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I’m a systems thinker, which means I spend a lot of time trying to understand the root of a problem, rather than dealing with it’s symptoms. When we attempt to solve problems without first understanding the system that created them, it’s like bailing out a leaking boat. It may provide temporary relief, but the problem […]

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It’s the year 2030, and in the western world, turning to a coach for life’s challenges is as common as 1-hour drone delivery from Amazon. It’s easy, it solves our problem and we don’t mind paying a little extra for the convenience. In fact, in 2030 we have more resources than ever, and nearly everyone […]

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When all the websites have been built,When all the funding has been sought.When all the companies have been sold,When all the Teslas have been bought. When all the charities have been started,When all the employees have been hired.When all the dreams have been fulfilled,When all the people have been inspired. When all the books have […]

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I’ve come to know what I call the “millennial applause” and it’s creepy as hell. Aside from being a snarky blogger on the internet, I play music 3-4 nights a week at local bars and clubs and I’ve been doing it since college. Since my job is to engage the audience, I basically stand in […]

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Leave the campsite better than you found it. That’s the “campsite” rule, coined by Dan Savage and practiced by responsible lovers everywhere. It’s a pledge to leave people in as good a state (physically and emotionally) as you found them.1 As someone who sleeps with a lot of people — often people who have less […]

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Last year I watched the moon pass in front of the sun, and the moment when the sky went dark, I became speechless. Like many people who came to watch the solar eclipse, I thought I knew what was going to happen. Pretty simple, right? The moon passes in front of the sun, and the […]

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You don’t have time for art,But art has time for you.She’s like a friend who’s downFor whatever you want to do. Art is not a contestThere are no judges to be had,And all your feelings are welcomeBe them happy, angry or sad. Your job is not perfection,We’re not so good at that.Your job is just […]

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I’m a walking contradiction. On one hand I believe in self-expression and sharing your opinions, even when they make other people uncomfortable. That’s what Boodaism is all about. On the other hand, my heart breaks when something I say makes someone feel bad or limits our ability to feel close to each other. Even if […]

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Here’s a statement everyone would agree with — the more time you spend with people that bring you joy, the more joyful your life will be. And yet — I meet people all the time who feel undernourished and frustrated with this area of their life. When I ask, “why don’t you spend more time […]

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I am completely repulsed by needy behavior in relationships. I’m the kind of person that needs a lot of space — and when I say “space”, I don’t mean once in a while we go out with friends, I mean a default setting of autonomy, with frequent and wonderful periods of togetherness. That may sound […]

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