Born Again Again

WE LOVE YOU ALL SO MUCH.

❤️❤️

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Being "Unequally Yoked" is a major concern when one partner in a couple goes through a faith change without the other, and our guests today have generously shared that journey with us all. 

Ben and Andrea are a mixed-faith couple that went through this tricky process and have come out the other side stronger. In this interview we talk about those first difficult conversations, about therapy and how that was instrumental for them, and about all the things they learned about themselves and about each other as they went through this life change. In addition, we explore some of the very practical ways in which they have been able to make their mixed faith relationship work for them.

As always, I hope you enjoy!

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“On a base level of what feels right and wrong, rejecting a person for wanting to experience love just didn’t feel right at all.”

Today’s episode is an interview with David, who grew up in the southern Church or Christ and left the faith later in life.

We talk about what is was like growing up in a southern fundamentalist church, about having doubts as a kid, but not knowing how to express them, about a conversation with a coworker that completely changed his life, and about how common sense has to be a higher moral standard than any religious book. We wrap things up by discussing the difficulties in dealing with bitterness on the other side.

I hope you enjoy!

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“Belief is not a choice, and if it’s not a choice then the burden is off of my shoulders”

Today’s episode is an interview with Andi + Jeremy, a couple who, similar to Katie and me, started their relationship as committed christians but then headed down the path of deconversion.

We talk about their origins and the first dominos that started to fall, about the difficulties that came with losing their faiths at different rates, about telling their family and friends, and about all of the healing that they’ve found on the other side. 

I hope you enjoy!

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Facebook Group (https://facebook.com/groups/bornagainagain)

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Merch (https://teespring.com/stores/born-again-again-podcast)

“For the first time in my life I feel a freedom and a love and acceptance that Ive never had, ever. I can feel my power.”

Today’s episode is the first in a series of episodes where we’re going to be turning the mic around and interviewing you - members of our Born Again Again community!

And this first episode is with a wonderful personal trainer, writer, and momma of 2 named Stacy! Our conversation was deep and incredibly encouraging, and I am so grateful that Stacy was willing to open up about her story with all of us. It’s a good one!

I hope you enjoy!

Stacy's Meditation E-Book:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08W36RBXM/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_api_glt_BGJT5Q0MW5MQ4GXCDTN2

Resources that have helped Stacy on her journey:

Books:

• You Are Your Own by Jaime Lee Finch

Podcasts:

• Born Again Again (seriously...your podcast and Jaime's book were the first that got me to believe healing was possible)

Spiritual Stuff:

• Therapy (many years, many therapists)

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Letting go of the promise of heaven is a really hard part of leaving the faith and leaves many of us with a fear of death.

In this episode, we discuss this typically heavy topic with death doula Caroline Ingraham Lee. We talk about her story and how she became a death doula, and discuss what that means on a practical level.

Caroline's Insta (instagram.com/teamwoodnote)

Death Meditation (https://www.goingwithgracecourses.com/courses/grace-in-dying)

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As ex-Christians, we understand better than most what it's like to live with an extreme worldview.

In today's episode we talk about the unique perspective we've gained since leaving our faith, and how that perspective empowers us to relate to those that we disagree with. We talk about some common reasons that we can slip back into an 'us' vs 'them' mentality, and why ex-Christians are especially prone to that type of thinking. 

We end the episode with some thoughts about seeing yourself in the other, and how this simple and subtle shift in thinking can have wide-reaching effects on your brain, your relationships, and on the world.

Enjoy!

Relavant Thoughts:

"Thinking in duality will always reinforce duality. Only when you can see your enemy as a part of yourself that is in dysfunction due to their own suffering can you really work on the hearts and minds of the people you disagree with."

"Wisdom is when you can see that you are both poles and you understand how it all is. Out of that understanding you may act, but at that point you act without passion, and that’s the secret of the game." - Ram Dass

Focus on our fundamental equality - everybody is seeking pleasure and avoiding suffering. It makes it hard to hate someone when you see them as fundamentally the same as yourself - Beyond Religion by the Dalai Lama 

“I was once asked why I don't participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I'll be there.” - Mother Teresa

“You may protest if you can love the person you are protesting against as much as you love yourself.” - Ram Dass

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Healing ourselves using our own inner resources has been a major source of empowerment for us both.

In today's episode, Katie and I talk through our experiences doing 'Inner Child' work, and share some ways that it's been helpful and eye-opening for us.

As always, we try to keep things super light and practical. Hopefully our experience will encourage you to go within and try it for yourself.

And if you're looking for a guided meditation, we made one just for you!

Katie Narrating: https://www.patreon.com/posts/45003352

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We all want better sex and relationships.

Today’s episode is an interview with Sex and Relationship coach Meg Cowan. During our conversation, we talk about understanding personal agency, autoimmune issues in a repressed body, and untangling from shame. We get into communication, both in relationship AND your communication with yourself, as well as some practical ways to begin building a new sexual ethic. And we wrap up by talking about navigating deconstruction with a partner who may not be on the same page. 

Enjoy!

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Today I have a real-life, honest conversation with my Christian friend Mike. 

We touch on Mike's thoughts about me leaving the faith, about God's role in the coronavirus, we compare God with human authority, and talk about letting God off the hook for the 'sin' of the world, along with much, much more.

Enjoy!

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Facebook Group (https://facebook.com/groups/bornagainagain)

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Blog + Resources (https://bornagainagain.co)

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