Body Kindness

Today Bernie and I talk about emotional eating. What's normal, what's not, when is it time to make meaningful changes? Tune in and learn all about the protective system of emotion regulation and how Bernie's "inner caregiver" helped him find connection and community.. Check the show notes to watch the video version.

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Nothing in this podcast is meant to provide medical diagnosis, treatment, cure, or prevent any disease or condition. Individuals should consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical advice and answers to personal health questions.

Today on the podcast I'm diving into a fascinating topic that's relatively new to me - Emotion Coaching, Emotion-Focused Family Therapy (EFFT), and Psychedelics. I'm joined by Dr. Adele Lafrance & Dr. Joe Tafur, two leading experts in this field. We talk about why EFFT is such a powerful tool for healing and they give us the lowdown on the Emotion, Spirituality, and Psychedelic Medicine 1-day workshop that's happening this Saturday February 6.

Find out more and register for the workshop here. Save 30% with code: BK30

Find out more about other upcoming workshops here.

Check out Dr. Adele Lafrance's books, What to Say to Kids When Nothing Seems to Work and Emotional-Focused Family Therapy

Check out Dr. Joe Tafur's book, The Fellowship of the River.

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Guest Info Dr. Adele Lafrance is a clinical psychologist, research scientist, author and co-developer of emotion-focused treatment modalities, including Emotion-Focused Family Therapy. A frequent keynote speaker at professional conferences, Adele has published extensively in the field of emotion and health, including a clinical manual to support families published by the American Psychological Association. She's also written a popular parenting book titled: What to Say to Kids When Nothing Seems to Work. Adele is a leader in the research and practice of psychedelic medicine, with involvement in studies examining the healing potential of ayahuasca, MDMA, psilocybin and ketamine. She has a particular interest in mechanisms and models of healing, including emotion processing, spirituality and family-based psychedelic psychotherapy.

Website | Twitter | Books | Upcoming Workshops

Joe Tafur, M.D., is a Colombian-American family physician originally from Phoenix, Arizona. After completing his family medicine training at UCLA, Dr. Tafur spent two years in academic research at the UCSD Department of Psychiatry in a lab focused on mind-body medicine. After his research fellowship, over a period of six years, he lived and worked in the Peruvian Amazon at the traditional healing center Nihue Rao Centro Espiritual. In his book "The Fellowship of the River: A Medical Doctor's Exploration into Traditional Amazonian Plant Medicine," through a series of stories, Dr. Tafur shares his unique experience and integrative medical theories. To learn more about his work, visit drjoetafur.com and modernspirit.org.

Website | Facebook | Modern Spirit

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OMG! We did it. Bernie Salazar and I brushed our hair and did our first video podcast for Body Kindness! We talked about our "origin story" of how we met and how the Body Kindness philosophy came to be. Check the show notes to watch the video version.

In this episode:

• Learn how Rebecca and Bernie met (and mistakes we made)
• Find out how the Body Kindness philosophy came to be. (more mistakes)
• Hear Bernie describe why he has never been healthier or happier at his higher weight with Body Kindness... and never dieting again!

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BodyKindnessBook.com/offers for 2021 groups and professional supervision.

BodyKindnessBook.com/start for a free starter kit to practicing Body Kindness.

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Get the Body Kindness book It's available wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Read reviews on Amazon and pick up your copy today! Order signed copies and bulk discounts here!

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Support the show If you're enjoying the show we'd love if you'd consider making a contribution at GoFundMe.com/bodykindness. 100% of any amount you can give goes to offset to production expenses. If 20 people can donate $25, it pays for this episode. We're so grateful to have you as a listener, and we thank you for your support.

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Nothing in this podcast is meant to provide medical diagnosis, treatment, cure, or prevent any disease or condition. Individuals should consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical advice and answers to personal health questions.

You aren't born feeling body shame. It's decided for you, conditioned in you, and you become entangled. Dominant culture's body ideals can keep you ensnared in your own self-loathing. But what if you want out? Make a pivot and CONNECT to your body, even if you wish it was different. Braving body shame is leaning into your burdens with empathy and compassion, saying "it's OK, I'm here... I want to care for you."

My guest Julie Sweeney discusses the virtual conference Braving Body Shame where people share their body stories.

Have questions about the event? Visit www.BravingBodyShame.com

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BodyKindnessBook.com/start for a free starter kit to practicing Body Kindness.

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Guest Info Julie Sweeney is a client-centered, solution-focused counselor who specializes in supporting women in finding freedom for themselves. Registered with the OCSWSSW as a social service worker and the ACCT as a Master Therapeutic Counsellor, Julie offers openness, honesty, and a willingness to be part of your journey in a way best suited to your needs.

Website | Instagram | Braving Body Shame conference

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Get the Body Kindness book It's available wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Read reviews on Amazon and pick up your copy today! Order signed copies and bulk discounts here!

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Support the show If you're enjoying the show we'd love if you'd consider making a contribution at GoFundMe.com/bodykindness. 100% of any amount you can give goes to offset to production expenses. If 20 people can donate $25, it pays for this episode. We're so grateful to have you as a listener, and we thank you for your support.

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Nothing in this podcast is meant to provide medical diagnosis, treatment, cure, or prevent any disease or condition. Individuals should consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical advice and answers to personal health questions.

Your body is an instrument not an ornament and just in time for the New Year, I'll help you understand what you can do if you want new tools and skills to be kind to yourself. My guests Doctors Lindsay and Lexi Kite, co-founders of Beauty Redefined, share their wisdom from years of research in their new book More Than a Body.

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Guest info Twin sisters Dr. Lexie Kite and Dr. Lindsay Kite received their PhDs from the University of Utah. Their academic research on media studies and body image inspired them to establish the non-profit Beauty Redefined. They are here with their first book: MORE THAN A BODY: Your Body Is an Instrument, Not an Ornament, on sale now.

Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Book

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Now is the time to secure your spot in my Body Kindness 2021 support group forming now. Click here to join us!

Self-care for diabetes virtual course -- the only anti-diet course that integrates principles of Body Kindness, mindfulness, DBT, and intuitive eating. www.selfcare4diabetes.com

Professional supervision "learn and grow" 3-month group begins in February! The only place you can learn how to become an anxiety and trauma informed Body Kindness practitioner. Find out more.

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Get the Body Kindness book It's available wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Read reviews on Amazon and pick up your copy today! Order signed copies and bulk discounts here!

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Support the show If you're enjoying the show we'd love if you'd consider making a contribution at GoFundMe.com/bodykindness. 100% of any amount you can give goes to offset to production expenses. If 20 people can donate $25, it pays for this episode. We're so grateful to have you as a listener, and we thank you for your support.

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Subscribe to the podcastWe're on iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify and iHeartRadio. Enjoy the show? Please rate it on iTunes! Have a show idea or guest recommendation? E-mail [email protected] to get in touch.

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Nothing in this podcast is meant to provide medical diagnosis, treatment, cure, or prevent any disease or condition. Individuals should consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical advice and answers to personal health questions.

Bernie Salazar sits down with Rebecca to recap his year parenting a "quarantine baby" navigating his businesses, his health, and personal COVID losses.

Rebecca and Bernie discuss coping with stress, anxiety, and shifting intentions toward 2021.

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Join Rebecca and Bernie in their Virtual Body Kindness Support Group Jan 9th 2021. Register here!

Self-care For Diabetes virtual course -- the only anti-diet course that integrates principles of Body Kindness, mindfulness, DBT, and intuitive eating. www.selfcare4diabetes.com

Professional supervision "learn and grow" 3-month group begins in February! The only place you can learn how to become an anxiety and trauma informed Body Kindness practitioner. Find out more.

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Get the Body Kindness book It's available wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Read reviews on Amazon and pick up your copy today! Order signed copies and bulk discounts here!

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Support the show If you're enjoying the show we'd love if you'd consider making a contribution at GoFundMe.com/bodykindness. 100% of any amount you can give goes to offset to production expenses. If 20 people can donate $25, it pays for this episode. We're so grateful to have you as a listener, and we thank you for your support.

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Subscribe to the podcastWe're on iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify and iHeartRadio. Enjoy the show? Please rate it on iTunes! Have a show idea or guest recommendation? E-mail [email protected] to get in touch.

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Nothing in this podcast is meant to provide medical diagnosis, treatment, cure, or prevent any disease or condition. Individuals should consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical advice and answers to personal health questions.

Dr. Lindo Bacon is fostering a global transformation to a more just world, where all bodies are valued, respected, and supported in compassionate self-care. We discuss their latest book, Radical Belonging, including Dr. Bacon’s painful experience not belonging to their assigned gender, how finding communities of belonging can be personally meaningful, how the forces of oppression create stress in your body, and why commitment to self-care helps you heal your well-being.

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About Lindo
Best known for their paradigm-shifting research and advocacy upending the weight discourse, Dr. Lindo Bacon's inspiring message takes us beyond size, to shaping a culture of empathy, equity and true belonging.

Dr. Bacon has mined their deep academic proficiency, wide-ranging clinical expertise and own personal experience to write two best-selling books, Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight, and the co-authored Body Respect: What Conventional Health Books Get Wrong, Leave Out, or Just Plain Fail to Understand about Weight. Both are credited with transforming the weight discourse and inspiring a hopeful new course for the global body positivity movement. Bacon’s work is inspired by lessons learned through three graduate degrees in health science, including a PhD in physiology, as well as clinical and research experience.

A compelling speaker, writer and storyteller, Dr. Bacon delivers a unique blend of academic expertise, clinical experience, and social justice advocacy, all couched in a raw honesty and compassion that touch and inspire.

Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook

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Get the Body Kindness book
It's available wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Read reviews on Amazon and pick up your copy today! Order signed copies and bulk discounts here!

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Donate to support the show
Thanks to our generous supporters! We're working toward our goal to fund the full season. Can you donate? Please visit our Go Fund Me page.

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Get started with Body Kindness
Sign up to get started for free and stay up to date on the latest offerings

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Become a client
Check out BodyKindnessBook.com/breakthrough for the latest groups and individual support sessions

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Have a show idea or guest recommendation? E-mail [email protected] to get in touch.

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Continue the episode conversations with the hosts, guests, and fellow listeners on the Body Kindness Facebook group. See you there!

Nothing in this podcast is meant to provide medical diagnosis, treatment, cure, or prevent any disease or condition. Individuals should consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical advice and answers to personal health questions.

It's been a year of testing so much for all of us.

Bernie and I catch up on how we're making it through parenting and trying to stay distant (and connected) during COVID, which is relentless.

We also discuss the election stress, our self care plans, and why we need to "complete our stress cycles" — something we learned by reading the book Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski.

Get a replay of some key advice from our podcast chat on Body Shame Burnout with the authors originally aired in May 2019, including how the Patriarchy keep "human giver syndrome" and the "bikini industrial complex" alive and well — and oppressing you, making you stressed, sick, and spiraling toward Burnout.

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About Emily & Amelia Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., is a sex educator and author of Come As You Are: The surprising new science that will transform your sex life. Her job is to travel all over the world, training therapists, medical professionals, college students, and the general public about the science of women's sexual wellbeing.

Amelia Nagoski, D.M.A. (it stands for Doctorate of Musical Arts), is Assistant Professor and Coordinator of Music at Western New England University. Her job is to run around waving her arms and making funny noises and generally doing whatever it takes to help singers get in touch with their internal experience.

'Burnout' book | Instagram | Twitter

About BernieBernie Salazar is a recovering chronic dieter and former contestant on Season 5 of NBC's The Biggest Loser. Realizing that you can't hate yourself healthy, Bernie has been a student of the body kindness philosophy for over three years. You can follow his journey to self-acceptance on the Body Kindness Learn & Grow series where, under the guidance of his mentor and friend Rebecca Scritchfield, RDN he's worked to unpack both his experience on and off the Biggest Loser. Finally embracing that his true, happy and healthy self was always meant to have a fat body, he encourages others to practice body kindness and work to heal our relationships with ourselves.

Most recently, he's co-founded Uniting Soles, a shoe company with a conscious, where he is working to unite souls with Soles. Witnessing first hand how providing a person a helping hand, can help to transform their current situation; Bernie is committed to serving others. No longer able to stand idly by as families are being separated at our southern borders, he's co-founded Uniting Soles to assist organizations in reuniting families and to provide aid to those groups fighting for immigration law reform and family reunification.

Connect with Bernie on Instagram: @berniesalazarofficial @unitingsoles

Follow his journey on the Body Kindness Learn & Grow series.

Learn more about Uniting Soles at unitingsoles.com

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Get the Body Kindness book It's available wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Read reviews on Amazon and pick up your copy today! Order signed copies and bulk discounts here!

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Donate to support the show Thanks to our generous supporters! We're working toward our goal to fund the full season. Can you donate? Please visit our Go Fund Me page.

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Get started with Body Kindness Sign up to get started for free and stay up to date on the latest offerings

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Become a client Check out BodyKindnessBook.com/breakthrough for the latest groups and individual support sessions

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Subscribe to the podcastWe're on iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify and iHeartRadio. Enjoy the show? Please rate it on iTunes! Have a show idea or guest recommendation? E-mail [email protected] to get in touch.

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Nothing in this podcast is meant to provide medical diagnosis, treatment, cure, or prevent any disease or condition. Individuals should consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical advice and answers to personal health questions.

In the countdown to the 2020 election I interviewed Soraya Chemaly, author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger - an amazing book she wrote after 2016 election delving into the reasons why women can't be angry without being called "unhinged" or a "b*".

Our conversation includes:

• how the progressive white male was most "shocked" with 2016 results
• why the power differential between men and women hurts EVERYONE (hello, judges of Kamala Harris' facial expressions)
• why the ideology of separate spheres keeps us divided — and struggling to maintain our mental health, hence all those bubble baths and lavender oil treatments. (Raising my hand to that... its great, right, but... is it really enough?)
• Soraya also shares the historical context of gender roles and intersectional feminism to provide convincing reasons why self-care rituals fall short of any real solutions while remaining vitally important for us to do.

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About Soraya Soraya Chemaly is currently Executive Director of The Representation Project. An award-winning author and activist, she writes and speaks frequently on topics related to gender norms, inclusivity, social justice, free speech, sexualized violence, and technology. The former director and co-founder of the Women's Media Center Speech Project, she has long been committed to expanding women's civic and political participation.

Her work as a writer, activist and organizer is featured widely in media, books, and academic research. She is the author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, which has been translated into several languages, and a contributor to multiple anthologies, most recently Free Speech in the Digital Age and Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change The World.

Prior to 2010, Ms. Chemaly spent more than fifteen years as a market development executive and consultant in the media and data technology industries. After several years in market development at the Gannett Corporation, she moved into the datatech sector at Claritas, ending her tenure there as SVP of Marketing Strategy.

Soraya currently serves on the national boards of the Women's Media Center, Women in Journalism, and the DC Volunteer Lawyers Project. She has also served on the boards of Women, Action and the advisory councils of the Center for Democracy and Technology, VIDA, Secular Woman, FORCE: Upsetting Rape Culture, No Bully, and Common Sense Media. As an activist, Ms. Chemaly has spear-headed multiple successful campaigns challenging corporations to address online harassment and abuse, restrictive content moderation and censorship, and institutional biases that affect free speech.

In 2013, Soraya won the Association for Education in Journalism and Mass Communication's (AEJMC)'s Award for Feminist Advocacy and the Secular Woman Activism Award. In 2014, she was named one of Elle Magazine's 25 Inspiring Women to Follow in social media, and, in 2016, the recipient of the Women's Institute for Freedom of the Press's Women and Media Award. In 2017, she was the co-recipient of the Newhouse Mirror Award for Best Single Feature of 2016 for an in-depth investigative report on free speech and social media, and a Wikipedia Distinguished Service Award for exemplary contributions to the advancement of public knowledge and educational content. In 2019, she was awarded the Feminist Press' Feminist Power Award.

Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Books

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Get the Body Kindness book It's available wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Read reviews on Amazon and pick up your copy today! Order signed copies and bulk discounts here!

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Donate to support the show Thanks to our generous supporters! We're working toward our goal to fund the full season. Can you donate? Please visit our Go Fund Me page.

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Get started with Body Kindness Sign up to get started for free and stay up to date on the latest offerings

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Become a client Check out BodyKindnessBook.com/breakthrough for the latest groups and individual support sessions

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Subscribe to the podcastWe're on iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify and iHeartRadio. Enjoy the show? Please rate it on iTunes! Have a show idea or guest recommendation? E-mail [email protected] to get in touch.

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Nothing in this podcast is meant to provide medical diagnosis, treatment, cure, or prevent any disease or condition. Individuals should consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical advice and answers to personal health questions.

What does your body liberation have to do with voting this year? Everything. Everything is on the line this election, up and down the ballot.

Jaclyn Friedman, author of Unscrewed, helps me link body kindness to climate change, economic justice, healthcare, and more. Don't settle for fauxpowerment.

In this lively episode chat, Jaclyn shares many ways anyone can get fired up to vote or help others get fired up... with joy and connection.

Follow her 3 steps to positive well-being this election season:

1. Look after yourself and make sure you're safe and secure.
2. Look out for each other. (Your post-it people)
3. Look for opportunities for fun.

And also... if you can do more, do it.

1. Register to vote.
2. Fill out your mail in ballot. Get it in the drop off box ASAP.
3. Check in on friends. Reach out to people you know with texts, emails, or postcards. Offer to help.

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Links Mentioned:

How to contact your U.S. Senator

Learn about progressive candidates Jaclyn recommends

@jaclynf on Twitter - her DMs are open if you have any questions about getting out the vote.

Body Kindness Episode 142 – Believe Me: Why trusting women is essential for collective well-being with Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti

Body Kindness Episode 57: Get 'Unscrewed' in this #MeToo world with Jaclyn Friedman activist and author of Unscrewed

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About Jaclyn Jaclyn Friedman is a writer, educator and activist, and creator of four books Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape (one of Publishers' Weekly's Top 100 Books of 2009), What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex & Safety, Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All, and her latest, Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change the World. Her podcast, also called Unscrewed, is paving new paths to sexual liberation, and was named one of the Best Sex Podcasts by both Marie Claire and Esquire.

Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Podcast | Patreon

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Get the Body Kindness book It's available wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Read reviews on Amazon and pick up your copy today! Order signed copies and bulk discounts here!

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Donate to support the show Thanks to our generous supporters! We're working toward our goal to fund the full season. Can you donate? Please visit our Go Fund Me page.

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Get started with Body Kindness Sign up to get started for free and stay up to date on the latest offerings

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Become a client Check out BodyKindnessBook.com/breakthrough for the latest groups and individual support sessions

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Subscribe to the podcastWe're on iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify and iHeartRadio. Enjoy the show? Please rate it on iTunes! Have a show idea or guest recommendation? E-mail [email protected] to get in touch.

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Join the Facebook groupContinue the episode conversations with the hosts, guests, and fellow listeners on the Body Kindness Facebook group. See you there!

Nothing in this podcast is meant to provide medical diagnosis, treatment, cure, or prevent any disease or condition. Individuals should consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical advice and answers to personal health questions.