keywords: emotional intelligence, leadership, self-awareness, empathy, self-regulation, emotional awareness, decision making, communication, personal growth, leadership development

summary: In this conversation, Scott Sadler explores the essence of emotional intelligence, particularly in challenging and unscripted situations. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing emotions as they arise and the power of pausing to reflect on what truly matters in leadership. By reframing emotions as valuable information rather than obstacles, leaders can enhance their decision-making and communication skills, ultimately leading to more effective leadership.

takeaways:

1. Emotional intelligence is about real human experiences, not just skills.
2. It manifests physically, often as discomfort or tension.
3. Recognizing emotions early allows for better responses.
4. The pause is a powerful tool in emotional intelligence.
5. Shifting focus from winning to understanding what matters changes outcomes.
6. Leadership often rewards speed, making pauses feel risky.
7. Naming emotions can feel vulnerable but is essential for growth.
8. Emotions provide data about our values and boundaries.
9. Treating emotions as information opens up options in leadership.
10. Understanding oneself deeply enhances leadership effectiveness.

titles

1. Unlocking Emotional Intelligence in Leadership
2. The Art of Pausing: A Leadership Essential

Sound Bites

1. "It feels like discomfort."
2. "Awareness is the work."
3. "Emotions are information."

Chapters

00:00Understanding Emotional Intelligence in Real Situations

03:35The Power of the Pause in Leadership

05:10Emotions as Information: A New Perspective on Leadership

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The Conversation You Have With Yourself After a Hard Meeting

Host: Scott Sadler, PCC, MCLC, MNLP

After a difficult meeting, your calendar may move on—but your mind often doesn’t. In this episode of Between Meetings, Scott explores the internal conversations leaders have after tough interactions and how unchecked self-talk quietly shapes confidence, presence, and leadership behavior. You’ll learn how to notice these narratives without becoming them and apply simple, practical tools to reset before your next conversation.

1. Leaders often continue the meeting internally through judgment and rumination, not reflection.
2. Unexamined self-talk influences tone, energy, and future decisions more than most leaders realize.
3. Awareness creates choice: noticing the story allows you to separate facts from interpretation.
4. Effective leaders practice self-coaching—responding to themselves with curiosity, not criticism.
5. Discomfort after a meeting does not equal incompetence.

After your next meeting, pause and ask:

1. What am I telling myself right now?
2. Is this a fact—or an interpretation?
3. Name the narrative, ground yourself with a breath, and choose a more constructive frame before moving on.

The most influential leader you work with every day is the voice in your head. How you speak to yourself between meetings shapes how you show up in the next one.

In the next episode, Scott explores emotional leakage—what your team feels before you ever say a word.

Learn more: scottsadlercoaching.com