Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Trauma

"If we're not honoring boundaries with each other on a smaller scale, in a smaller context..., it's no surprise to me that we have this whole culture that is having a lot of trouble with boundaries and standing up for ourselves and saying 'no.' ... We don't wanna say 'no' to people, we don't wanna let them down, we don't wanna hurt their feelings. It's very difficult for all of us, men and women, to practice 'yes' and 'no.'"

Kate is a trauma-informed bodyworker, coach, and social change and transformation educator. In this episode, she shares her perspective on the transformative power of bodywork and yoga as it relates to healing from trauma.

---------------------------------------------------

SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes!

Contact Kate:

https://www.itskatepowers.com/

Ihttps://www.instagram.com/itskatepowers/

https://www.facebook.com/itskatepowers/

Contact Molly:

www.mollycoeling.com

[email protected]

---------------------------------------------------

A special thanks to:

Gina McLaughlin Photography for photo and graphic design: https://www.facebook.com/ginamclaughlinphotography/?fref=tag

Dave Hiltebrand for intro and outro music original composition: https://www.davehiltebrand.com/

Gregory T. Obert for podcast consulting services: https://gregorytobert.com/

----------------------------------------------------

"Every small and large step I've taken to speak, in whatever form - whether it's my voice, my play, my readings - every time I do any of that, I heal a little bit more because it's contradicting all that has made me believe I shouldn't be telling... It's always healing, every bit of it."

Donna has a lot to offer with nearly four decades working through her own healing process. She is an activist, playwright, actor and author who is committed to sharing her story of healing from incest as a part of her own healing and the healing of the issue of sexual violence in our society. In this interview she covers a lot of ground: her work in feminism's second wave; how she began speaking aloud about the truth of her incest; the difference between forgiveness and acceptance; the role of spirituality in healing; the importance and difficulty of coming out to her family about her father's abuse; the role of art and writing in her healing path; and the importance of bringing childhood sexual abuse into the public conversation.

---------------------------------------------------

SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes!

Buy Donna's book, Healing My Life: From Incest to Joy, here: https://levellerspress.com/product/healing-my-life/

Contact Donna: www.timetotell.org // instagram.com/timetotellproject

Contact Molly: www.mollycoeling.com // [email protected]

---------------------------------------------------

A special thanks to:

Gina McLaughlin Photography for photo and graphic design: https://www.facebook.com/ginamclaughlinphotography/?fref=tag

Dave Hiltebrand for intro and outro music original composition: https://www.davehiltebrand.com/

Gregory T. Obert for podcast consulting services: https://gregorytobert.com/

----------------------------------------------------

In this mini episode, I share my own story of how I decided to heal and how Reiki gave me the support I needed to do so.

---------------------------------------------------

SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes!

Contact Molly: www.mollycoeling.com // [email protected]

---------------------------------------------------

A special thanks to:

Gina McLaughlin Photography for photo and graphic design: https://www.facebook.com/ginamclaughlinphotography/?fref=tag

Dave Hiltebrand for intro and outro music original composition: https://www.davehiltebrand.com/

Gregory T. Obert for podcast consulting services: https://gregorytobert.com/

----------------------------------------------------

"When you have sexual agency as a woman, there's less of you being on the defensive as the victim. When we own our bodies, and we own not only our sexual power but also when we own our sexual pleasure, then we can say 'Ya know, this doesn't feel good. I don't like this.'"

Tazima - a sex & intimacy coach - talks about bringing trauma into our relationships and into the bedroom AND what we can do about it, including moving toward pleasure and away from shame & avoidance.

---------------------------------------------------

SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes!

Contact Tazima: www.infiniterelating.com

Contact Molly: www.mollycoeling.com // [email protected]

---------------------------------------------------

A special thanks to:

Gina McLaughlin Photography for photo and graphic design: https://www.facebook.com/ginamclaughlinphotography/?fref=tag

Dave Hiltebrand for intro and outro music original composition: https://www.davehiltebrand.com/

Gregory T. Obert for podcast consulting services

"Once you start examining it, then it's yours. Then you own it. These are MY memories. I'm not reacting out of something that happened to me; I'm reacting out of something that I own. It's a small little adjustment in your brain, and it's everything."

Sarah Brennan is a wife, mother of two beautiful boys and a Reiki practitioner living in Chicago. After leaving a career in the restaurant industry to raise her children, she focused on her own healing from decades old sexual trauma - through talk therapy, meditation, and Reiki. Her path has led her to become a Reiki practitioner and she hopes to focus on helping others to heal from emotional and sexual trauma.

In this interview she discusses - among other things - how she made the conscious choice to heal after hitting rock bottom, how she then took on her healing as a full-time job and how she is raising her two boys to be aware and conscious about sexuality and consent.

---------------------------------------------------

SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes!

Contact Sarah: [email protected]

Contact Molly: www.mollycoeling.com // [email protected]

---------------------------------------------------

A special thanks to:

Gina McLaughlin Photography for photo and graphic design: https://www.facebook.com/ginamclaughlinphotography/?fref=tag

Dave Hiltebrand for intro and outro music original composition: https://www.davehiltebrand.com/

Gregory T. Obert for podcast consulting services: https://gregorytobert.com/

----------------------------------------------------

"If I'm willing to take a new definition of vulnerability and recognize it as 'This is part of the human condition; everyone is vulnerable to something, and no one leaves this world unscathed in some way.' If I'm willing to look at it that way, I have more of a chance to empower myself and to help myself, rather than to just stay stuck."

Sarah Buino is a Chicago based therapist and founder and president of Head/Heart Therapy, a group practice that specializes in addiction, shame and complementary healing modalities. In this interview we discuss the concept of sexual abuse on the energetic level and the nuances of sexual trauma, as well as its relationship to addiction. She also shares hope for healing in discussing the approach of finding the ease in the "dis-ease" and the importance of vulnerability and empathy as the antidotes to shame.

---------------------------------------------------

SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes!

Contact Sarah:

www.headhearttherapy.com

https://www.facebook.com/WoundedHealr/

https://www.facebook.com/HeadHeartTherapy/

Instagram: @headhearttherapy

Twitter: @WoundedHealr // @HeadHeart_Chi

Contact Molly: www.mollycoeling.com // [email protected]

---------------------------------------------------

A special thanks to:

Gina McLaughlin Photography for photo and graphic design: https://www.facebook.com/ginamclaughlinphotography/?fref=tag

Dave Hiltebrand for intro and outro music original composition: https://www.davehiltebrand.com/

Gregory T. Obert for podcast consulting services: https://gregorytobert.com/

"If we're asking what's next, my 'what's next' has a lot to do with making space for people's healing, which doesn't just mean feeling good and getting bodywork and going to yoga. It could mean getting really angry and getting really sad and finding places and practitioners who can hold space for all of that healing to unfold, so that we can move into whatever is our own 'what's next.'"

As a survivor, practitioner, advocate and so much more, Molly lives and breathes the anti sexual violence movement. In this interview, she discusses The Breathe Network, which helps connect survivors of sexual violence with trauma informed holistic practitioners of over 30 modalities who offer sliding scale services. If you want to hear her unique insight into the MeToo movement, you'll find that about 40 minutes into the interview.

The article I read that moved me to reach out to Molly back in 2014:

http://www.thebreathenetwork.org/when-the-rape-myth-is-your-reality

---------------------------------------------------

SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes!

Contact Molly Boeder Harris: www.thebreathenetwork.org // www.mollyboederharris.com

Contact Molly Coeling: www.mollycoeling.com // [email protected]

---------------------------------------------------

A special thanks to:

Gina McLaughlin Photography for photo and graphic design: https://www.facebook.com/ginamclaughlinphotography/?fref=tag

Dave Hiltebrand for intro and outro music original composition: https://www.davehiltebrand.com/

Gregory T. Obert for podcast consulting services: https://gregorytobert.com/

"For young women and girls, overwhelmingly, the silence results in funneling them further into a system of violence. So they go from personal and interpersonal violence to structural and systemic violence, ultimately leading them to incarceration."

In this interview, Liz shares her thoughts on sexual violence both from the perspective of her professional work advocating for at-risk girls, as well from a more personal lens, as the daughter of an incest survivor. The mission of her consulting group, She Dreams of Freedom, is to improve the outcomes of young women and girls in the criminal and juvenile justice system. In this interview she talks about the importance of seeing these girls, what you can do to help and how in the act of "helping" we often find our own healing.

---------------------------------------------------

SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes!

Twitter: @lizsalexander // FB: Liz S. Alexander // www.shedreamsoffreedom.com

Contact Molly: www.mollycoeling.com // [email protected]

---------------------------------------------------

A special thanks to:

Gina McLaughlin Photography for photo and graphic design: https://www.facebook.com/ginamclaughlinphotography/?fref=tag

Dave Hiltebrand for intro and outro music original composition: https://www.davehiltebrand.com/

Gregory T. Obert for podcast consulting services: https://gregorytobert.com/

----------------------------------------------------

In this mini episode, I reflect on an alternative to the "he said, she said" rhetoric that is dominating the national conversation (yet again).

"Even if he knows somewhere inside himself that he did this, is there any space in our current conversation for him to admit what he did, to apologize and to potentially arrive at redemption? Redemption as a human being who is worthy of love, who is worthy of respect, who is not to be shamed and cast aside and isolated."

-------------------------------------------------

The Dave Chapelle Netflix special I refer to is called "The Bird Revelation"

Kimberly Ann Johnson's Facebook post: "What Kavanaugh could have said...." https://www.facebook.com/magamamacom/photos/a.751660498182116/2314431865238297/?type=3&hc_location=ufi

---------------------------------------------------

SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes!

Contact Molly: www.mollycoeling.com // [email protected]

---------------------------------------------------

A special thanks to:

Gina McLaughlin Photography for photo and graphic design: https://www.facebook.com/ginamclaughlinphotography/?fref=tag

Dave Hiltebrand for intro and outro music original composition: https://www.davehiltebrand.com/

Gregory T. Obert for podcast consulting services: https://gregorytobert.com/

"Scorpio is the underworld, the skeletons in our closet... And here comes this bright, shiny light [Jupiter] being like 'Hey, let's look at that,' and pretty much in tandem with Jupiter's onset to Scorpio, the MeToo movement popped up."

In this interview Carly explains how we can look to astrology to better understand the energy that was the impetus for the MeToo movement - and where we are headed, if we do The Work. We also touch on the basics of astrology, how it can be used as a therapeutic modality and get into a few examples from my own birth chart.

---------------------------------------------------

SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes!

Contact Carly: StructureConstructor.com

[Please note that Carly no longer does readings at Shadow Emporium, as referenced in the interview. Contact her directly to set up a reading.]

Contact Molly: www.mollycoeling.com // [email protected]

---------------------------------------------------

A special thanks to:

Gina McLaughlin Photography for photo and graphic design: https://www.facebook.com/ginamclaughlinphotography/?fref=tag

Dave Hiltebrand for intro and outro music original composition: https://www.davehiltebrand.com/

Gregory T. Obert for podcast consulting services: https://gregorytobert.com/

----------------------------------------------------