A common colloquialism among Caribbean people is "soon come" intended to mean I'll be there (or back) soon - only some of them don't really know what "soon" means.  This experience of waiting on people shaped some of our thoughts and feelings around the value of time - maybe in some unhelpful ways.  So we're talking about it - and we want to know what you think.  Do you run on rhythm or do you run on time?  Where did this come from for you?  How do you feel about people who do it differently?

Is work your primary purpose, or do you go to work to fund your primary purpose? If work is your main purpose, was that the goal?  Or did you wake up one day and find yourself there?  Are you pursuing things outside of work that bring you joy? Or is work sucking up too much energy to leave room for other joy?  Whatever the current situation - do you like it?  If not, what do you want to do about it?  We're stumped on this one.  Take our poll and tell us what you think.

Why is asking for help so hard?? Women are choking to death in restaurant bathrooms and we are demanding answers!

Journal Prompt: 

What messages do you have around what it means about you to ask for help? Can you ask yourself objectively, is this message an accurate message?

Think about the people you are closest to and why you are close to them and think about how you seek support from them. Be curious about whether they would be surprised, hurt, or disappointed if they knew you were unwilling to ask them for support.

In this episode, we discuss the American cultural norm of forcefully maturing Black youth...

Journal entry this week - go play - then journal about that experience.  Did you feel energized, depleted, something else?  Also, are you letting the kids in your life be kids?  If so, how?  If not, how can you?

Book referenced in this episode was "Spare The Kids - Why Wupping Children Won't Save Black America" by Dr. Stacey Patton 

Join us as we journal out loud about about drive and motivation - is there a difference? If so what is it?  Which are you?  Which do you want to be?  Drop us a message and let us know if you see this the way we do or if you understand it differently.  

To make new year's resolutions or not to make new year's resolutions - that is the question.

Your journal entries from this episode - who do you want to be?  Not what do you want to DO, but who do you want to BE?  And, why does a special date on the calendar or day of the week seem so important to some of us when we think about making a change?

Stopping in to pay our respects to the amazing Bell Hooks by reflecting on some of her words that really spoke to us.  There could be an entire podcast - not podcast episode - literally an entire podcast - dedicated to deep dives into the truths she shared, but for now, just a few that feel particularly meaningful to us and where we are in life right now.  We'd love to hear from you about the influence she's had on your life and work.  

Rest In Power, Queen.  September 25, 1952 – December 15, 2021

PS - We talked some in this minisode about leaving situations that aren't serving you and taking responsibility for moving on to support your own healing.  We in no way meant to insinuate that doing this is easy - we know it's not.  We also know that sometimes it's not just hard, but downright dangerous.  We're not talking about these situations - we're talking more about those toxic people, patterns, and relationships that we hold onto because the discomfort of letting go feels harder than the discomfort of holding on.  

Not All Money Is Good Money 

Your Journal Entry from this episode: Where did your messages about money come from?  How do you decide what "good money" is?  Do you think about money in a healthy way or unhealthy way?

Your Journal entry for this week: What choices are you making because you're scared to do what we really want to do?  What would it take to move beyond the fear?