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Coming from you from our little Casa in Spain in lockdown! We have been working on our communication skills and asked ourselves the question; "Do we complain or do we communicate?"

You can communicate bitterness, anger, and many negative things, how do we have "Healthy Communication?"

How do you communicate in your relationships about jealousy, adultery, and emotional affairs?

Lisa Black leads the discussion...

Do you want to build a "Kingdom Marriage?" How do multicultural marriages work, and we are all a different culture! How do we merge our culture and how do we thrive in our relationships??

Join Gary and Lisa as they talk "All things marriage!" Lisa was widowed at age 25 and raised her two small girls for 5-years on her own. Gary lost his first marriage to mental illness and adultery and had to fight for 3-years to gain full custody of his sons. Together they have raised 6-children, lost a 19-year-old son, filed bankruptcy, made and raised millions, and have lived in Africa and Spain.

Married 20-years as of 2020, they talk "All things Marriage!"

One thing that has changed my life, and many others, is what you point to at the end of your paragraph "It's not living on earth waiting to get to Heaven, but it's bringing Heaven to earth now as you live each day here". This really is transformational in how we understand the point of Christianity!

You say it wasn't necessarily what you were taught growing up and neither was I or most people we encounter. For most people, the Gospel is very focused on forgiveness of sins via Jesus's death. This can narrow our lens to only see one aspect of why Jesus came. For most people, the Bad News is that Sin separates us from God and the Good News (Gospel) is that Jesus died for our sins. While this is true and wonderful and we affirm that - we often ask our students this question:

If 'Jesus died for your sins' is the good news or Gospel, then what was the Gospel Jesus was preaching or what was the Gospel his disciples were preaching while he was alive?

Think about that for a second because the question is not a small or trivial one. The Bible tells us that Jesus came Preaching the Gospel - (Mark 1:14, Matt 4:23, Matt 9:35, etc)

It occurred to me one day that the Gospel I was preaching, mainly "Jesus died for your sins" was radically different than what He preached and how he preached it since he was not dead yet.

So what was he preaching? Matt 4:23 Jesus was going throughout all Galilee, teaching in their synagogues and proclaiming the [a]gospel of the kingdom

This distinction may seem small at first, but for us, it changes everything.

How do we communicate to the next generation, and how do we live from an open-heart moment-to-moment, day-by-day - how do we live an experiential Christianity that is not boring?!!

Learning to live in the present moment is totally fundamental to living in the whole heart. Most of us instead live life according to our schedule, or through our imaginations or thinking about all that we have to do, in the next two hours, or thinking about what we should have done an hour ago… living this old way ruins any possibility of living in the heart.

The superior things that transpire in God’s Kingdom, however, is because God alone is superior and he does superior things, not because his servants are superior… As Paul rightly says, “We have this treasure of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Christ Jesus in the jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us”.

Most of us end up majoring in the “Mind” of the heart and abandoning the loves, the talents, the interests, the trusts, and the experiences of the full heart.

Out of many years of living with a shrunken heart, relationship styles with others are developed to become seriously unhealthy and self-protecting and damaging. The essence of these relationships are characterized by having one option in them; unhealthy relationships have only a single choice in relationships with other people.

On the other hand, healthy relationships have options; in-fact the essence of a healthy relationship is that it has more than one option. It has three options; A healthy relationship is dynamic, changeable and real. In every conflict that arises, in every discussion, we engage in, and every activity that we share with someone else, we can do these three things if we are healthy and have a healthy relationship.

1. We can submit to that other person.

2. We can resist that other person’s agenda and replace it with our own agenda.

3. We can separate from that other person.