The difference between drug users and people in love is drug users know they’re high. That’s the funny thing about being in love, most of us are convinced we’re sane. We actually perceive ourselves as having more clarity, more access to truth and more self-awareness. The love we are now experiencing often feels like a re-claiming of […]

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There are some wonderful things about living in California, and also some things that make me want to scream. I just returned from a wedding in Massachusetts, the state I grew up in. I met a lot of wonderful people, had some stimulating conversations and noticed something surprising. Out of all the people I talked […]

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There is a phrase chalk full of wisdom, profundity and great relationship advice that echoes through the halls of locker rooms, fraternities and groups of beer-drinking men everywhere. Bros before hoes. This simple statement represents a concept that has helped me have a more passionate, fulfilling marriage, and I can’t believe it took me so long to […]

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Recently, I decided that I don’t want to have kids. It came with a huge sense of relief. I’ve been on the fence about it for years so feeling clear has allowed me to look into my future with a renewed sense of conviction and confidence. It wasn’t an easy decision though. It’s a catch-22. We can’t know […]

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I just noticed a profound shift in how I view insecurities. I was talking with someone who had just bought a ticket to IntimacyFest and at the end of the conversation she asked “I’m worried about what people will think about ___(insert your own insecurity here)____.” You know what my first thought was? “You have […]

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True or False… It’s healthy to have frequent conversations with your romantic partner that put the future of your relationship at risk. I think most people would say false. I would have said false for most of my life. In fact, not only did I think it was unhealthy, but I judged those couples as […]

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“Drop your ego” they said.“Love and light” they said.“Transcend the ego” they said. But maybe our ego is more useful than we think. Maybe instead of something to be avoided, or dropped, or killed… it’s something to be celebrated. If it weren’t for the ego, we would never know deep human connection. That’s because deep […]

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I’ve never had an inner crisis over being a giraffe. I’ve never stared longingly at high-hanging fruit or wished my neck was thirty feet long, and that makes sense. I can’t be a giraffe. I wish it were that simple when it comes to being a man. Last week I realized I don’t want to provide […]

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Today I almost broke up with my wife and cried more than I have all year. That’s me. I’m 33 and have no consistent income, a past of many failed business ideas and nothing a reasonable person would consider financially promising on the near horizon. That’s me. I don’t want to play the role of […]

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