Between Beauty & Heartache

Resources mentioned:

The Place We Find Ourselves podcast by Adam Young

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

National Center for PTSD – U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs

complextrauma.org – Complex Trauma Resource

The Allender Center: For those seeking deeper healing through story, The Allender Center offers training and care rooted in Narrative Focused Trauma Care® (NFTC). Their mission is to foster redemption and healing by helping individuals tell their stories with awareness and integrity. To connect with a trained story coach or therapist, visit their NFTC Directory.

Trigger Warning: Includes discussion of trauma, emotional dysregulation, and marital strain. Listen gently and take breaks if needed.

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Chassie references Yoga with Adriene in this episode as a helpful way to tend to your body. 

• Yoga After Disaster. While she is referring to a physical disaster, Chassie does this Yoga after relational ruptures. 
• Yoga For Post Traumatic Stress. This is helpful year round for Chassie, but if the holidays bring up challenging feelings, this might be extra helpful right now. 
• Yoga For Migraines. Great way to tend to your body in the midst of a migraine. 

Aundi Kolber is referenced in this episode. Just following her on instagram is a way Chassie feels encouraged, but she has many books and helpful resources for you to explore being softer with yourself. 

If there is anything you want to ask Chassie, engage with her on instagram, or via email: [email protected]. She would love to hear from you! 

• Robyn Kolk courageously shared part of her story with us, and here is a link to  her photography. 
• The story work approach originated from the Allender Center. If your curious about engaging your own story, visit their website to learn more and find a story work Coach.
• Robyn mentions Adam Young's podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves, a huge resource for both Robyn & Chassie. 
• Chassie mentioned the "U Diagram" a helpful tool that Cathy Loerzel, co-founded The Allender Center, Author, and story work coach.  Click the link to learn more about Cathy. 

Here is a link to find out more about our guest, Candice Fraser, LPC, and how her counseling services, as well as her podcast The Couch Next Door might be of interest to you or someone you love. 

If you want more conversation with Chassie & Candice, you can listen to their episode on The Couch Next Door: Story Work (with Chassie Anders)

In this episode, Chassie opens up about her personal journey with complex trauma and its impact on her creativity. As a child, she was filled with passion for singing, dancing, and art, but over time, those desires faded. Discover how Chassie is reclaiming her creative spirit through Story Work and Julia Cameron's "The Artist's Way." She shares valuable insights on overcoming creative blocks, the importance of embracing child-like play, and the healing power of art. Join us for an inspiring conversation about finding joy and reconnecting with your inner artist  and inner child. 

Here is a link to the resources referenced in this episode. 

"You can't save your spouse, but you can offer connection." – Chassie Anders

In this episode of Between Beauty & Heartache, join Chassie and Noah Anders as they continue their story of what it's like to walk alongside one another through healing from trauma and engaging their stories. 

They discuss what is happening in our brains and bodies when we or our spouse experience anger and dysregulation, and why connection is so important in helping to regulate our nervous systems. To close the episode, Chassie and Noah answer a few listener questions. 

Tune in for more episodes in January 2024! 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• The Suicide Solution: Finding Your Way Out of the Darkness by Daniel Emina and Rick Lawrence
• The Allender Center (for connecting with a trauma-informed therapist or Story Work coach)

In this episode of Between Beauty & Heartache, we're at the part in the Anders' story where Chassie and Noah have recently returned to the U.S. after spending two years serving overseas as missionaries. Despite hoping that their challenges would diminish upon their return, they soon discovered that Chassie's cries for help hinted at deeper issues with significant implications. Join them as they discuss navigating one of the most challenging phases of their marriage and uncovering the revelations that God was beginning to unfold. 

Tune in for part two on Tuesday, December 26th. 

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Mere Christians Podcast with Jordan Raynor
• Called to Create by Jordan Raynor

In this episode of Between Beauty & Heartache, Chassie talks with her husband, Noah, about what it's like to walk alongside someone and engage your story in a safe, loving relationship. 

They discuss how they met, how they went from "just friends" to a married couple, what it was like to spend two years overseas as missionaries, and what happened when Chassie started to realize that she had unresolved trauma. 

You won't want to miss this encouraging conversation that shows what it can look like to walk alongside a trusted, loving partner as you engage the hard and heartbreaking parts of your story. 

Oh, and you'll want to follow Noah Anders on Instagram as he takes on spicy food and offers tasty snack recipes! 

"Safety is not the absence of threat, it is the presence of connection."— Dr. Gabor Maté

Our very nature is rooted in relationships, a truth that resonates across multiple aspects of our lives and stories. Through the lens of the Word of God, we discover the profound truth that Jesus is "Immanuel"—God with us. From a scientific standpoint, our brains are intricately wired to foster secure relationships, resulting in healthy attachments, well-regulated nervous systems, and optimal brain development.

Join Chassie in this episode of Between Beauty & Heartache as she draws from reputable sources to delve into the far-reaching implications of God's presence and safety, the importance of meeting our early developmental needs, the art of tuning into our emotions, the significance and depth of "being with" ourselves, and the transformative influence of God's constant presence on our journey toward healing, as we navigate the delicate balance between beauty and heartache.

Check out resources talked about in this episode.