Our guest for this episode:

Founder, Konenki Menopause Solutions

Paula Brown holds a Bachelor’s in Human Resources Management and a Master’s in Industrial and Organizational Psychology, blending nonprofit and corporate expertise. A learning and development leader, she excels in designing impactful training programs and fostering inclusivity through strong communication and facilitation skills. Resilient and committed to helping others overcome challenges, Paula drives organizational growth with a focus on continuous learning.

Paula is the creator of Rita’s Labyrinth in Holliston, MA, offering mindfulness and spiritual practices inspired by diverse traditions, especially the divine feminine. She is also a facilitator of The Artist’s Way, creating spaces for exploration and growth, integrating her professional and spiritual passions to inspire lasting positive change.

Paula Brown's Website

Konenki Menopause Facebook Page

Konenki Menopause Instagram

In this episode of the Better Than Bitter podcast, Tania Leichliter and Paula Brown discuss the intersection of divorce and menopause, exploring the challenges women face during this transitional period. They share personal stories of struggle, resilience, and the importance of support networks. The conversation highlights the impact of hormonal changes on mental health, relationships, and personal reinvention, emphasizing that menopause is a natural life transition rather than a crisis. Listeners are encouraged to seek help and find hope in their journeys.

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• Divorce can be navigated amicably with the right support.
• Menopause brings significant physiological changes that can affect mental health.
• Personal stories of struggle can inspire resilience in others.
• Hormonal changes during menopause can lead to brain fog and other symptoms.
• Support networks are crucial for women going through divorce and menopause.
• Reinventing oneself post-divorce is possible and empowering.
• Menopause is a natural life transition, not a crisis.
• Open communication with partners about menopause is essential.
• There are professionals available to help women navigate menopause.
• Hope exists for maintaining intimacy and connection in relationships.

Navigating Divorce and Menopause: A Journey of Resilience

Personal Stories of Struggle: Finding Strength in Transition

"It's life-changing."

"I thought I had a brain tumor."

"I was fired from two jobs."

00:00 Navigating Menopause and Divorce

02:28 Personal Journeys Through Menopause

09:11 The Role of Support Networks

16:37 Coping with Stress and Brain Fog

18:17 Impact of Menopause on Relationships

28:45 Rekindling Passion and Libido

33:38 Finding Hope and Support

38:36 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

40:05 Resources for Support and Growth

On our website you'll find details and additional information on our 5-Step Gameplan multimedia course, our different types of coaching

methods, monthly memberships, events and retreats, and a whole lot more. Plus, we've got a ton of free resources, like our monthly newsletter, our private Facebook group, our Instagram channel, and a library of articles and free webinars to help you along the way. When you go to our website, you'll be able to schedule a free 45-minute breakthrough call. Remember, we're here to help you reach an amicable resolution. Find your courage and believe in your brighter future because you know what? It is possible.

At Better Than Bitter™, we measure success by what we give and not by what we get. So, let's change the divorce dialogue together. It's time to be better than bitter.

Do you want to know if We Can Help You? Book A Free 1:1 Breakthrough Call Now! Click Here

If you want to connect with a Divorce Concierge, contact Vesta Divorce Concierge here!

Our guest for this episode:

About our guest:

He has written a book called "The Co-Parenting Secret: It's not about you”.  Jon is actually a consultant.

Link to book on Amazon: https://a.co/d/6gR0ucX

He heads up operations for startups and nonprofits, but he has written this book based on his own personal story. His friends, his family, and people were amazed by him and his wife and how well they were able to co-parent. And they were like, you should write a book. And John's like, huh, maybe I should write a book. 

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In this episode of the Better Than Bitter podcast, Tania Leichliter speaks with Jon Bassford about his book, 'The Co-Parenting Secret: It's Not About You.' They discuss the challenges of co-parenting, the importance of intentionality, and how to navigate new relationships while keeping the children's best interests at heart. John shares his personal experiences and insights on creating a supportive environment for children post-divorce, emphasizing the need for effective communication and emotional well-being.

• Co-parenting requires intentionality and focus on the children.
• It's essential to communicate effectively for the sake of the kids.
• Divorce doesn't have to be a negative experience for children.
• Maintaining relationships with extended family is crucial.
• Emotional well-being of parents directly affects the children.
• Letting go of animosity can improve co-parenting dynamics.
• Children benefit from having multiple loving adults in their lives.
• Being open to new relationships can be healthy for everyone involved.
• Self-reflection is key to personal growth post-divorce.
• Creating a supportive environment helps children thrive.

Navigating the Co-Parenting Journey

Intentional Co-Parenting Strategies

"It's not about you."

"You have to be very intentional."

"Let go of the animosity."

00:00 Introduction to Co-Parenting Dynamics

03:17 The Journey of Writing a Co-Parenting Book

05:42 Navigating Co-Parenting with Young Children

08:09 Intentionality in Co-Parenting Relationships

11:07 Humanizing Divorce and Co-Parenting

13:32 Building a Supportive Co-Parenting Village

16:19 Handling New Relationships and Dating

18:51 Communication as a Pillar of Co-Parenting

21:45 Teaching Children About Relationships

24:22 Focusing on Self-Improvement

26:53 Letting Go of Control and Embracing Flexibility

29:44 Creating a Loving Environment for Children

36:02 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

37:31 Resources for Support and Growth

On our website you'll find details and additional information on our 5-Step Gameplan multimedia course, our different types of coaching

methods, monthly memberships, events and retreats, and a whole lot more. Plus, we've got a ton of free resources, like our monthly newsletter, our private Facebook group, our Instagram channel, and a library of articles and free webinars to help you along the way. When you go to our website, you'll be able to schedule a free 45-minute breakthrough call. Remember, we're here to help you reach an amicable resolution. Find your courage and believe in your brighter future because you know what? It is possible.

At Better Than Bitter™, we measure success by what we give and not by what we get. So, let's change the divorce dialogue together. It's time to be better than bitter.

Do you want to know if We Can Help You? Book A Free 1:1 Breakthrough Call Now! Click Here

If you want to connect with a Divorce Concierge, contact Vesta Divorce Concierge here!

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In this episode of the Better Than Bitter Podcast, Tania Leichliter discusses the emotional complexities of navigating divorce, especially during the holiday season. She emphasizes the importance of rebuilding one's life with purpose, passion, and intention. Tania shares personal stories and insights on finding gratitude, setting intentions for the future, and rediscovering one's identity and passions post-divorce. The episode concludes with a three-step rebuilding framework and guided reflection exercises to help listeners move forward positively.

• Divorce can be navigated amicably with the right mindset.
• Holidays can trigger complex emotions during and after divorce.
• Setting intentions is more effective than traditional resolutions.
• Divorce presents opportunities for personal growth and new beginnings.
• Engaging in passions can help alleviate feelings of loneliness.
• Finding purpose post-divorce is crucial for emotional well-being.
• Rediscovering lost passions can reignite one's identity.
• Intentions shape how we approach challenges and opportunities.
• A three-step framework can guide the rebuilding process after divorce.
• Reflection exercises can help clarify goals and intentions for the future.

Rebuilding Life After Divorce: A New Perspective

Navigating Holidays with Grace Post-Divorce

"Thanksgiving is a season of gratitude."

"Divorce creates opportunity for us."

"Find your purpose post-divorce."

00:00 Rebuilding with Purpose and Passion

09:53 Finding Your Purpose After Divorce

17:43 Reawakening Passion and Intent

21:11 The Three-Step Rebuilding Framework

25:09 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

26:38 Resources for Support and Growth

On our website you'll find details and additional information on our 5-Step Gameplan multimedia course, our different types of coaching

methods, monthly memberships, events and retreats, and a whole lot more. Plus, we've got a ton of free resources, like our monthly newsletter, our private Facebook group, our Instagram channel, and a library of articles and free webinars to help you along the way. When you go to our website, you'll be able to schedule a free 45-minute breakthrough call. Remember, we're here to help you reach an amicable resolution. Find your courage and believe in your brighter future because you know what? It is possible.

At Better Than Bitter™, we measure success by what we give and not by what we get. So, let's change the divorce dialogue together. It's time to be better than bitter.

Do you want to know if We Can Help You? Book A Free 1:1 Breakthrough Call Now! Click Here

If you want to connect with a Divorce Concierge, contact Vesta Divorce Concierge here!

Guest for this episode: Matthew Tower

Bio:

Matthew A. Tower is an author, art director, audiobook narrator, and entrepreneur. He first saw Star Wars in theaters at age three. Love Wars: Clash of The Parents, A True Divorce Story is his debut work of literature.

Previously, he was the founder and CEO of Versus Books, and published more than 50 gaming strategy guides for hits like The Legend of Zelda, selling over 5 million copies.

Book Link:

Love Wars: Clash of The Parents

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In this episode, Tania Leichliter interviews Matthew A. Tower, author of 'Love Wars: Clash of The Parents.' They discuss the challenges of navigating divorce, particularly focusing on the impact of high-conflict situations on children. Matthew shares his personal experiences growing up in a custody battle and emphasizes the importance of amicable resolutions for the sake of children. The conversation highlights the dynamics of victim vs. victor, the role of supportive adults, and the necessity of emotional resilience in the face of divorce.

• Matthew's memoir offers a unique perspective on divorce from a child's viewpoint.
• High-conflict divorces can have lasting negative effects on children.
• The importance of putting children first during divorce proceedings.
• Parents should strive for amicable resolutions to avoid emotional trauma for kids.
• The victim vs. victor dynamic is crucial in navigating divorce.
• Supportive adults can play a significant role in de-escalating conflict.
• Mindset is key in managing divorce-related challenges.
• Flexibility in parenting plans is essential for co-parenting success.
• Children internalize negative comments about their parents, affecting their self-esteem.
• The concept of the 'de-escalator' can help parents manage conflict better.

Navigating Divorce: Insights from Love Wars

The Child's Perspective on Divorce

"It's all about mindset."

"You must be 50% bad."

"You can't control other people."

00:00 Introduction to Love Wars

02:27 Matthew's Unique Perspective on Divorce

06:40 The Impact of High-Conflict Divorces

14:14 The Role of Mindset in Divorce

18:34 Understanding High-Conflict Personalities

26:40 The Importance of De-escalation

33:42 Finding Hope and Support in Difficult Times

47:36 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

49:05 Resources for Support and Growth

On our website you'll find details and additional information on our 5-Step Gameplan multimedia course, our different types of coaching

methods, monthly memberships, events and retreats, and a whole lot more. Plus, we've got a ton of free resources, like our monthly newsletter, our private Facebook group, our Instagram channel, and a library of articles and free webinars to help you along the way. When you go to our website, you'll be able to schedule a free 45-minute breakthrough call. Remember, we're here to help you reach an amicable resolution. Find your courage and believe in your brighter future because you know what? It is possible.

At Better Than Bitter™, we measure success by what we give and not by what we get. So, let's change the divorce dialogue together. It's time to be better than bitter.

Do you want to know if We Can Help You? Book A Free 1:1 Breakthrough Call Now! Click Here

If you want to connect with a Divorce Concierge, contact Vesta Divorce Concierge here!

Episode 52: Limited Beliefs. Are you Ruminating?

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In this episode of the Better Than Bitter Divorce Podcast, host Tania Leichliter discusses the journey of navigating divorce with a focus on empowerment, emotional healing, and personal growth. She emphasizes the importance of reclaiming one's power, challenging limiting beliefs, and adopting a perspective of gratitude. Through practical exercises and insights, listeners are encouraged to shift their narratives and embrace the opportunities that come with change, ultimately leading to a more amicable divorce resolution.

• Divorce can be approached amicably with the right mindset.
• Reclaiming power is essential for personal growth.
• Emotional impacts of divorce are often rooted in societal beliefs.
• Resilience is built by navigating challenges rather than avoiding them.
• Gratitude practices can shift focus from negativity to positivity.
• Children will be okay if they receive unconditional love.
• You have the power to control your reactions and emotions.
• Shifting blame to others gives them power over your feelings.
• Challenging limiting beliefs can reshape your future.
• Every ending is a new beginning, a chance to rewrite your story.

Navigating Divorce with Empowerment

Reclaiming Your Power Post-Divorce

"We want to reclaim our power."

"Focus on what you can control."

"Look for the good in everyone."

00:00 Understanding Limited Beliefs in Divorce

09:48 Reclaiming Power and Responsibility

14:15 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

15:44 Resources for Support and Growth

In this episode of the Better Than Bitter podcast, Tania Leichliter discusses the intersection of menopause and divorce, exploring how the physiological and emotional changes women experience during menopause can impact their relationships. She emphasizes the importance of self-care, support, and taking ownership of one's feelings during this challenging time. Tania encourages listeners to embrace new beginnings and to seek community support as they navigate these life transitions.

• Menopause significantly impacts relationships, especially during divorce.
• Emotional changes during menopause can lead to feelings of disconnection.
• It's essential to understand the physiological changes occurring during menopause.
• Women often face identity crises during midlife, affecting their relationships.
• Support from partners is crucial during the menopausal transition.
• Self-care and community support are vital for navigating divorce and menopause.
• Taking ownership of one's feelings can empower individuals during this time.
• Rediscovering one's authentic self is a key part of the midlife awakening.
• Menopause and divorce can be seen as opportunities for growth.
• It's important to communicate openly about the challenges faced during menopause.

Navigating Menopause and Divorce: A Journey of Self-Discovery

The Emotional Landscape of Menopause and Its Impact on Relationships

"You need to support yourself."

"You are at that crossroads."

"You have a brighter future."

00:00 Introduction to Menopause and Relationships

04:09 The Impact of Menopause on Partnerships

07:08 Navigating Emotional Changes During Menopause

09:33 Understanding Divorce in the Context of Menopause

12:12 The Emotional Equation of Midlife Changes

14:31 Creating a New Identity Post-Divorce

17:08 Transforming Menopause into Opportunity

20:13 Building Supportive Communities

22:39 Embracing New Beginnings

25:40 Reclaiming Power and Peace

31:19 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

32:48 Resources for Support and Growth

On our website you'll find details and additional information on our 5-Step Gameplan multimedia course, our different types of coaching

methods, monthly memberships, events and retreats, and a whole lot more. Plus, we've got a ton of free resources, like our monthly newsletter, our private Facebook group, our Instagram channel, and a library of articles and free webinars to help you along the way. When you go to our website, you'll be able to schedule a free 45-minute breakthrough call. Remember, we're here to help you reach an amicable resolution. Find your courage and believe in your brighter future because you know what? It is possible.

At Better Than Bitter™, we measure success by what we give and not by what we get. So, let's change the divorce dialogue together. It's time to be better than bitter.

Do you want to know if We Can Help You? Book A Free 1:1 Breakthrough Call Now! Click Here

If you want to connect with a Divorce Concierge, contact Vesta Divorce Concierge here!

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In this episode of the Better Than Bitter podcast, Tania Leichliter discusses the complexities of navigating divorce, particularly when dealing with narcissistic behaviors. She introduces the BIFF method as a communication strategy to manage high-conflict situations effectively. The episode emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and maintaining emotional health during the divorce process, providing listeners with practical tools and insights to achieve an amicable resolution.

• An amicable divorce is achievable with the right mindset.
• Understanding narcissistic behaviors can help in communication.
• The BIFF method is a practical tool for conflict resolution.
• Setting boundaries is crucial for emotional health during divorce.
• Communication should be brief, informative, friendly, and firm.
• It's important to regroup before responding to high-conflict individuals.
• Tracking communication can help maintain clarity and organization.
• You should feel okay with the decisions you make during divorce.
• Revisiting settled items can create unnecessary conflict.
• Support groups can provide valuable resources and community during divorce.

Navigating Divorce with Narcissistic Behaviors

The Power of the BIFF Method in Divorce

"Divorce doesn't have to be a battleground."

"You don't need to reply right away."

"An amicable divorce is possible."

00:00 Understanding Narcissism in Divorce

05:09 The BIF Method for Effective Communication

15:56 Setting Boundaries During Divorce

24:31 Support and Resources for Navigating Divorce

26:12 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

27:41 Resources for Support and Growth

On our website you'll find details and additional information on our 5-Step Gameplan multimedia course, our different types of coaching

methods, monthly memberships, events and retreats, and a whole lot more. Plus, we've got a ton of free resources, like our monthly newsletter, our private Facebook group, our Instagram channel, and a library of articles and free webinars to help you along the way. When you go to our website, you'll be able to schedule a free 45-minute breakthrough call. Remember, we're here to help you reach an amicable resolution. Find your courage and believe in your brighter future because you know what? It is possible.

At Better Than Bitter™, we measure success by what we give and not by what we get. So, let's change the divorce dialogue together. It's time to be better than bitter.

Do you want to know if We Can Help You? Book A Free 1:1 Breakthrough Call Now! Click Here

If you want to connect with a Divorce Concierge, contact Vesta Divorce Concierge here!

In this episode of the Better Than Bitter Divorce Podcast, host Tania Leichliter discusses the concept of emotional readiness for dating after divorce. She emphasizes that emotional readiness is not merely about feeling lonely or wanting companionship, but rather involves self-reflection, understanding one's motivations, and being grounded in one's identity. Tania outlines common traps that individuals may fall into when dating post-divorce and provides insights on how to approach dating with intention and awareness. The episode encourages listeners to focus on their emotional state and readiness rather than societal pressures or timelines.

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• Emotional readiness is about self-awareness, not just loneliness.
• Grieving the divorce is essential before dating.
• Avoid dating to distract from pain; seek genuine connection.
• Common traps include rebound dating and seeking validation.
• Focus on how dating feels rather than what it gives you.
• You don't need to be fully healed to start dating.
• There is no deadline for when to start dating again.
• Reflect on your fears around love and trust.
• Your desire for connection should come from wholeness, not woundedness.
• Dating is about coming back home to yourself first.

Navigating Emotional Readiness After Divorce

Understanding Your Readiness for Dating

"Common traps people fall into."

"Focus on how dating might feel."

"You get to go at your pace."

00:00 Understanding Emotional Readiness After Divorce

03:47 Redefining Readiness: Signs You're Prepared to Date

04:46 Common Traps and Misconceptions in Dating

05:54 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

07:23 Resources for Support and Growth

On our website you'll find details and additional information on our 5-Step Gameplan multimedia course, our different types of coaching

methods, monthly memberships, events and retreats, and a whole lot more. Plus, we've got a ton of free resources, like our monthly newsletter, our private Facebook group, our Instagram channel, and a library of articles and free webinars to help you along the way. When you go to our website, you'll be able to schedule a free 45-minute breakthrough call. Remember, we're here to help you reach an amicable resolution. Find your courage and believe in your brighter future because you know what? It is possible.

At Better Than Bitter™, we measure success by what we give and not by what we get. So, let's change the divorce dialogue together. It's time to be better than bitter.

Do you want to know if We Can Help You? Book A Free 1:1 Breakthrough Call Now! Click Here

If you want to connect with a Divorce Concierge, contact Vesta Divorce Concierge here!

In this conversation, Tania Leichliter shares her journey from being a business owner to becoming a life coach, specifically focusing on divorce coaching. She discusses the importance of changing the narrative around divorce, emphasizing the potential for amicable resolutions and the emotional well-being of those involved. Tania introduces her initiative, Better Than Bitter, aimed at empowering individuals going through divorce and reducing the stigma associated with it. She highlights the skills and techniques that can help individuals navigate the challenges of divorce while maintaining a positive outlook and fostering healthy relationships, especially for the sake of children.

• I was a business owner for many years.
• I decided to start life coaching classes.
• I wanted to help people at the very beginning stages.
• Divorce empowerment coaching is a growing field.
• It's important to change the divorce dialogue.
• Children of divorce should not feel shame.
• An amicable resolution is possible even in conflict.
• You can control your reaction during divorce.
• We teach a method called BIF for communication.
• Believing in a positive outcome is crucial.

Transforming Divorce: From Bitter to Better

Empowering Through Divorce Coaching

"I see it as a movement."

"You can control your reaction."

"We teach a method called BIF."

00:00 Introduction to Better Than Bitter

02:45 The Journey to Divorce Coaching

06:06 Mindset Mastery and Self-Love

09:54 The Importance of Education in Divorce

11:35 Techniques for Amicable Resolutions

14:20 NEWCHAPTER

15:18 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

16:47 Resources for Support and Growth

On our website you'll find details and additional information on our 5-Step Gameplan multimedia course, our different types of coaching methods, monthly memberships, events and retreats, and a whole lot more. Plus, we've got a ton of free resources, like our monthly newsletter, our private Facebook group, our Instagram channel, and a library of articles and free webinars to help you along the way. When you go to our website, you'll be able to schedule a free 45-minute breakthrough call. Remember, we're here to help you reach an amicable resolution. Find your courage and believe in your brighter future because you know what? It is possible.

At Better Than Bitter™, we measure success by what we give and not by what we get. So, let's change the divorce dialogue together. It's time to be better than bitter.

Do you want to know if We Can Help You? Book A Free 1:1 Breakthrough Call Now! Click Here

If you want to connect with a Divorce Concierge, contact Vesta Divorce Concierge here!

In this episode of the Better Than Bitter podcast, host Tania Leichliter discusses the journey towards an amicable divorce, emphasizing the importance of letting go of bitterness and resentment. She shares personal stories and insights on how to embrace new relationships, create a comfortable environment for children, and maintain family connections post-divorce. Tania encourages listeners to focus on acceptance and the positive impact of fostering good relationships for the sake of their children.

• Divorce can be navigated amicably with the right mindset.
• Holding onto bitterness only harms yourself.
• Acceptance is crucial in the divorce process.
• Creating a comfortable environment for children is essential.
• Embracing new relationships can benefit everyone involved.
• Children thrive in a loving environment with multiple role models.
• Letting go of resentment leads to personal peace.
• You have the power to set the tone for family interactions.
• Maintaining family connections is important for children's well-being.
• Support and resources are available for those going through divorce.

Navigating Amicable Divorce

Letting Go: The Key to Healing

"The only person that suffers is you."

"You can evolve into a new partnership."

"You have a responsibility to try."

00:00 Navigating Divorce and New Relationships

04:15 The Importance of Letting Go

06:41 Building Amicable Relationships for the Kids

09:24 Creating a Supportive Family Environment

12:32 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

14:01 Resources for Support and Growth

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On our website you'll find details and additional information on our 5-Step Gameplan multimedia course, our different types of coaching methods, monthly memberships, events and retreats, and a whole lot more. Plus, we've got a ton of free resources, like our monthly newsletter, our private Facebook group, our Instagram channel, and a library of articles and free webinars to help you along the way. When you go to our website, you'll be able to schedule a free 45-minute breakthrough call. Remember, we're here to help you reach an amicable resolution. Find your courage and believe in your brighter future because you know what? It is possible.

At Better Than Bitter™, we measure success by what we give and not by what we get. So, let's change the divorce dialogue together. It's time to be better than bitter.

Do you want to know if We Can Help You? Book A Free 1:1 Breakthrough Call Now! Click Here

If you want to connect with a Divorce Concierge, contact Vesta Divorce Concierge here!