Hard work is not always noticed much less rewarded. If we are quietly going about our hard work thinking that our supervisors both are aware of it and ready to reward it appropriately, we are mistaken.

This lie would have us believe that we should prove our ability even though no opportunity to do so has been afforded us.

This vague accusation has no criteria by which we can demonstrate otherwise. Are you giving away your best years to a standard that doesn't exist?

We believe common lies and end up sabotaging our own careers. How do we get past the myth and confront reality?

Talking calmly about misinterpretations, miscommunications and other ways we get our wires crossed.

Talking calmly about doing extra work because of those not pulling their weight.

Talking calmly about unacceptable work quality, timeliness, accuracy, thoroughness or judgment.

Talking calmly about behaviors that offend, diminish or discourage.

Could fear and anger be making confrontation more difficult and dangerous than it really need be?

The fourth ordinary fear that we try to mask is that our decisions as leader will make us unpopular. Not being able to please everyone is a management reality that can build our collaboration with others as much as it causes complaints.