With the recent release of "Co-Parenting by Design: The Definitive Guide for Divorced or Separated Parents," we're excited to revisit our enlightening conversation with authors Annette Burns and Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner. In this episode, Megan sits down with these experienced family law attorneys and parenting coordinators to discuss the challenges of co-parenting and share practical advice for navigating high-conflict situations. From understanding the role of parenting coordinators to adapting to change and prioritizing children's needs, this timely rebroadcast is packed with invaluable insights for divorced or separated parents at any stage of their co-parenting journey.

REBROADCAST

Navigating the Challenges of Co-Parenting: Insights from Annette Burns and Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner

In this episode of "It's All Your Fault," Megan is joined by two special guests, Annette Burns and Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner, co-authors of the upcoming book Co-Parenting by Design: The Definitive Guide for Divorced or Separated Parents. Annette and Nicole, both experienced family law attorneys and parenting coordinators, share their insights on navigating the complexities of co-parenting and offer practical advice for parents facing high conflict situations.

Understanding the Role of Parenting Coordinators

Megan, Annette, and Nicole delve into the crucial role of parenting coordinators in helping divorced or separated parents resolve disputes and maintain focus on their children's best interests. They discuss how parenting coordinators act as referees, mediators, and educators, assisting parents in making decisions on issues such as parenting schedules, school choice, and healthcare.

Adapting to Change and Prioritizing Children's Needs

The guests emphasize the importance of adaptability in co-parenting, as children's needs and circumstances evolve over time. They highlight the challenges parents face when adjusting to new situations, such as remarriage, relocation, and changes in parenting time. Annette and Nicole stress the significance of prioritizing children's well-being and maintaining consistency in parenting approaches whenever possible.

Questions we answer in this episode:

• What is a parenting coordinator, and how can they help divorced or separated parents?
• How can parents navigate changes in their children's lives and adapt their co-parenting strategies?
• What is parallel parenting, and when is it an appropriate approach?
• How can parents handle disagreements over parenting styles and household rules?
• What resources are available for parents struggling with high conflict co-parenting situations?

Key Takeaways:

1. Parenting coordinators play a vital role in assisting divorced or separated parents in resolving disputes and focusing on their children's best interests.
2. Adaptability is crucial in co-parenting as children's needs and circumstances change over time.
3. Parallel parenting can be an effective approach for high conflict situations, but its implementation varies depending on the family's unique dynamics.
4. Parents should strive for consistency in parenting approaches whenever possible while respecting each other's parenting time and decision-making authority.
5. Seeking education, resources, and support from professionals can help parents navigate the challenges of high conflict co-parenting.

This episode offers invaluable insights and practical advice for divorced or separated parents facing the challenges of co-parenting. By learning from the expertise of Annette Burns and Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner, listeners can gain a deeper understanding of how to prioritize their children's well-being, adapt to change, and navigate high conflict situations. Co-Parenting by Design promises to be an essential resource for parents, lawyers, and judges alike, providing guidance and strategies for creating a healthier co-parenting dynamic.

Links & Other Notes

• BOOKS
  • Co-parenting by Design: The Definitive Guide for Divorced or Separated Parents 
• GUEST BIOS
  • Annette T. Burns, JD
  • Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner
• OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior. Nor are we providing legal of therapeutic advice. Please seek the assistance of your local professionals to seek help.

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As we approach the holiday season, we thought it would be the perfect time to revisit one of our most popular episodes from last year. In the spirit of the season, we're rebroadcasting our timely discussion on maintaining harmony and peace during holiday gatherings. Whether you're hosting or attending a get-together with family and friends, the tips and insights shared by Bill and Megan from the High Conflict Institute are as relevant as ever. So, sit back, relax, and join us as we explore effective strategies for avoiding and defusing conflicts, ensuring that your holiday celebrations are filled with joy, connection, and understanding. Happy holidays!

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Keeping the Peace This Holiday Season
Bill and Megan share tips for avoiding and defusing conflict at holiday gatherings. They offer insights from their work at the High Conflict Institute.

In this timely episode, Bill and Megan explain how to prevent and de-escalate heated arguments that often arise when families reconnect after time apart. Listeners gain practical techniques to maintain a peaceful, enjoyable atmosphere.

Avoiding Hot-Button Topics
Bill notes that the high-emotion holidays can bring out uncontrolled behavior in some. He suggests posting a respectful gathering policy and having “minders” to gently redirect tense interactions.

Megan explores preparation strategies like using self-talk and conversation redirection. Scheduling reminders helps you remember useful tools in the moment.

Defusing Tensions
Bill advocates saving sensitive discussions for one-on-one talks, where polarization decreases. Groups often split into factions and fuel discord.

Megan shares a touching example of connection occurring when two mothers met and shared their grief privately. Individual stories build bridges.

Why It Matters
Bill and Megan provide simple but powerful ways to maintain self-control and model peaceful conflict resolution this season. Their advice offers pathways to joyful gatherings.

Questions we answer:

• How can hosts set ground rules for respectful interactions?
• What tools can help individuals avoid unproductive fights?
• When and how should difficult topics be addressed?

Key Takeaways:

• Posting expectations and having “minders” can prevent problems.
• Preparation and self-talk help you respond calmly in the moment.
• Save sensitive talks for one-on-one conversations later.
• Shared stories build connections between individuals.

This timely episode provides useful techniques to prevent discord and promote goodwill this holiday season. Bill and Megan’s practical advice will help listeners consciously create an atmosphere of peace, joy and understanding.

Links & Other Notes

• RESPECTFUL GATHERING POLICY
  • Download HCI’s Respectful Gathering Policy to hang up before your holiday gatherings
• BOOKS
  • Calming Upset People with EAR (communication technique)
• ARTICLES
  • Handling High Conflict Situations During the Holidays
  • Calming Holiday Conflicts
• OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior. Nor are we providing legal of therapeutic advice. Please seek the assistance of your local professionals to seek help.

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Protecting the Elderly from High Conflict Personalities

In this episode, Bill and Megan explore the challenges faced by the elderly population in dealing with high conflict personalities. As the global population ages and birth rates decline, it's crucial to understand how to identify and manage individuals who may pose a threat to the well-being of our elderly loved ones.

The hosts discuss how high conflict personalities, such as those with antisocial, narcissistic, or borderline traits, can take advantage of the elderly's vulnerability through manipulation and control. They provide practical advice on recognizing red flags and supporting elderly individuals who may be experiencing abuse.

Questions we answer in this episode:

• What makes the elderly vulnerable to high conflict personalities?
• How can you identify potential abuse of an elderly loved one?
• What steps can you take to support and protect an elderly individual?

Key Takeaways:

• High conflict personalities often lack restraints, making the elderly more vulnerable to manipulation.
• Loneliness and isolation can make the elderly more susceptible to being taken advantage of.
• It's essential to ask specific questions about potential abuse, as the elderly may be afraid to speak up.
• Family members and friends should stay involved in the lives of their elderly loved ones and be vigilant in recognizing signs of abuse.

This episode provides valuable insights and advice for anyone with elderly loved ones. By understanding the challenges faced by the elderly and learning to identify and manage high conflict personalities, listeners can play an active role in protecting the well-being of the older generation.

Links & Other Notes

• BOOKS
  • Our New World of Adult Bullies
  • 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
• CLASS
  • Conflict Influencer™ Class
• ARTICLES
  • Protecting the Elderly in Our New World of Adult Bullies
• OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including  audio and e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior. Nor are we providing legal of therapeutic advice. Please seek the assistance of your local professionals to seek help.

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Navigating High Conflict Relationships: Your Questions Answered

In this ask-and-answer episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter from the High Conflict Institute tackle three key listener questions about managing challenging relationships and dealing with high conflict personalities.

First Question: "What do you suggest for someone who realizes they have a high conflict personality?" Bill and Megan explore self-awareness as the crucial first step toward positive change, offering practical steps for self-improvement and resources available through the High Conflict Institute.

Second Question: From a professional helping a client whose "ex-wife is creating chaos with false allegations." The hosts address this challenging custody situation, offering practical advice for self-represented individuals in family court. Bill shares specific strategies for organizing and presenting evidence effectively.

Third Question: Dealing with an adult brother who moved back in with elderly parents, leading to family rifts and restraining orders. Bill and Megan discuss the concept of "negative advocates" and provide strategies for maintaining relationships when family members take sides in conflicts.

Questions we answer in this episode:

• What resources help someone identify and address their own high conflict behaviors?
• How can someone self-representing handle false allegations in family court?
• What strategies work when dealing with negative advocates in family conflicts?
• How can you support an elderly parent struggling with family conflict?
• What approaches help maintain relationships during family disputes?

Key Takeaways:

• Self-awareness is the first step in addressing high conflict behaviors
• Focus on three main patterns when presenting evidence in court
• Maintain gentle, friendly communication with family members who've taken sides
• Professional local support is crucial for specific situation guidance
• Understanding negative advocacy helps navigate family conflicts

This episode provides practical guidance for anyone dealing with high conflict relationships, whether personally experiencing these behaviors or managing them in others. Bill and Megan offer actionable advice while maintaining sensitivity toward complex family dynamics.

Links & Other Notes

• BOOKS
  • It’s All Your Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything
  • Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
• COURSES
  • New Ways for Families Course + Coaching for Co-Parents
  • Conflict Influencer Class (for everyone)
• PROFESSIONAL TRAINING
  • New Ways for Families Training
• OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior. Nor are we providing legal of therapeutic advice. Please seek the assistance of your local professionals to seek help.

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Tackling Listener Questions on High Conflict Personalities in Family Law

In this episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter address questions from two listeners about high conflict personalities in family law. They dive into the complexities of parental alienation, domestic violence allegations, and when to stop fighting in court.

Listener Question 1: Understanding Parental Alienation and Estrangement

The first listener asks about the confusion surrounding parental alienation. Bill defines key terms: "refuse and resist," parental alienation, and realistic estrangement. He explains the differences between alienation caused by one parent's behavior and estrangement resulting from a parent's own actions, such as domestic violence or child abuse.

Listener Question 2: When to Stop Fighting in Court

The second listener, from Australia, asks when to give up the fight with a high conflict ex-partner who continues to violate court orders. Bill and Megan address the issue of "legal abuse" and the limitations of the court system in handling these situations effectively.

Questions We Answer in This Episode:

• What is the difference between parental alienation and realistic estrangement?
• How common are false allegations of abuse in family court?
• When should you stop fighting in court with a high conflict ex-partner?

Key Takeaways:

• Consider all possibilities in each case without presumptions.
• Parental alienation and domestic violence both exist and require careful assessment.
• Fighting in court for more than two years may be counterproductive.
• Obtain transcripts of court hearings to address false statements or bad decisions.

This episode provides valuable insights for anyone navigating high conflict personalities in family law. Bill and Megan offer a balanced perspective, emphasizing the need for an open mind and case-by-case analysis.

Links & Other Notes

• BOOKS
  • Don’t Alienate the Kids: Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High-Conflict Divorce
  • The High-Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide
• COURSES
  • New Ways for Families Course + Coaching for Co-Parents
  • Conflict Influencer Class
• OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior. Nor are we providing legal of therapeutic advice. Please seek the assistance of your local professionals to seek help.

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Paranoid High Conflict Personalities: Navigating Mistrust and Suspicion

In the final episode of their "Five Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life" series, Bill and Megan explore the world of paranoid high conflict personalities. They offer insights on identifying and managing these challenging relationships, explaining that individuals with paranoid traits exhibit pervasive mistrust and suspicion, often believing others are conspiring against them.

Bill and Megan provide strategies for dealing with paranoid high conflict personalities, such as clear communication, setting boundaries, and seeking support. They also discuss the impact of technology and social media on paranoid thinking.

Questions we answer in this episode:

• What are the key characteristics of paranoid high conflict personalities?
• How can you manage relationships with these individuals?
• What resources are available for those dealing with paranoid high conflict personalities?

Key Takeaways:

• Paranoid high conflict personalities are characterized by pervasive mistrust and suspicion.
• Clear communication and boundary-setting are crucial in managing these relationships.
• Seek support and resources when dealing with paranoid high conflict personalities.

As the conclusion to the "Five Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life" series, this episode empowers listeners to navigate challenging interactions with paranoid high conflict personalities, providing practical strategies and a deeper understanding of this personality type.

Links & Other Notes

• Bill’s guest spot on Dr. Andrew Huberman’s “Huberman Lab” podcast
• BOOKS
  • 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
  • It's All Your Fault!
• ARTICLES
  • Living With Suspicion: Paranoid High Conflict People
  • Compassion for High Conflict People
• CLASSES
  • Conflict Influencer
• OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior.

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The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life Series: Histrionic High Conflict Personalities

In this installment of "The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life" series, Megan and Bill explore the world of histrionic high conflict personalities. They discuss the key characteristics of histrionics, including exaggerated emotions, a constant need for attention, and a tendency to misjudge relationships.

Surprisingly, despite cultural stereotypes, research shows histrionic personality disorder is equally common in men and women. Bill and Megan also delve into how social media and influencer culture can feed histrionic tendencies, while emphasizing that having some traits doesn't necessarily indicate a disorder.

Questions we answer in this episode:

• What defines a histrionic personality?
• Is histrionic personality disorder more common in men or women?
• How can you deal with exhausting histrionic behavior?

Key Takeaways:

• Histrionic personalities are characterized by drama and a need for attention.
• Histrionic personality disorder involves a pattern of blaming others.
• Setting clear boundaries is crucial when dealing with histrionic behavior.

Whether you have a histrionic person in your life or want to learn more about high conflict personalities, this episode offers valuable insights and practical strategies for navigating these challenging dynamics.

Links & Other Notes

• BOOKS
  • 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
  • It's All Your Fault!
• ARTICLES
  • Dealing with Drama: Histrionic High Conflict People
  • Living with High-Conflict People Series: Do’s and Don’ts for living with a Histrionic High-Conflict Person
• OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior.

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Navigating Narcissistic High Conflict Personalities

In this revealing episode of "It's All Your Fault," part of the Five Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life series, Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy explore the world of narcissistic high conflict personalities. They delve into the key traits of narcissists, the distinction between grandiose and vulnerable narcissists, and the potential connection between narcissistic personalities and domestic violence.

Recognizing Narcissistic High Conflict Personalities

Bill and Megan outline the defining characteristics of narcissistic high conflict personalities, such as their incessant need to feel superior, their sense of entitlement, and their lack of empathy. They explain how these individuals often exploit and mistreat others to preserve their grandiose self-image and how they respond when confronted with perceived challenges to their superiority.

The Two Faces of Narcissism: Grandiose vs. Vulnerable

Not all narcissists are alike. Bill and Megan explore the contrasts between grandiose and vulnerable narcissists. Grandiose narcissists tend to be more calculated and predatory in their actions, while vulnerable narcissists are generally more reactive and emotionally unstable. Grasping these nuances can be essential in recognizing and handling high conflict personalities.

Narcissism in Various Contexts

Narcissistic personalities can be encountered in various aspects of life, but some fields and occupations appear to draw them more than others. Bill and Megan discuss the prevalence of narcissists in healthcare, higher education, and the tech industry, and how these individuals can foster toxic work environments and strained relationships.

Questions we answer in this episode:

• What defines narcissistic high conflict personalities?
• How do grandiose and vulnerable narcissists differ in their conduct?
• Which fields and occupations are more likely to attract narcissistic personalities?
• Is there a link between narcissism and domestic violence?
• How can you identify and cope with a narcissistic high conflict personality?

Key Takeaways:

• Narcissistic high conflict personalities constantly strive to feel superior and entitled.
• They often lack empathy and manipulate others to uphold their inflated self-image.
• Grandiose narcissists are more calculated, while vulnerable narcissists are more reactive.
• Some fields, like healthcare and higher education, may attract more narcissists.
• Recognizing the differences between narcissistic personalities can aid in identifying and managing them.

This episode offers valuable insights into the intricate realm of narcissistic high conflict personalities. Whether you're navigating a relationship with a narcissist in your personal life or at work, Bill and Megan's expertise and practical guidance can help you manage these challenging interactions and safeguard your well-being.

Links & Other Notes

• COURSES
  • Conversations About Domestic Violence in Family Law with 16 Experts
  • Handling Family Law Cases Involving Narcissistic High Conflict People
• BOOKS
  • 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
  • Dating Radar
  • Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
• ARTICLES
  • Domestic Violence vs. High Conflict Families: Are one or two people driving the conflict?
  • Narcissists As Leaders
  • Living with High Conflict People Series: Do’s and Don’ts for Living with a Narcissist High Conflict Person
  • Narcissists as Leaders: Good or Bad for Your Organization?
• DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HELP
  • National Domestic Violence Hotline
    • 800.799.SAFE (7233) USA
  • Services Australia
  • Family Violence Resources Canada
  • OTHER COUNTRIES: do an online search for “domestic violence in ___ (your country or city’s name)”
• OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior.

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Megan Answers Your Questions About High Conflict Personalities

In this special "Asked and Answered" episode of It's All Your Fault, Megan Hunter flies solo to address listener questions about dealing with high conflict personalities. She shares expert insights to help listeners navigate challenging relationships, from understanding and overcoming high conflict behaviors to minimizing damage in high conflict co-parenting situations. She also advises on navigating borderline personality disorder in relationships and the challenges of blending families and building bonds.

Questions we answer in this episode:

• How can I change my high conflict behaviors?
• What should I do to minimize damage to my child when co-parenting with a high conflict person?
• How do I inform someone they have borderline personality disorder?
• How can I navigate the challenges of blending families and building bonds?

Key Takeaways:

• Self-awareness is crucial in recognizing and changing high conflict behaviors.
• Seek professional help, such as therapy or coaching, to work on emotion regulation and flexible thinking.
• Avoid informing someone they have a personality disorder, as this can escalate conflict.
• Focus on self-improvement and role modeling healthy behaviors for children.
• Building trust and bonds in blended families takes time and patience.

This episode offers invaluable insights and practical advice for anyone struggling with high conflict personalities in their lives. Megan's expert perspective and compassionate approach provide listeners with the tools and resources they need to navigate challenging relationships and work towards positive change.

Links & Other Notes

• COURSES FOR HELPING FAMILIES IN HIGH-CONFLICT SITUATIONS
  • For co-parenting: New Ways for Families®(online self-paced class or take with a coach)
  • For families who want to stay together: New Ways for Families®—Together
• BOOKS
  • The Big Book on Borderline Personality Disorder(also available on Amazon or wherever books are sold)
  • The Borderline Personality Disorder Wellness Planner (also available on Amazon or wherever books are sold)
• ORGANIZATIONS WHO HELP
  • NEA-BPD
  • Hope for BPD
  • Emotions Matter
  • Dialectical Behavior Therapy Therapist Listing
  • Stepfamily Solutions
• Check out Huberman Lab podcast! Bill’s guest appearance goes live October 28th
• OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior.

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Domestic Violence: A Closer Look from the Perspective of Law Enforcement

In this episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill and Megan are joined by special guest Nick Hartbauer, a law enforcement officer with 16 years of experience, to discuss domestic violence calls and how understanding high conflict personalities can help victims and law enforcement navigate these challenging situations more effectively.

Identifying High Conflict Personalities in Domestic Violence Calls

Nick shares his journey of discovering the concept of high conflict personalities through Bill's books and how this knowledge has transformed his approach to handling domestic violence calls. He explains how recognizing patterns of unmanaged emotions, all-or-nothing thinking, and blaming others has helped him identify high conflict individuals and better support victims.

Empowering Victims Through Understanding

One of the most significant insights Nick gained from learning about high conflict personalities is the importance of helping victims understand that their abusive partner is unlikely to change. By sharing this knowledge with victims, Nick has empowered many to leave abusive relationships and move forward with their lives.

Navigating Domestic Violence Calls: Strategies and Observations

Nick walks listeners through the process of responding to both low-risk and high-risk domestic violence calls, highlighting the importance of separating the parties involved and listening for signs of high conflict behavior, such as lying, manipulation, and lack of responsibility. He also shares how he assesses the situation to determine who the true victim is in each case.

Questions we answer in this episode:

• How can understanding high conflict personalities help law enforcement handle domestic violence calls more effectively?
• What are some signs that a person involved in a domestic violence call may have a high conflict personality?
• How can law enforcement officers empower victims of domestic violence?
• What strategies do law enforcement officers use to navigate domestic violence calls and determine who the true victim is?
• How common is it for the suspect in a domestic violence call to lie or manipulate the situation?

Key Takeaways:

• Recognizing patterns of high conflict behavior can help law enforcement better support victims of domestic violence.
• Helping victims understand that their abusive partner is unlikely to change can empower them to leave the relationship.
• Separating the parties involved in a domestic violence call is crucial for gathering accurate information.
• Law enforcement officers must listen carefully for signs of lying, manipulation, and lack of responsibility to determine who the true victim is.
• While not all suspects lie, many will attempt to manipulate the situation or blame the victim entirely.

This episode provides invaluable insights into the complexities of domestic violence calls and how understanding high conflict personalities can make a significant difference in the lives of victims. By sharing his expertise and experiences, Nick Hartbauer offers listeners a unique perspective on the challenges law enforcement faces and the strategies they employ to navigate these difficult situations effectively.

About Nick

Nick Hartbauer has been in Law Enforcement for 16 years. He began his career working in a detention center and quickly transitioned to a Patrol position. During his time in law enforcement, Nick served as an Operator on his agency's Emergency Response Team (aka S.W.A.T) and was trained as a sniper. He also spent five years as a Narcotics Detective, working undercover investigations at both the local and federal levels. During this time, Nick assisted in an FBI investigation involving political corruption where corrupt law enforcement officers were assisting drug cartels.

In addition to his investigative work, Nick served as a training officer on Patrol and during his time as a Narcotics Detective. He was also an instructor for his agency's undercover school. Nick spent time on the Impact team for his agency, conducting uniformed property crime investigations, and briefly assisted the Property Crimes Detectives.

In recent years, Nick has focused on victims' crimes while working on patrol, with a particular emphasis on domestic violence investigations. He developed a passion for this area of work as he learned more about the High Conflict Personality Theory from the High Conflict Institute. Nick has incorporated the knowledge gained from the High Conflict Institute into his investigations and training of new officers.

Links & Other Notes

• BOOKS
  • Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
  • Dating Radar
  • Calming Upset People with EAR
• COURSES
  • Conversations About Domestic Violence in Family Law with 16 Experts
  • Strategies for Helping Clients with Borderline Personalities in Divorce
  • Handling Family Law Cases Involving Antisocial High Conflict People
• ARTICLES
  • A Method for Managing Police-Community Relations
  • Domestic Violence vs. High Conflict Families: Are one or two people driving the conflict?
  • Domestic Violence and Personality Disorders: What’s the Connection?
  • How Effective are Restraining Orders with an HCP?
  • Living with High-Conflict People: Do’s and Don’ts for Living with an Antisocial High Conflict People
  • Differences in Dealing with Borderline, Narcissistic and Antisocial Clients in Family Law
  • Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder in Family Law Cases
• OUR WEBSITE
  • https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• QUESTIONS
  • Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in ...