Late Diagnosis, Masking & the Motherload with Victoria Hausler
This episode is a bit like sitting in on two neurodivergent women unpacking years of “what the actual fuck?” moments—with a side of humour, a splash of parenting honesty, and a big dose of finally feeling seen.
I’m joined by the powerhouse that is Victoria Hausler—founder of Dara Disability and Dara Wellness Services. We talk about the moment it all started to click (thanks to her son), the fallout of years of masking, and the unexpected liberation that comes with a late diagnosis.
From hypermobility to weighted blankets, eyebrow quirks to literal interpretations of social niceties… this is the conversation that shows you’re not alone—and you’re definitely not weird (or if you are, you’ve got company).
Whether you’re fresh to your diagnosis or just starting to question the rules you’ve followed your whole life, there’s something in here for you. And if you’ve ever thought, “am I just making this up?”—this one’s a must.
🧠 What We Talk About
00:00 – Welcome to Talking Twaddle
Why we’re sharing these stories—and what they unlock for all of us.
03:12 – Victoria’s late diagnosis & the trigger moment
Parenting her son opened the floodgates for her own neurodivergent discovery.
10:30 – Masking, mirroring & the performance of fitting in
How childhood habits stuck, and the cost of never showing up fully.
16:40 – Unmasking & what’s been gained (and lost)
Letting go of the performance—and what falls apart in the process.
22:15 – Sensory quirks, disordered eating, and the magic of mugs
Comfort, regulation, and learning to work with your wiring.
30:45 – Motherhood, marriage & the silent resentment trap
What happens when the ‘coping mechanisms’ can’t hold anymore.
42:00 – Literal brains, awkward friendships & social confusion
Why “we should catch up” is a dangerous phrase.
52:00 – Building a neuro-affirming business (without knowing it)
How Victoria created a safe space for women that reflects her own journey.
59:45 – Final reflections
Connection, community, and stepping into your own story—without apology.
💬 Quote of the Episode
"Go forth without fear, without judgment of yourself. Step into your power." – Victoria Hausler
🔗 Learn More
Guest: Victoria Hausler
Founder of Dara Disability & Dara Wellness Services
Creating safe, empowering spaces for neurodivergent women.
📸 Instagram: [@victoriahausler_dara]
🌐 Website: [daradisabilityservices.com.au]
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