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In this raw and honest episode of the Black, White & Grey Podcast, the full crew Ana, David, Ed, and Michael tackle one of life’s most complicated questions:

Chosen family versus blood family — who actually deserves access to your time, energy, and heart

From heartfelt reflections on loyalty and betrayal to laugh-out-loud real-life stories (including one unforgettable “best friend” drama), the conversation explores:

Why blood doesn’t automatically mean unlimited access

How chosen family often feels more supportive than relatives

The difference between checking in out of desire versus duty

People-pleasing, energy vampires, and protecting your peaces you grow

How success, age, and new versions of yourself change relationships

When it’s okay to let friendships naturally fade

Blending humour, vulnerability, and real-talk wisdom, this episode dives into the messy grey area of family dynamics, friendship boundaries, and personal growth.

If you’ve ever questioned toxic family ties, outgrown old friends, or wondered who truly belongs in your inner circle, this one’s for you.

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro & The Big Question

03:10 Blood vs Chosen Family

08:45 Wild Betrayal Story

15:20 Desire vs Duty

22:30 People-Pleasing & Energy Vampires

31:40 Growth, Envy & New Versions of You

40:15 Who Sees the Real You?

48:00 Final Thoughts: Values Over Bloodline

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Keywords: chosen family, blood family, family boundaries, toxic family, friendship betrayal, personal growth, people pleasing, energy vampires, relationship advice, adult friendships

Welcome to a very special guest episode of The Black, White & Grey Podcast. Today, we sit down with Terry Sewell to unpack a story that defines the "grey area" of the British justice system.

At 19, Terry was sentenced to life in prison under the controversial "Joint Enterprise" law. He served nearly 16 years for a fatal incident where he maintains he never struck the final blow. In this unfiltered conversation, Terry takes us back to the very beginning—from witnessing domestic violence as a child to the "goth" subculture of the early 2000s, and the series of events that led to a life-shaping conviction.

We Unpack:

• Surviving childhood abuse and finding identity in the goth scene.

• Homelessness, "hustling," and the escalation of violence.

• Terry’s minute-by-minute account of the incident that led to his arrest.

• How the law can hand out a life sentence to those who didn't commit the act.

• Rebuilding after a decade and a half behind bars.

Join us for a story of survival, systemic failure, and the search for perspective. Let’s unpack this together.

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(Keep an eye out for Terry’s upcoming podcast: Flipping The Script)

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Welcome to the Season 3 of The Black, White & Grey Podcast – where perspectives collide, and stories connect.In this episode, we dive deep into the lingering shadows of childhood trauma. We explore the difficult question many of us carry into adulthood: When does the past finally stop haunting us? Whether you are just beginning your healing journey or have been on this path for years, this conversation is about finding clarity in the grey areas of our mental health.We unpack:• The difference between "moving on" and truly healing.• How childhood wounds manifest in adult relationships and triggers.• Why trauma often feels like a cycle and how to start breaking it.• Practical perspectives on reclaiming your narrative from your past.Join us for raw conversations, real stories, and unfiltered perspectives. Let’s unpack this together.💬 Drop a comment: Does the past ever truly leave us, or do we just get better at carrying it? Share your thoughts or your own journey below.----👉 Subscribe for more real conversations🎧 Listen on Spotify: @bwgpodcast📲 Follow us on socials: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bwgpod Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bwgpod/ ----#podcast #blackwhitegreypodcast #childhoodtrauma #mentalhealth #healing #season3 #innerchild #traumarecovery

We’re joined by Chengi Tobun (@blackswanrelationshipacademy ) , the relationship and dating expert and Black Swan Relationship Academy CEO, spilling game-changing truths on what men actually need from women.

From understanding male needs to dodging dating disasters, Chengi’s helping women win at love and relationships. Expect spicy debates, real talk, and “oh, THAT’S what he meant” moments that’ll flip your perspective! What’s your dating dilemma? Drop it below!

Hosted by:

Ana Vilhete: @anavilhete

Brendan Shek: @brendanshek

Ed Stephens: @ed_s_2012

Michael Faceman: @Facem4n

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Welcome to the Season 3 Premiere of The Black, White & Grey Podcast – where perspectives collide, and stories connect.

In this episode, we officially welcome David Fagan to the inner circle — he’s officially "part of the furniture" now. We’re diving deep into a world where empathy has been outsourced to algorithms and our digital lives are fundamentally changing how we understand one another.

In this episode, we unpack:

• Why following someone’s life on Instagram means we no longer feel the need to actually call or see them in person.

• Michael confesses to having seven burner accounts to manipulate his own dopamine and explore different "camps" of the internet.

• Why we’ve started reading people as "content" rather than human beings.

• Our thoughts on the potential ban for under-16s and the "rewiring" of the developing brain.

• Is the 👍 emoji a polite agreement or a passive-aggressive "headlock"?

Join us for raw conversations, real stories, and unfiltered perspectives. Let’s unpack this together.

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Content Warning: This episode discusses domestic abuse, including emotional and psychological manipulation, which may be triggering for some viewers. Viewer discretion is advised, and resources for support are linked below.

We’re with Jared Whitaker, male domestic abuse survivor and author of Why Didn't You Just Leave Them?, unpacking his nightmare with an abusive wife. He breaks down abuser tactics like gaslighting and control, the soul-crushing powerlessness, the rage and shame he felt, and what men really need to heal and break free in 2025.

Expect no-BS insights on spotting manipulation, why leaving feels impossible, and survivor tools that save lives. What’s your red flag? Share below!

Support Resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline | Mankind Initiative (UK)

Hosted by:Ana Vilhete: @anavilheteEd Stephens: @ed_s_2012Michael Faceman: @Facem4n

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In this episode of Black, White and Grey Podcast, we’re joined by Andrew Shaw BSc, the UK’s health and wellness powerhouse behind the ACT Method, who’s transformed thousands of lives. Ever wonder why you’re not in control of your health or life? Andrew, who battled his own demons to become a top coach, drops hard truths on mastering mindset, why we feel the way we do, and his life story.We’re unpacking why people sabotage their health, how to break free from toxic habits, and where passion for a better you gets lost. Listeners will uncover practical hacks, mindset shifts, and Andrew’s no-BS approach to sustainable wellness. Expect fiery debates, real talk, and “I’m starting this today” vibes!Hosted by:Ana Vilhete: @anavilhteBrendan Shek: @brendanshekMichael Faceman: @Facem4n🔔 Like, share your health goal, and subscribe—this is your spot for life’s realest talks!Tags:#AndrewShaw, #HealthTransformation, #ACTMethod, #BlackWhiteGreyPodcast, #WellnessJourney, #MindsetShift, #FitnessMotivation, #NewPodcast2025, #HealthHacks, #NutritionTips, #OvercomingStruggles, #UKHealthCoach, #SustainableHealth, #SubscribeNow, #PodcastVibes2025, #RealTalkWellness

Welcome to The Black, White & Grey podcast – Where perspectives collide, and stories connect. In this episode, we ask the question, 'What impact do you think technology will have on the future?'We deep dive into what we think the fututre of the world holds for mankind with the fast evoving fourth dimension, with technology growing at a rapid pace and what that means for future generations.Fun, action packed and very insightful. Tune in and join us for raw conversations, real stories, and unfiltered perspectives. Let’s unpack this together.

Hosted by:Ana Vilhete: @anavilheteBrendan Shek: @brendanshekEd Stephens: @ed_s_2012Michael Faceman: @Facem4n💬 Drop a comment Let’s talk.👉 Subscribe for more real conversations: 📲 Follow us on socials: @bwgpod🎧 Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts & More: @bwgpodcastTags:#RealLifeStories, #HealthTransformation, #ACTMethod, #BlackWhiteGreyPodcast, #WellnessJourney, #MindsetShift, #FitnessMotivation, #NewPodcast2025, #HealthHacks, #NutritionTips, #OvercomingStruggles, #UKHealthCoach, #SustainableHealth, #SubscribeNow, #PodcastVibes2025, #RealTalkWellness