In this thought-provoking episode, host Sharika Soal delves into the complex reasons why many black women choose to date outside their race. She begins by sharing her own experiences, noting that even failed relationships with non-black men were less toxic than those with black men.

Soal goes on to discuss how the prevalence of "hood culture" among some black men shapes expectations for black women. She argues this leads to an assumption that black women must conform to a narrow definition of black femininity. She also takes issue with offensive language like the n-word and derogatory terms still used by some black men, even those who are educated.

The conversation then turns to financial expectations. Soal asserts that some black men see black women's role as suffering alongside them or providing primary financial support rather than being cared for as an equal partner. She contrasts this to her perception of relationship norms in other racial communities.

Soal also criticizes the tendency of some black men to police black women's appearance, saying this embarrassment stems from insecurity rather than care. She advocates for black women's freedom to simply be women without judgment.

Connect with Sharika:

Twitter: @SharikaSoal84

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