can definitely say a big fat huge amen to. This is something that I came across time and time again. So I have this new policy about my journey called life, I will invest 90% praying about a matter, then 10% talking to the person about the problem. I really see things happen when we pray, we actually ask God to soak their minds and hearts in His Holy Spirit, the same way we allow a good old steak to marinate before we cook it, the same happens when we pray about something. So let the marinating begin. 

I want God firstly to unlearn all the mental strongholds we have cultivated over the years. I recently listened to an Alan Storey sermon, I will post the link below on Peter unlearning what he thought was right about the gentiles. God took Peter on an adventurous journey, first through visions, then secondly by travelling to Cornelius, then lastly God had the Holy Spirit manifest on the gentile Cornelius family. This is how I see God, He constantly wants to take us out on adventures, so may He take our family on a lovely adventure together to unlearn all the lies we are currently believing in. 

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So this is the third conflict, accusing situation by the Pharisees to Jesus, when will they ever learn? When will they ever cease? Maybe you can relate to this, you have the same issues resurfacing continuously in your life. I personally have a boulevard of broken love relationships. Even Jesus battled with the same issue popping and re-entering continuously in His life, even when He has won notoriously and victoriously every time before. First with the paraplegic by performing a double whammy of a miracle, healing the man and reading their thoughts, they still kept coming back for more, for more humiliation. 

The second time they tried to ask Him a trick question, He aced it, giving them the royal flush or three very valuable answers, that He likes a challenge, that He is not a threat for them, He goes to the lost cases, Priests and Pharisees waited for people to come to them, so they were serving to totally different markets. It is as good a five star restaurant are scared that they are going to loose business because a burger king opened up next to them. 

Now the opening scene of confrontation number three – why do you not fast like all the other rabbis and disciples? So take heed my beating restless heart, Jesus already has the solution for every recurring issue in your life.