Author and professor Pamela Stone talks about her new book, Opting Back In, a followup to her first book, Opting Out, which reviewed the reasons ambitious, well-educated women felt obliged to leave the work force to raise their children. In this enlightening episode, Pam shares what she discovered when she circled back to these subjects twelve years later, most of whom had returned to work, but in roles very different from their original professions. An important exploration of the factors in play when these special women decide to leave and their options when they try to return.

The recent book we discuss, Opting Back In: What Really Happens When Mothers Go Back to Work

https://www.amazon.com/Opting-Back-Really-Happens-Mothers/dp/0520290801

That book stands alone. You don't have to read Pam's first book, Opting Out?: Why Women Really Quit Careers and Head Home, but here is a link to it:

https://www.amazon.com/Opting-Out-Women-Really-Careers/dp/0520256573

Here is a link to the new book on the University of California Press site:

https://www.ucpress.edu/book/9780520290808/opting-back-in

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Author and grievance studies hoaxer, James Lindsay, talks about the backlash to feminism and MeToo and how some new rules and advice about gender roles in the workplace hurt more than they help. We discuss the differences between traditional liberalism and the social justice movement, as well as how to have impossible conversations, preserve relationships, and build bridges to create a more just society.

An explanation of the hoax papers we discuss:

https://areomagazine.com/2018/10/02/academic-grievance-studies-and-the-corruption-of-scholarship/

The article that we discuss:

https://areomagazine.com/2018/06/19/the-pendulum-need-not-swing-why-gender-roles-are-not-the-answer-to-blank-slatism/

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Nick Roberts, recruiter with Russell Reynolds, talks about how to negotiate in good faith, determine your market value, handle negotiations with grace and expediency, work with a recruiter, and create a win-win with your new employer. This useful episode contains practical advice from an expert in recruiting finance officers.

Nick's profile and contact info:

https://www.russellreynolds.com/consultants/nick-roberts

ABFO, the finance officers' organization we mention at the beginning of the episode:

https://www.abfointernational.org/WP/

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Funny Friday: What irritates people about online communication? We review common complaints as a reminder to ourselves to improve our writing styles, as well as consider if the irritation is fully justified. We then walk through humorous suggestions for passive-aggressive emails from Twitter, noting once again how clever and subtle people and communication can be.

Link to Sarita Maybin's newsletter with the survey we discuss:

http://www.saritamaybin.com/communication/absolutely-annoys-online-communication/

Link to thread on Twitter we discuss:

https://twitter.com/treydayway/status/1196516890463653890

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Do you need a coach? What kind of coaching works? Why are there so many coaches? Science for Work writer and CEO coach Mark Seabright joins us to talk about these provocative topics and to report on what the research and his experience tell us about effective coaching. He discusses how to select a coach and how to guard your money from the charlatans.

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Mark Seabright

https://www.linkedin.com/in/markseabright/

Mark's article for Science for Work we discuss during the episode:

https://scienceforwork.com/blog/workplace-coaching/

and another "Why You Don't Need a Coach":

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20140812090252-28044983-why-you-don-t-need-a-coach/

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https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenniferkcrittenden/

Former tech exec and career coach Nicole Trick Steinbach talks about women in tech, finding fierceness and grit, the specificity of good career goals, and how to formulate a plan to jump off the corporate ladder. She also shares her own story from an impoverished childhood to the ambition that drove her to a big career in change management and onto her more recent step into entrepreneurship. A brave episode.

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https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicoletricksteinbach/

https://www.tricksteinbach.com/

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Psychologist and "self-appointed data police cadet," Nick Brown, joins us to tell the story of debunking several happiness studies, discuss the current crisis in social psychology research, and describe his own path from IT to coaching in order to make the world better. We also talk about salt and pepper people. Don't miss this funny and interesting episode.

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Link to article we discuss

https://narratively.com/nick-brown-smelled-bull/

Link to The Pergola issue we discuss

https://mailchi.mp/cd24198ab645/debunking-psych-studies-the-pergola-nov-2019?e=3fe14498fc

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International coach and speaker Sandra Leigh joins us from Canada to talk about finding our voice and speaking up. A client has reported being told she is too quiet in meetings, and we talk about ways to engage and participate in a group discussion, sometimes in environments that can be very challenging. We discuss specific tactics for commenting, developing good habits, asking questions, facilitating, trying and failing, and coping with any fallout. Practical solutions to a very common problem.

https://connectwithsandra.com/

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Authentic leadership coach Helena Demuynck talks about discovering your authentic self and how behaviors can augment or detract from that process. She reports on common work-related struggles her clients face (burnout, stress, competition) and gives some advice for coping.

Sign up for Helena's Oxygen4Leadership summit in February here:

https://the-oxygen4leadership-summit.heysummit.com/talks/bonus-lab-the-disease-to-please/

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Diversity and inclusion expert, Tracy May, joins us from Dubai to talk about the goals of a good D&I program, the challenges diversity brings, and what's happening with D&I around the globe. Enlightening and practical, this episode is not the usual blah blah about diversity.

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