Most people think affairs happen because men are selfish, sex-obsessed, or just bad. They’re wrong.

In this unshaming, emotionally honest episode, Lucas and I pull back the curtain on what’s really going on inside when a man cheats, and why it’s almost never about sex.

We’ll explore the five emotional roots of infidelity. From loneliness and emotional isolation to suppressed feelings, love addiction, and untreated depression—and why the affair is often less about her and more about the part of you that’s trying to come back to life.

If you’re in it right now, you might feel torn, guilty, alive, or all three. You may be questioning your marriage, your values, and even yourself. 

Whether you want to rebuild trust or simply understand your own heart, this conversation offers a path forward—one rooted in honesty, responsibility, and deep inner healing.

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You’ve probably said it: “I’m doing the best I can.”

It feels true. It sounds noble.

But what if that phrase is quietly keeping you from the life and relationships you actually want?

In this episode, Lucas and I unpack the deeper truth behind this common statement, and why it so often keeps good men stuck in patterns of avoidance, stagnation, and quiet frustration.

We’ll explore:

• How “doing your best” can become a protective shield from discomfort
• The difference between effort and ownership
• Why real respect from your wife, your kids, and yourself, requires more than good intentions
• And how to step into the kind of self-leadership that actually produces change

This conversation is about breaking free from the mindset that keeps men small, and stepping into the uncomfortable, powerful work of growth.

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One of the most painful things a man can experience is feeling like his wife doesn’t respect him.

It shows up in subtle jabs, eye rolls, dismissive tone, or that cold wall that makes you feel small in your own home. A lot of men assume they need to “man up” or act more dominant, but that’s not the answer.

In this episode, I sit down with the #1 Black Belt Husband coach Lucas Bell, and we break down:

• The real reason your wife pulls away or treats you with contempt
• Why most men unknowingly teach their wife not to respect them
• And how to rebuild trust, safety, and admiration without playing games or overcompensating

If you’ve ever thought: “She used to look at me with love… now it feels like she barely sees me”, this one’s for you.

Respect isn’t something you demand. It’s something you earn, and we’ll show you how to do it with strength, clarity, and grounded power.

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Let’s talk about a situation a lot of guys find themselves in, but almost no one knows how to handle.

Your wife goes quiet. She’s withdrawn. She’s emotionally shut down… and you have no idea what to do.

Do you chase her? Back off? Wait it out?

In this episode, I’m sitting down with the #1 Black Belt Husband coach Lucas Bell, to break this down.

We talk about what not to do when she pulls away, and how to lead your relationship with steadiness and strength, even when she feels hard to reach.

If your wife has felt emotionally distant lately, and you’ve been stuck in your head wondering what to do next, this conversation will give you clarity and a better way forward.

Let’s get into it.

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Let’s talk about a silent killer in marriages that no one likes to admit: neediness.

In today’s episode, I sit down with the #1 Black Belt Husband coach, Lucas Bell to unpack how neediness destroys masculine leadership, and slowly drains the attraction and connection out of your relationship.

We’re not talking about basic emotional needs. We’re talking about anxiety-driven energy that chases, clings, and demands emotional reassurance… all under the disguise of “just wanting to feel close.”

Here’s what we dive into:

• Why neediness is almost always rooted in anxious attachment
• How this panic to close the emotional gap usually pushes your spouse further away
• What it looks like when your emotional state becomes your partner’s burden
• Why strong marriages are built on leadership, not emotional overdependence
• And how to shift from insecure energy to calm, grounded presence

If you’ve ever felt like your need for connection is too much, or like you’re trying harder than your wife to fix things, this episode is for you.

Speak with a Black Belt Husband Coach: https://blackbelthusband.com/

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Purchase the book on Amazon: https://a.co/d/fSOsoFR