Have you ever brought up something important to your spouse, only to suddenly find yourself on the defensive?

Maybe you wanted to talk about feeling overwhelmed with household responsibilities, and before you know it, the conversation flips—now you’re reassuring them that they do enough. Or perhaps you ask for more quality time together, and instead of responding to your request, they fire back with, “Well, you’re always on your phone!”

That’s blame shifting—or what I like to call turning the table. It’s a subtle but powerful way conversations get derailed, leaving both partners feeling unheard, frustrated, and disconnected.

In this week’s podcast episode, I’m breaking down:
✔️ What blame shifting actually is and why it happens
✔️ 6 common ways it plays out in marriage (you might be surprised!)
✔️ How to recognize when you might be doing it
✔️ The first steps to changing this pattern and staying in healthy communication

This is one of those eye-opening dynamics that, once you see it, you can’t unsee it. And that’s a good thing—because awareness is the first step toward creating real connection in your marriage.

If this episode resonates with you, I’d love for you to share it with a friend or your spouse—because the more we understand these patterns, the easier it is to break free from them.

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