Better Divorce Podcast

Join Paulette and Anja for this candid conversation that digs deep into how relationships can thrive even in the most difficult of times. 

Anja is a mother of 2, in an intercultural relationship empowering other hardworking mothers (as a relationship coach) to live a happier and more fulfilling life, full of passion love and understanding- balancing energy, work & family by discovering their inner goddess.

Here is a little of her story! 

I got married when I was only 23 years old.

So when I fell in love with my, now ex-husband, it didn’t take us long to get married. Neither did it take us long to get divorced :), but I have to say all these things we all so often call mistakes and wrongs, shaped me into the person I am today. Would not change a thing about my past.

Right after the first year of studying Chinese studies at my local university, I decided to move FAR AWAY FROM SLOVENIA, and try out China. I went there with a one-way plane ticket, and that definitely was a ride of my life. Not the plane ride of course. I ended up living there for over 3 years, where of course, I met my ex-husband and the stories I have to tell you about that period of my life – not enough time in this post …

It was with a help of newly made friends that I finally found the RIGHT STRENGTH and started saying NO to the wrong things. After a year of a sad and unhappy marriage, I decided to get divorced. OMG, that felt good! People around me freaked out completely, as I was going mad, but nobody stopped and asked me to explain the sudden change of heart. It did not mean, I did not love him, OH LORD I DID – but I just knew this love will take me to the grave unless I CHANGE.

At 24, divorced. Only a kid was missing and that would have really been an upsetting story. But thanks to God, I was still being protected a bit, not to screw myself up completely.

Well, that was just one of the fears going through my mind at that time – but here I am, with the BEST HUBBY I could have imagined, who of course IS my best friend, with our newly born son KIAN, happily living in the CARIBBEAN.

Curious about how to achieve the desired things?

My IG & CH handle: justahappymum

Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com

Meet Kim Feeney!

- Play Therapist and founder of Butterfly Beginnings Counseling

Kim is a licensed independent social worker and registered play therapist supervisor

She has ten years of experience working with children and families helping them to lead healthier emotional lives.

She owns a private practice, Butterfly Beginnings Counseling in Davenport, IA but works nationally as well...

Paulette and Kim explore the misconceptions and pains children have about how they experience divorce.

How did your experience as a child of divorce give you a greater advantage or insight into helping?

What is co-parenting?

Co-parenting refers to the act of two parents raising a child even though they are no longer romantically involved.

Was it the chocolate pudding? 

Learn to create I Love You Rituals.

What are the benefits of co-parenting?

Children benefit from consistency.

6 tips to effective co-parenting:

1. Set hurt and anger aside,

2. Be consistent, respectful, and kind,

3. Use a website or app to communicate more effectively,

4. Have a brief, monthly "parental team meeting",

5. Accept that the co-parent is still your child's parent,

6. Make transitions and visitation easier on the kids.

It is possible to create a new relationship with your ex that focuses on and meets the needs of the child(ren).

free guide 6 ways parents can help children cope with big emotions available at www.butterflybeginningscounseling.com/coping

Kim can help!

Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com

Join Paulette and Gabrielle as they engage in a candid and fact filled, heartfelt conversation about all things divorce. Are you in need of direction and clarity on how to know if mediation is the right choice for you? Look no further. 

Gabrielle Hartley is a nationally recognized divorce attorney, online mediator, divorce strategy coach and author of Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate.  

She is committed to keeping the online divorce mediation process as simple and streamlined as possible. She trains divorce professionals to bring the highest level of conflict resolution into their practice.  She is a highly respected negotiator, author and an engaging, dynamic speaker

Gabrielle is known for her unique, non-toxic approach to divorce that she has developed over twenty five years. She keeps 99% of her cases out of the courtroom and at the negotiating table, as she effectively supports her clients to create a healthy, uplifted post-divorce life for them.

Her parents split when she and her brother were children in the 1980s. Even when the road was bumpy, they resolved their differences out of court and modeled positive co-parenting. When she clerked for Judge Sunshine in the divorce court in New York City both in private practice and clerking for a judge, she realized that her parents were onto something.

Gabrielle created The Better Apart® Blitz Mediation to help people move through and beyond the divorce process with minimal stress and maximum ease.

When Gabrielle was a baby lawyer mediation was not widely accepted or respected.  After working for years to create a streamlined effective practice model that is delivered across the country online.

Today Gabrielle offers The Better Apart® Total Practice Makeover to help divorce professionals  to create their optimal divorce mediation practice.

www.gabriellehartley.com 

Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com

Dr. Holly helps sincere, kindhearted, conscious single clients find the love of their dreams.  

With a doctorate in clinical psychology and a successful career in executive search, she is uniquely qualified to find your perfect match.  She founded Find Love At Last in 2014 to help sincere women and men find lasting love and has been a matchmaker, coach, and image consultant for over 8 years. Working with sincere, commitment-minded single men and women who are ready for love, she introduces you to high-caliber matches to create the love you desire.  

Dr. Holly is a dating expert and inspiring speaker who empowers, advises, and speaks on image, strategy, online dating, partner suitability, communication, and commitment.  Her office is in San Francisco, California.  Additionally, she brings more than 15 years of rich personal dating experience before finding the wonderful man with whom she is happily committed.  She created this boutique love life agency to expedite your path to love.

Cultivating love one client at a time is her passion and she would love for you to be her next success story!                                 

So let's get started.  Haven't you waited long enough?

Paulette’s personal 8.5 years litigated and appellant experience and expertise make her strive to create clear efficient direction, move resiliently through extreme stress, and save precious time and money to create a satisfying solution and find purpose, means, pleasure and freedom.

As Founder of Better Divorce Academy, she breaks down divorce from the earliest stages of contemplation to the necessary final steps of healing using practical tools, inspiration, and a proven mediation/negotiation model.

Her specialty is working with high-achieving professional and entrepreneurial women in high-conflict narcissistic abuse divorce cases. Her community saves time, money, heartache and is changing the landscape and outcome of the divorce journey for every family member, particularly the children.

Paulette is an E-RYT 500, Sacred Space Yoga School RYS teacher trainer, a certified birth doula, a coach, and a personal guide and facilitator in The Four Desires. She has additional training and experience in Pilates, Reiki, Thai bodywork, macrobiotic cooking, and counseling through The Kushi Institute.

Drawing on her thirty-five years of experience, Paulette is a pioneer in the world of wellness and transformation and brings strength and breadth to her ability to help her clients heal.

She’s an ex-Bostonian, ex-pat Belizean who now loves living in Atlanta. She is an avid traveler, obsessed plant-based foodie, passionate minimalist, wife to her remarkable husband Steven, and mom to 5 amazing kids, and the sweetest Chiweenie, Lulu. She loves Sade, Plant Based Cuisine, Sushi, SUP, Aerial yoga, and The band: America.

Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com

Meet Heather! 

A seasoned chiropractor with a specialized certification in Wellness Chiropractic (CCWP), Certified Personal Trainer, speaker and author, Dr. Heather brings decades of experience to the stage. 

She has presented at conferences and global companies such as Microsoft. 

She has been published in Medium, Paleo magazine, and Thrive Global and authored The Three Day Reset. 

Her signature program, The Wellness Amplifier Performance Program, helps catalyze optimal wellness and catapult employee's productivity, effectiveness, and success.

How do people connect with you after the show?

Heather has a special free GIFT for you! LINK below. 

https://www.wellnessamplifier.com/happy-pillow-optin

In health and Potential,

Heather Denniston DC CCWP NASM

Author - The Three Day Reset

Speaker - Keynote Media Kit

Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com

Meet Leila! She spent a great deal of time recently thinking about why she does what she does. Listen here as she explains her story a bit.

I guess it all started when I was very young, and my parents divorced. It was so painful.

I was five (5), living in Iran at a time when divorce was still relatively rare. In Iran, children of divorce generally lived with their mother until they started school around age seven (7). Once they started school, primary custody transferred to the father and his family. In my case, for a variety of reasons, my father was granted primary custody of me and my younger sister well before either of us turned seven (7). This meant that we only saw our mom on weekends. During weekdays, we lived at our father’s home while our grandmother and aunt helped us with our education and daily well-being needs without any communication with our mom. I mostly remember this as a very difficult and sad time. I longed to see my mom but feared letting my family know how I felt. Speaking to my family about my pain and sadness was not an option.

In hindsight, my parents no longer living together wasn’t nearly as bad as not being able to openly and freely love both of them. Visitation, phone calls, expressing joy about the other parent was stilted. Loyalties were always tested. Without a doubt, these tense times truly shaped me and my decision to want to help families in similar situations resolve and restructure their families in a better way.

After attending college in Iran, I decided to move to the United States to pursue a legal career. I always knew my mission was to serve children and I knew a legal career in the U.S. would offer me the opportunity to use my dedication and commitment to help families. After a crash course in English (my native language is Farsi), I attended law school and passed the California State Bar in 2017. A few years into my legal career, the perfect career opportunity materialized at Family Peacemaker.

I wake up every day joyfully knowing that I am a FAMILY PEACEMAKER! I help families peacefully transition and restructure for the benefit of generations to come. I personally know the pain of divorce and parental alienation and am committed to improving divorce outcomes. I look forward to using my life experience, skills, and heart to help your family experience a more hopeful and peaceful future.

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Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com

Want to be a divorce thriver? 

It’s possible, even when you’re anxious and feel like a failure. 

When Kim’s marriage wasn’t working, she was nearly overcome with anxiety. She did everything possible to avoid conflict with her spouse. 

Like the good wife she was trying to be, she was staying married for the sake of her kids. And because she believed marriage was for life. It wasn’t working. She felt like a failure. For three years, she lived in limbo, with tension growing in her home. They hardly spoke. It was so bad that Kim thought a good solution would be if he died. 

In other words: it was a nightmare, and Kim didn’t know what to do to make it better. Traditional divorce terrified her. She’d represented clients in family court, and knew all too well what divorce looked like through a lawyer’s eyes: high conflict, lots of drama, and big legal bills. She didn’t want her kids to suffer through traditional divorce. She didn’t want to fight for years, either. That would harm them. 

Acting instinctively for the good of her kids, Kim created a healthier and more peaceful approach to divorce. Very soon after they separated, she stopped being angry all the time and felt relief. She began to experience joy. As they moved through the divorce process, there was no drama or big legal expenses. They communicated better and worked together to create fair results that continue to work for their family. Because of this approach to divorce, everyone in their family has thrived. 

Even though she has two degrees in law (LLB & LLM), Kim’s no longer a practicing attorney. She dedicates herself to working with families as a mediator or consultant to help them communicate better, figure out what’s best for their family, and divorce peacefully. Kim lives in Regina, Saskatchewan with her two kids, second husband, retired rescue greyhounds and rescue cats. 

Most recently, she and her former spouse have begun co-parenting a cat. What makes this remarkable is that he is allergic to cats. “Acting instinctively for the good of her kids, Kim created a healthier and more peaceful approach to divorce. Very soon after they separated, she stopped being angry all the time, and felt relief. She began to experience joy.” 

Want to learn how to create these results for you and your kids? Scheduling a free 20-minute drama-free divorce consult with Kim is your first step.

Book YOUR DRAMA-FREE DIVORCE CONSULT “As they moved through the divorce process, there was no drama or big legal expenses. They communicated better and worked together to create fair results that continue to work for their family.” Be Curious. Not Furious. 

Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com

Meet Lori Osmond!! 

Personal safety expert. She is passionate about educating, equipping and empowering with strategies and products to protect and defend.

www.safetymomma.com. She offers many pain compliance tools to protect yourself and your family.

Her mission is to educate, equip, and empower women and children! She is expanding across the USA and want YOU to join us. We need to change the horrific sexual assault and sexual abuse statistics now! 

https://www.mydamselpro.net/loriosmond?fbclid=IwAR0ZKhvfqMqFhrsXX8WaBENHLJZg4XDGJDvNQuy2IEMA0Jc5K7BPtcVBmvk

Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com

Coach Michelle is a high conflict resolution coach, an attorney, and a badass single mom. She helps parents disengage from high conflict relationships, getting them out of court, and stepping back into their lives. Her unique combination as a certified Martha Beck life coach, a lawyer for almost 20 years, her field of study in Psychology, and her own personal family law experience, makes Michelle a well-rounded coach, capable of helping parents learn how to disengage from a challenging and protracted co-parenting relationship.

Topics Michelle and Paulette discuss in today's episode: 

• The fastest way to get out of family court and step back into your life is to disengage from the conflict.

• It only takes one parent to disengage.

• Disengaging from the conflict does NOT mean letting go of your reasonable boundaries.

• When you’re forced to go to court, it is vital that you prepare yourself to disengage from the conflict.

• In family court, there’s really no such thing as “winning”.

• You can’t move forward with living your best life if you’re stuck in the trenches in family court.

Michelle was the first person in her family to go to college or graduate school, earning a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and Philosophy, as well as her Juris Doctorate.

• She has always been passionate about helping people overcome life’s obstacles, and re-inventing themselves.

• Michelle was raising her son as a single mom when she was 38, and she chose to have a second child on her own at 40. Parenting her two kids and raising them to appreciate the importance of social justice and equality is what she is most proud of.

Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com

Stephanie Tang is a family law attorney, mediator, and collaborative law professional at Kogut & Wilson, L.L.C.

She strives to provide personalized attention to her clients by walking them through each step of the litigation or settlement process.

Her effective communication and organizational skills help clients feel comfortable and prepared throughout their case.

As a certified mediator and Fellow with the Collaborative Divorce Illinois, Stephanie offers clients alternative means to resolve their divorce outside of the courtroom.

Stephanie was previously selected to receive the AVVO Clients' Choice Award in Divorce for outstanding client reviews from clients she represented through divorce proceedings and has been selected by her peers as a Super Lawyers Rising Star in Family Law since 2018

Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com