Bold Business Podcast

The most basic form of communication is straightforward and easy to understand. With so many nuances, there is a tendency to include everything. Yet, it’s in that inclusion that makes it hard to know what to focus on…what’s the priority. Simplification is a skill, that requires effort and thinking. It’s in the clarity of each message - internally and externally - every person in the company knows their contribution and can reflect that outward to clients, vendors, and contacts. Les Dossey and Jessica Dewell define problems, obstacles, and barriers and demystifying what we do once we recognize a problem exists. Starting the conversation...

• What if we are intentional and face our problems instead of pretend they don’t exist?
• knowing we can’t ignore them forever, what if we were intentional with our problems?

Host: Jessica Dewell    Co-host: Les Dossey

What You Will Hear:

Stories to set the stage for the conversation.

Steven Covey’s finding out what actions will impact.

Problems: day to day issue that can be fixed quickly.

Obstacles: more time to resolve with varying degrees of complexity; internal.

Barriers: hard to identify and define, and made up of many problems and obstacles.

Lack of simplicity and using mission, vision, and values.

Active work. Effort to simplify communication.

Stop and think. Know what we’re doing - how we contribute.

What it means to live by giving a little extra.

Tips to practice our thinking muscle, and the skills thinking includes.

Preparation, communication and our level of impact.

Honoring complexity, things happen, and it’s how problems are handled.

The experience expectation and disarmingly honest.

Break down and figure out the start of a problem, obstacle, or barrier.

What ‘transform’ really is (and it starts with a point point) when we say ‘I’ve got to do something here.’

Importance of how we define what we think. It shapes our experience.

Deep thinking about our individual worlds.

Notable & Quotable

Les Dossey: Give our attention to the problems, obstacles, and barriers we can influence.

Les Dossey: We tend to make things complicated, yet it’s a habit that can be broken.

Jessica Dewell: It’s easy to add complexity as we go along.

Jessica Dewell: The hard work [simplifying] never stops. It gets easier because we use the skill.

Jessica Dewell: Stop and think. The experience of it matters.

Les Dossey: We assign more trouble to problems, obstacles, and barriers than they really need.

Les Dossey: I’ll not be surprised today because problems arise. I’m prepared to react the best way possible.

Les Dossey: Problems deserve zero negative emotion from me. Zero.

Jessica Dewell: Plan for what might happen and be prepared for it.

Jessica Dewell: The more time we upfront saves hours after the fact.

Les Dossey: [Upfront communication] makes more meaningful connection throughout our interaction.

Jessica Dewell: It’s ok to fly by the seat of your pants as long as you know what direction you are flying.

Les Dossey: I’m human and I make mistakes. I know where I will mess up and where I will shine.

Jessica Dewell: Recognize assumptions too late and the problem is out of control - the pain is acute.

Les Dossey: It’s not outside forces that make us feel, it’s what we tell ourselves that tells us how we feel.

Les Dossey: We have the power to redefine and give something a different meaning. Give yourself freedom.

Les Dossey: The problem is never the problem. The problem is not knowing how to think.

Resources

• Goat herder Aesops Fable: A goat herder had sought to bring back a stray goat to his flock. He whistled and sounded his horn in vain; the straggler paid no attention to the summons. At last the Goatherd threw a stone, and breaking its horn, begged the Goat not to tell his master. The Goat replied, “Why, you silly fellow, the horn will speak though I be silent.”
• Do not attempt to hide things which cannot be hid.
• 4 Tips for Overcoming Obstacles
• 7 Habits of Highly Successful People
• quote Seth Godin: ready, launch, aim
• Donald Miller Story…framework
• Newport News Shipping Company mission:
• David … disarmingly honest
• Raving Fans (book)

Tags:  confidence, courage, problem solving, problems, avoidance, awareness, fear, simplify, complexity, mission, vision, values, articulate, polarize, leaders, think, value, experience, think, thinking, present, emotion management, planning, example, model, integrity, impact, human connection, vulnerability, behave, decision making, assume, transform, barrier, obstacle, problem, influence

What was modeled to us directly relates to our ability to approach learning skills for success. Success includes using our own developed skills and strengths as well as the ability to relate, connect and interact with others. Who we know, and what we know them for is what make it possible to navigate problems and unexpected situation. Build and hone your skill to ask for help.

Starting the conversation…

• Asking for help is a skill.
• Let go of doing-it-all (eg. Superman or Wonder Woman)
• How do you admit you need help?

Host: Jessica Dewell Panelist: Theresa Robison, Carmen Rojas

What You Will Hear:

Asking for help looks different in different situations.

Prioritize and shuffle tasks.

To learn, and take on something…or not.

Is the solution really the solution.

Define the gaps we have to have support from those around us to have more skills to draw from.

Balance our skills with the skills of others.

When do we offer our help to those that we see in need of help.

How open and receptive we are, and the people we interact with are.

Two different ways to ask for help: get a job done or to start building an idea.

When there is a lot of information out there…it's easy to think we don't need help, that we can find it online.

Model asking for help. We all have work to do.

There is a give and take to everything. Realistic.

Model empathy and sympathy.

It takes time to model. It's a muscle.

Build and maintain a network to call on when solving problems.

Notable & Quotable

Theresa Robison: When everything is critical, and everything is overwhelming, I make a list and go to my boss and have them help me rank them.

Theresa Robison: There is never a day when a teacher leaves their job feeling like their job feeling finished.

Jessica Dewell: I decide what to do and decide what not to do based on my skills, time, and interest.

Jessica Dewell: What really makes sense here?

Carmen Rojas: Everyone has battle scars from times we asked for help and didn't get it.

Carmen Rojas: I teach the people around me to help me ask for help.

Jessica Dewell: Even though it's obvious for us we need help, someone else may not see it unless we say something.

Theresa Robison: You can not provide help to someone that doesn't want it.

Carmen Rojas: Learn the right balance for professional and personal development.

Jessica Dewell: Each moment - I am all in.

Jessica Dewell: Avoidance for asking help: will they like it as much as me?

Jessica DeweIl: I ask questions to open the door to find out what help I can provide.

Carmen Rojas: We do things outside of work to get to know each other better - and to recognize the stress triggers we each have.

Theresa Robison: I honed my superwoman skills and everything got done…but I didn't sleep and I had no life.

Tags: upper limit problem, situations, follow-up, prioritization, collaboration, bootstrapping, tasks, solutions, effort, ask, asking, acceptance, trust, mindset, model, behavior, problem solving, confidence, resentment, skills, stress, realistic, structure, empathy, sympathy, personality tests, communication, leadership, leader, reflection, network

What was modeled to us directly relates to our ability to approach learning skills for success. Success includes using our own developed skills and strengths as well as the ability to relate, connect and interact with others. Who we know, and what we know them for is what make it possible to navigate problems and unexpected situation. Build and hone your skill to ask for help. Starting the conversation…

• Asking for help is a skill.
• Let go of doing-it-all (eg. Superman or Wonder Woman)
• How do you admit you need help?

Host: Jessica Dewell    Panelist: Theresa Robison, Carmen Rojas What You Will Hear:

Asking for help looks different in different situations.

Prioritize and shuffle tasks.

To learn, and take on something…or not.

Is the solution really the solution.

Define the gaps we have to have support from those around us to have more skills to draw from.

Balance our skills with the skills of others.

When do we offer our help to those that we see in need of help.

How open and receptive we are, and the people we interact with are.

Two different ways to ask for help: get a job done or to start building an idea.

When there is a lot of information out there…it’s easy to think we don’t need help, that we can find it online.

Model asking for help. We all have work to do.

There is a give and take to everything. Realistic.

Model empathy and sympathy.

It takes time to model. It’s a muscle.

Build and maintain a network to call on when solving problems. Notable & Quotable

Theresa Robison: When everything is critical, and everything is overwhelming, I make a list and go to my boss and have them help me rank them.

Theresa Robison: There is never a day when a teacher leaves their job feeling like their job feeling finished.

Jessica Dewell: I decide what to do and decide what not to do based on my skills, time, and interest.

Jessica Dewell: What really makes sense here?

Carmen Rojas: Everyone has battle scars from times we asked for help and didn’t get it.

Carmen Rojas: I teach the people around me to help me ask for help.

Jessica Dewell: Even though it’s obvious for us we need help, someone else may not see it unless we say something.

Theresa Robison: You can not provide help to someone that doesn’t want it.

Carmen Rojas: Learn the right balance for professional and personal development.

Jessica Dewell: Each moment - I am all in.

Jessica Dewell: Avoidance for asking help: will they like it as much as me?

Jessica DeweIl:  I ask questions to open the door to find out what help I can provide.

Carmen Rojas: We do things outside of work to get to know each other better - and to recognize the stress triggers we each have.

Theresa Robison: I honed my superwoman skills and everything got done…but I didn’t sleep and I had no life.

Tags:  upper limit problem, situations, follow-up, prioritization, collaboration, bootstrapping, tasks, solutions, effort, ask, asking, acceptance, trust, mindset, model, behavior, problem solving, confidence, resentment, skills, stress, realistic, structure, empathy, sympathy, personality tests, communication, leadership, leader, reflection, network

It is our responsibility to think. What is actually real and known today is what we use to make decisions. Allowing uncertainty to stall or inhibit our ability to act limits success. (And, when we decide for others, we inhibit their ability to step up. We want the right result. We want to be free. Listen in and find out what Les Dossey and Jessica Dewell talk about for building a beginners mind and a filter to evaluate options.

Starting the Conversation...

• When we understand, know, and practice thinking, we are able to be present in our situation.
• Thinking allows us to be who we are (playing all-in).
• Handle situations where miscommunication, complication, and even drama to crop up.

Host: Jessica Dewell Co-host: Les Dossey

What You Will Hear:

Three kinds of entrepreneurs.

Attributes of clean thinking.

Use of reasoning.

Challenge assumptions.

What we take away from lessons.

Skills for clean thinking.

Certainty and uncertainty through action.

Keep up with what's happening.

Build in thinking time.

Difference between feeling things that are measurable vs momentum and resources assessment.

What kinds of questions would people looking at your business have?

Define a beginner's mind.

Serendipity and business.

Acknowledge the raven that stopped by.

Skills for a beginner's mind.

Non-judgement and noticing.

Take the time to think, notice, accept, and put effort in finding the right result.

The more we try something - and practice our skills - the easier it becomes.

The value of being free. Perspective.

Notable & Quotable

Les Dossey: I work with ambitious entrepreneurs.

Les Dossey: I had half of a lesson.

Jessica Dewell: Organizations are dependent on relationships.

Jessica Dewell: There is effort in work to be done.

Les Dossey: The hardest part an entrepreneur has is thinking.

Jessica Dewell: I use thinking time to identify opportunities, problems, and dream up what's to be discovered.

Les Dossey: A challenge is that that we become too certain in what is or isn't.

Jessica Dewell: Something to be said for the saying the slower we go the more we get done.

Jessica Dewell: The courage to decide on an action.

Les Dossey: Skills are a muscle. If we practice it becomes easy.

Jessica Dewell: What's right for the situation might not have come up yet.

Les Dossey: If I want more freedom - I have to practice giving everyone around me to be what it is.

Resources

Wait But Why - by Tim Gordon about Elon Musk

Ravens give gifts

quote: The successful person of the 21st century will not be the person who can read, write and collage

Learn, unlearn very quickly…

quote: When the facts change, I change my mind

Tags: coaching, professionals, entrepreneur, freedom, clean thinking, effective, assumptions, challenge, success, partnership, planning, all-in, skills, ability, relationship, responsibility, effort, results, snow globe, busy, raven, observe, courage, notice, courage, acceptance, intentional, mindset, values,

It is our responsibility to think. What is actually real and known today is what we use to make decisions. Allowing uncertainty to stall or inhibit our ability to act limits success. (And, when we decide for others, we inhibit their ability to step up. We want the right result. We want to be free. Listen in and find out what Les Dossey and Jessica Dewell talk about for building a beginners mind and a filter to evaluate options.

Starting the Conversation...

• When we understand, know, and practice thinking, we are able to be present in our situation.
• Thinking allows us to be who we are (playing all-in).
• Handle situations where miscommunication, complication, and even drama to crop up.

Host: Jessica Dewell    Co-host: Les Dossey

        What You Will Hear:

Three kinds of entrepreneurs.

Attributes of clean thinking.

Use of reasoning.

Challenge assumptions.

What we take away from lessons.

Skills for clean thinking.

Certainty and uncertainty through action.

Keep up with what’s happening.

Build in thinking time.

Difference between feeling things that are measurable vs momentum and resources assessment.

What kinds of questions would people looking at your business have?

Define a beginner’s mind.

Serendipity and business.

Acknowledge the raven that stopped by.

Skills for a beginner’s mind.

Non-judgement and noticing.

Take the time to think, notice, accept, and put effort in finding the right result.

The more we try something - and practice our skills - the easier it becomes.

The value of being free. Perspective.

Notable & Quotable

Les Dossey: I work with ambitious entrepreneurs.

Les Dossey: I had half of a lesson.

Jessica Dewell: Organizations are dependent on relationships.

Jessica Dewell: There is effort in work to be done.

Les Dossey: The hardest part an entrepreneur has is thinking.

Jessica Dewell: I use thinking time to identify opportunities, problems, and dream up what’s to be discovered.

Les Dossey: A challenge is that that we become too certain in what is or isn’t.

Jessica Dewell: Something to be said for the saying the slower we go the more we get done.

Jessica Dewell: The courage to decide on an action.

Les Dossey: Skills are a muscle. If we practice it becomes easy.

Jessica Dewell: What’s right for the situation might not have come up yet.

Les Dossey: If I want more freedom - I have to practice giving everyone around me to be what it is.

Resources

Wait But Why - by Tim Gordon about Elon Musk

Ravens give gifts

quote: The successful person of the 21st century will not be the person who can read, write and collage

Learn, unlearn very quickly…

quote: When the facts change, I change my mind

Tags:  coaching, professionals, entrepreneur, freedom, clean thinking, effective, assumptions, challenge, success, partnership, planning, all-in, skills, ability, relationship, responsibility, effort, results, snow globe, busy, raven, observe, courage, notice, courage, acceptance, intentional, mindset, values,

Lessons learned come from reflection, a look back. We explore where we were to get where we are. It's a moment of clarity that a line is drawn in the sand. We dig in and know what skills we have and what we need to move forward. Its a choice to stop talking, consider, and then take action.

Starting the conversation...

• Whats one of your lesson-learned stories and the gift that came from it?
• Aesop's Fable of Belling The Cat.

Host: Jessica Dewell Panel: Joel Dawson

What You Will Hear:

If I market to you, you are a prospect. NO!

Two things that makes a prospect, a prospect.

External approval squashes us more than it lifts us.

Acceptance vs approval and Maslow's Hierarchy.

Calm knowing - the talk stops when action happens.

It's hard to make choices, and we must make some decisions by ourself.

Choosing more than one thing - the outcome isn't what we expect.

It comes down to our personal values and sense of self for a filter.

Model our behavior and values from our life and what we want from life.

Our personal values inform our professional choices.

Old habits, new situations. Draw on our past to show up today.

High stress, quick response - auto respond with conditioning.

Recognize energy build up in ourselves and what we do about it.

Intentional action tips.

Stick to your decision and act in line with it.

Use what you know.

What we do with information.

Check ourselves and challenge our habits.

Resources

• Aesop's Fable: Belling The Cat
• Success is never final, failure is never fatal, it's courage that counts. John Wooden
• Maslow's Hierarchy
• JSY Show "Hi, What's your name again?" with Joel Dawson

Tags: sales, prospect, ideas, execution, courage, forgiveness, awareness, productivity, execution, action, values, model, behavior, habits, practice, conditioning, response, transform, intentional action, approval, relationships,

Lessons learned come from reflection, a look back. We explore where we were to get where we are. It’s a moment of clarity that a line is drawn in the sand. We dig in and know what skills we have and what we need to move forward. Its a choice to stop talking, consider, and then take action. Starting the conversation...

• Whats one of your lesson-learned stories and the gift that came from it?
• Aesop’s Fable of Belling The Cat.

Host: Jessica Dewell    Panel: Joel Dawson

What You Will Hear:

If I market to you, you are a prospect. NO!

Two things that makes a prospect, a prospect.

External approval squashes us more than it lifts us.

Acceptance vs approval and Maslow’s Hierarchy.

Calm knowing - the talk stops when action happens.

It’s hard to make choices, and we must make some decisions by ourself.

Choosing more than one thing - the outcome isn’t what we expect.

It comes down to our personal values and sense of self for a filter.

Model our behavior and values from our life and what we want from life.

Our personal values inform our professional choices.

Old habits, new situations. Draw on our past to show up today.

High stress, quick response - auto respond with conditioning.

Recognize energy build up in ourselves and what we do about it.

Intentional action tips.

Stick to your decision and act in line with it.

Use what you know.

What we do with information.

Check ourselves and challenge our habits.

Resources

• Aesop’s Fable: Belling The Cat
• Success is never final, failure is never fatal, it’s courage that counts. John Wooden
• Maslow’s Hierarchy
• JSY Show “Hi, What’s your name again?” with Joel Dawson

Tags:  sales, prospect, ideas, execution, courage, forgiveness, awareness, productivity, execution, action, values, model, behavior, habits, practice, conditioning, response, transform, intentional action, approval, relationships,

Technology has changed our interaction with customers, what we expect to be able to do - to do our job well, and even stay connected to work after work. But when we aren't happy doing our work, what then? Do you or someone you know resonate with one of these 5 lies we tell ourselves to stay in a job? Recognizing the lie is the first step. Then, evaluate the situation with this lens and decide what's best for your life right now.

Starting the conversation...

• What if we struggle with what to do (or not) many times throughout the day?
• Being able to connect what we do to success in our role, achieving department goals, and even setting the stage for our own advancement…it's up to us.

Host: Jessica Dewell Co-host: Tanya Bourque

What You Will Hear:

Get noticed. Lie #1: Someone will notice my hard work without me saying anything?

Culture includes promotion practices, budgets. Lack of communication, or lack of asking for more information.

Exploring our own observations and avoidances…and we talk about speaking up on our own behalf.

The first question - after deciding to leave.

Money (salary) used as a stop gap trains our people look at compensation directly related to their contribution.

Tips to speak up.

Observe unwritten agreements.

Get Promoted. Lie #2: I will get promoted because I've put in my time.

Understand who you need to know, the higher in the organization the less spots there are.

Circles vs pyramids. Transparency.

Myth that everyone wants to be at the top.

Our role and the delivery of the product; our role and our motivation. Burnout. Lie #3: It will get better.

Physical results of stress in the workplace. Shifts in how people think and what they want.

Subjectiveness of what SUCCESSFUL means.

Perspective - what someone sees is different than why we might take on too much.

What are the boundaries, and if you keep them.

We all have 24 hours in a day. What we say yes to means we say no to something else.

Revisit commitments for clarity - on both sides.

Lie #4: It's the same everywhere else.

Time off matters. Take breaks and vacation.

We take our baggage with us to a new position.

Know your people, the level of over work and underwork. Recognize and develop.

Ask questions … start with How's it going?

Develop people: know strengths and weaknesses of each person on the team.

Money. Lie #5: I need the money, or the money is too good.

Prepare for unexpected unemployment.

Know people outside of work.

Prioritize what's important for work and family.

Notable & Quotable:

Jessica Dewell: Some reality tv builds skills that can be used to change our life going forward.

Jessica Dewell: What we surround ourselves with will be how we look at our world.

Tanya Bourque: The base is survival mode: I need this job, this money to eat and have a place to sleep.

Jessica Dewell: Speak up for your accomplishments when you do the work.

Tanya Bourque: You don't know what you are worth until you walk out the door.

Jessica Dewell: It's up to me to decide what I want.

Tanya Bourque: Keep your own track record up to date.

Jessica Dewell: Companies are designed to deliver a product and make a profit.

Tanya Bourque: Forego titles and focus on financial rewards.

Jessica Dewell: Profit shows a business is healthy.

Jessica Dewell: There is a gap between profit and fulfillment in companies.

Tanya Bourque: Employee owned companies give their employees equity.

Jessica Dewell: Help only if you can make an impact.

Tanya Bourque: Know your limits.

Jessica Dewell: We have more support than we think we do.

Tanya Bourque: I want value for my career.

Resources:

• 4 ways to motivate people, shared by Joel on P6 THE Most Important Business Investment
• JSY Show: http://jsyshow.com

Tags: overwhelm, time, mundane, intention, influence, courage, accomplishment, promotion, perceptions, networks, organization structure, transparency, financial reward, profit, profitability, motivation, fulfillment, burnout, stress, success, successful, habits, frustration, contract, responsibility, prioritize, quality

Technology has changed our interaction with customers, what we expect to be able to do - to do our job well, and even stay connected to work after work. But when we aren’t happy doing our work, what then? Do you or someone you know resonate with one of these 5 lies we tell ourselves to stay in a job? Recognizing the lie is the first step. Then, evaluate the situation with this lens and decide what’s best for your life right now. Starting the conversation...

• What if we struggle with what to do (or not) many times throughout the day?
• Being able to connect what we do to success in our role, achieving department goals, and even setting the stage for our own advancement…it’s up to us.

Host: Jessica Dewell    Co-host: Tanya Bourque What You Will Hear:

Get noticed. Lie #1: Someone will notice my hard work without me saying anything?

Culture includes promotion practices, budgets. Lack of communication, or lack of asking for more information.

Exploring our own observations and avoidances…and we talk about speaking up on our own behalf.

The first question - after deciding to leave.

Money (salary) used as a stop gap trains our people look at compensation directly related to their contribution.

Tips to speak up.

Observe unwritten agreements.

Get Promoted. Lie #2: I will get promoted because I’ve put in my time.

Understand who you need to know, the higher in the organization the less spots there are.

Circles vs pyramids. Transparency.

Myth that everyone wants to be at the top.

Our role and the delivery of the product; our role and our motivation. Burnout. Lie #3: It will get better.

Physical results of stress in the workplace. Shifts in how people think and what they want.

Subjectiveness of what SUCCESSFUL means.

Perspective - what someone sees is different than why we might take on too much.

What are the boundaries, and if you keep them.

We all have 24 hours in a day. What we say yes to means we say no to something else.

Revisit commitments for clarity - on both sides.

Lie #4: It’s the same everywhere else.

Time off matters. Take breaks and vacation.

We take our baggage with us to a new position.

Know your people, the level of over work and underwork. Recognize and develop.

Ask questions … start with How’s it going?

Develop people: know strengths and weaknesses of each person on the team.

Money. Lie #5: I need the money, or the money is too good.

Prepare for unexpected unemployment.

Know people outside of work.

Prioritize what’s important for work and family.

Notable & Quotable:

Jessica Dewell: Some reality tv builds skills that can be used to change our life going forward.

Jessica Dewell: What we surround ourselves with will be how we look at our world.

Tanya Bourque: The base is survival mode: I need this job, this money to eat and have a place to sleep.

Jessica Dewell: Speak up for your accomplishments when you do the work.

Tanya Bourque: You don’t know what you are worth until you walk out the door.

Jessica Dewell: It’s up to me to decide what I want.

Tanya Bourque: Keep your own track record up to date.

Jessica Dewell: Companies are designed to deliver a product and make a profit.

Tanya Bourque: Forego titles and focus on financial rewards.

Jessica Dewell: Profit shows a business is healthy.

Jessica Dewell: There is a gap between profit and fulfillment in companies.

Tanya Bourque: Employee owned companies give their employees equity.

Jessica Dewell: Help only if you can make an impact.

Tanya Bourque: Know your limits.

Jessica Dewell: We have more support than we think we do.

Tanya Bourque: I want value for my career.

Resources:

• 4 ways to motivate people, shared by Joel on P6 THE Most Important Business Investment
• JSY Show: http://jsyshow.com

Tags: overwhelm, time, mundane, intention, influence, courage, accomplishment, promotion, perceptions, networks, organization structure, transparency, financial reward, profit, profitability, motivation, fulfillment, burnout, stress, success, successful, habits, frustration, contract, responsibility, prioritize, quality

Do we recognize our successes (no matter how small) and use them to build upon and achieve more success? This show explores - in a personal way - how our perception comes from reactions of those around us. When we are celebrated, we learn to celebrate. When we are told we are bragging, we think we are bragging. Overcoming this may be hard, yet it is possible. Glean insight from this panel's triumphs and fears about how to track and share accomplishments.

Starting the conversation...

• Do we recognize our successes (no matter how small) and use them to build upon and achieve more success?
• How do we remember what our accomplishments are?
• When is the appropriate time to publicly declare them?

Host: Jessica Dewell

Panel: Joel Dawson, Stephanie Sims

What You Will Hear:

Hard to teach someone else when we don't do it ourself.

What 'imposter syndrome' means.

Build our credibility - the proof.

2 ways to connect to ourself.

How to share, publicly, and still be authentic.

The way to be authentic. Our brain filters right away.

The intense moments and our intention.

Worry or anxiety about getting us wrong…prepare more. (Butterflies about the authentic connection.)

Attitude and first impressions.

Know why we decided to meet / follow up with people.

Worthiness of sharing our good news.

Problems with praise and criticism by downplay accomplishments.

How pride of accomplishment gets squashed.

Definition of proud.

Pride, brag, and arrogance.

Downplaying accomplishments, society's pressures.

Shift what competition means.

Accomplishments make us different.

Model being proud of accomplishment.

Notice exercise.

It's easy to forget all we actually do.

Notable & Quotable

Joel Dawson: Imposter syndrome downplays our successes.

Jessica Dewell: In a world where everything is fast, stop to solidify relationships.

Stephanie Sims: A humble brag, publicly, feels fake to me.

Joel Dawson: We aren't bad with names, the brain is trying to decide if we like the person or not (and that's why we can't remember names of people we just met).

Jessica Dewell: Tactful or not, I'm loud sometimes.

Jessica Dewell: Find the place of connection with another person to build a relationship around what each of us has to offer.

Joel Dawson: A great first first impression starts before we leave our house.

Stephanie Sims: Be clear about what we want to happen. Have an intention for the connection.

Stephanie Sims: The value I bring to them may not be my product, it may be that I'm a connector.

Jessica Dewell: Proud and brag are used interchangeably.

Stephanie Sims: Its hard to understand what people like when they are ok at many things.

Jessica Dewell: Accomplishments are a way we show we add value.

Joel Dawson: What is the incentive to give peak performance? Know how people are motivated.

Joel Dawson: I'm proud I didn't give up. I'm proud I did the work.

Stephanie Sims: I take my wins when I focus on intentional acts.

Resources

• Hi! What's Your Name Again?
• Stewart Smalley Affirmations (SNL Skit)
• Incredibles Movie
• Amy Cuddy, TED Speaker, Social Psychologist

Tags: accomplishments, success, avoidance, imposter syndrome, credibility, authority, stereotypes, relationships, authenticity, attitude, intention, connection, outcomes, interaction, recognition, personal, praise, recognition, pride, proud, brag, celebrate, mediocrity, tenacity, work, goal achievement, notice, non-judgement, notice