Black Men Unlearning

Kyle and Edwin continue their series on relationships by questioning whether equality is an ideal we should strive toward. Along the way, the cohost contend with the difference between facts and truth, the meaning of being "equally yoked" and the concept of submission.

In the first segment of BMU's relationship series, Kyle and Edwin explore the foundations of their conceptions of relationships. Along the way, they examine our culture's propensity to idolize models and question the value of the relationship "wisdom" we've come to accept.

Kyle and Edwin explore our culture's conception of humility by addressing toxic humility and false humility, and working out some of the reasons we find ourselves in these practices today. 

Kyle and Edwin chop it up about their skills in the kitchen and the influences that led them to find joy in cooking. The episode includes some of their favorite dishes, cooking tips and resources for improving skills in the kitchen.

Some references from the show include the Babish Culinary Universe YouTube channel (https://www.youtube.com/c/bingingwithbabish) including Basics with Babish (https://basicswithbabish.co/episodes) with particular attention to the "Tools," "Pantry Essentials," "Whole Chicken" and "Chicken Breasts" episodes.

Some other go-to online resources not mentioned in the episode are Chef Resha's website (https://carnaldish.com/) and The Kitchenista Diaries (https://www.kitchenistadiaries.com/) for their tremendous recipes.

Also shout out to Chef Derek Lee (Edwin's brother, IG: @dleethacook) whom Edwin somehow managed to forget to mention in an episode about cooking.

BMU is back after a brief hiatus and we're talking about practice. Yup, practice. Kyle and Edwin consider whether greatness should be the goal of everything we do while evaluating the reasons we avoid practicing disciplines we aren't immediately good at.

On the 10th(!) episode of BMU, Kyle and Edwin share what they've learned about themselves and our world after 16 months of the pandemic. The guys consider the pitfalls of extreme individualism and share ideas about the importance of leaning on each other.

Kyle and Edwin discuss their recent experiences with loss and the effect of processing grief on their lives. The discussion includes reflections of what they've learned from dealing with death and how they hope to live in light of these broader perspectives.

Kyle and Edwin discuss the week that was including responses to Bill Cosby's release, Sha'Carri Richardson's suspension and the fire in the Gulf of Mexico. 

The conversation references the book The Queen of America Goes to Washington City: Essays on Sex and Citizenship by Lauren Belant.

Kyle and Edwin discuss the ways they were indoctrinated into discriminatory beliefs about the LGBTQ community and the damaging consequences of their own actions prior to unlearning. They consider the inherent contradictions of "love the sinner, hate the sin" and how they arrived at open and affirming positions on the rights and freedoms of members of the LGBTQ community. The discussion includes references to the article, "Seven Gay Texts: Biblical Passages Used to Condemn Homosexuality," by Robert K. Gnuse.

Kyle and Edwin discuss their earliest notions of joy and the complex balance of maintaining access to it by allowing themselves to feel the good and the bad.