Boy Problems

This week on Boy Problems, Liz is angry — and she's not apologizing for it. In the wake of the Cornell 57 case, she breaks down why women's rage is no longer remarkable, but the absence of male rage absolutely is. She recounts a wild story from a recent conference where she was asked to moderate a panel on "raising boys into better men" — only to flip the script, give the women in the room (including Malala) an hour of rest, and grill the men instead. Ten years after starting #WhyWomenDontReport, Liz grapples with how little has changed, has a literal menty-b mid episode, and finds unexpected solace in the strength of women and the men who actually show up.

If this hit you, drop a 🔥 in the comments — and tell us how you're channeling your rage this week. Remember to subscribe so you never miss an episode, and join the Patreon for behind-the-scenes content and FaceTimes with Liz! Go yell at a man, do something nice for a woman (especially yourself), and we'll see you next week.

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Liz Plank is an award-winning journalist, filmmaker, international bestselling author, and producer of several critically acclaimed digital series at Vox Media and NBC News. She currently hosts⁠⁠⁠⁠ Boy Problems⁠⁠⁠⁠, a podcast that tackles love, masculinity, dating disasters, and life’s biggest questions.

Boy problems family, meet my boyfriend!!! This week, I'm officially introducing my Tall Green Flag to the pod because I simply cannot keep him to myself anymore. We get into our second date (spoiler alert - it involves the airport), the pink pillow he banished from my bed, and your boy problems — from a woman whose husband won't touch her while she's pregnant (SIR???), to a 30-year-old VP who froze her eggs and is losing hope. Drop P2 if you want a part two with Scott because I WILL be using your comments as evidence to get him back on the pod.

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Elizabeth Chambers lived the picture-perfect life: 10 years of marriage, beautiful kids, glamorous red carpets, but then the picture cracked. Her marriage to Armie Hammer ended in one of Hollywood's most disturbing scandals, and entire world weighed in. But Elizabeth didn’t just survive the ultimate betrayal, she rebuilt, got a PhD in toxic relationships, and turned the unthinkable into a mission to help other women. And now she’s on OUR show!! This week, Elizabeth shares her expert opinion on how to spot a red flag, what it actually takes to co-parent with someone who betrayed you, and all the signs you need to know to spot a toxic relationship.

If you've ever looked at a red flag and thought, "That was weird," but kept going anyway — first of all, same. Second, hit subscribe so you never miss an episode! Leave a comment, share the episode with a friend, and if you want the real uncensored chaos, come hang out with us on Patreon!

Episodes of TOXIC premiere Tuesdays at 10PM ET/PT on ID. Episodes are available to stream on HBO Max!

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David Farrier is back on the show with two VERY special guests - the adorable, adoptable frenchie bulldog he rescued at Griffith Park (🥹) and Liz’s Tall Green Flag!! This week, we discover that David — yes, THIS David — was the mutual friend who knew them BOTH and somehow never introduced them. David, respectfully: WHAT WERE YOU DOING???

We also get into what Nathan Fielder is actually like IRL (spoiler: he somehow did David’s signature move… TO DAVID), a wildly brilliant New Zealand website helping women anonymously report predators and find community, and a listener Boy Problem involving two beds + a female best friend. 👀

Next week, we have an iconic conversation with THE Elizabeth Chambers. You won’t want to miss it. 

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🐶 Help Alan the rescue dog find a home! If you’re in LA and want to adopt Alan, email David at [email protected]

0:00 - Intro & David's Rescue Dog Alan1:32 - Alan Gets A Boner On Camera5:07 - Liz Meets Her Boyfriend Through David9:32 - David Farrier Walks Like There's An Emergency15:40 - Nathan Fielder In Real Life23:59 - The Website Catching Predators30:37 - Men vs Women: Worst Dates34:15 - Boy Problem: Two Beds, One Red Flag43:17 - The Elon Musk Problem48:50 - Duct Tape Men More

A man got duct-taped to his airplane seat, and honestly? Feminism is healing.

This week, we’re getting into that, paying tribute to the icon Gloria Steinem, and revisiting her wildest undercover stunts, funniest quotes, and her theory that patriarchy is still a prison for men, it's just “cushy.” Plus: Phoebe Bridgers’ leg hair, why the queer Ultimatum is infinitely more watchable, what’s actually behind the orgasm gap, and our boy problem of the week: why do I only want men who are already taken?

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00:00 Intro: What's Coming Up01:21 A Man Got Duct-Taped to His Airplane Seat12:05 Remembering Gloria Steinem17:05 The Ultimatum: Why the Queer Season Wins28:10 Phoebe Bridgers, Leg Hair & the Red Carpet Double Standard32:08 Boy Problem: Chasing Guys Who Are Already Taken48:22 Listener Comments & Nick Update49:42 Patreon Recap: Body Counts & First Dates51:28 Outro & Thank You

Liz recaps Olivia Rodrigo's history-making Daisy Chains Festival, then Nick returns to clear up the Bob allegations (IYKYK) and debate whether Liz just hard or soft launched her new boyfriend. Plus: is dating a private equity guy 2026's biggest recession indicator, and can we fix a listener's boyfriend's premature ejaculation?

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0:00 Intro

1:37 Nick is Back (Debunking the Bob Allegations)

4:30 Daisy Chains Festival Recap

10:06 Meet TGF: Soft Launch vs. Hard Launch

14:21 Private Equity Boyfriends & Recession Indicators

28:09 Boy Problem: Can We Fix His PE?

48:41 Patreon Teaser: Body Counts with Bianca

50:13 Outro

This week on Boy Problems, Liz has some breaking news about an ex-boyfriend. Content warning for a brief discussion about SA. Liz talks through the discomfort of finding out someone you dated may have hurt another woman, and grapples with how to reckon with that as an ex.

Plus, we flip the "is having a boyfriend embarrassing now" conversation on its head and asks, do we become embarrassing when we have a boyfriend? Grab your journal and alert your group chat, we have a lot to discuss.

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⁠⁠Read the article in The Cut about the mom-ification of gen-z women.⁠⁠

⁠⁠Read Chanté Joseph's article in Vogue, "Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?" ⁠⁠

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This week, Liz sits down with Recess Therapy creator and host Julian Shapiro-Barnum — a self-proclaimed "boy problem" — to hash out the messy, unspoken rules of flirting, trust, and why so many of us struggle to date without baggage. They get into why Liz doesn't trust men (and why that's not crazy), what kids can teach us about love, and Julian's new book How to Grow Up Without Becoming a Grown-Up!

Remember to let us know in the comments if you want to join our Patreon book club and help us find an answer to the question: are you allowed to flirt with other people when you’re in a relationship? 

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If you've ever spent all of August grieving the end of summer instead of actually living it, this episode is for you. This week on Boy Problems, Liz is breaking down what she calls "end of summer syndrome" — and why we're NOT doing it this year. Liz shares the surprisingly simple, behavioral science-backed habits she used to make this her best (and longest-feeling) summer yet. No reading list, no pilates, no major lifestyle overhauls, just tips and tricks that actually work with your brain - not against it.

Subscribe if you're not already, because new episodes drop every week! And if you know someone who's currently mourning the end of the summer, send this to them. It might actually help.

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Happy Boy Problems Thursday! Today, Liz is doing something new -- a full grab bag episode dedicated entirely to your boy problems, and it does not disappoint. This week she's unpacking everything from a partner with genuinely alarming hygiene standards to a decade-long friendship that's giving toxic. Plus: the great wipe debate and the hygiene gap that keeps us up at night (and away from certain beds...)

Let us know in the comments where you land in the great wipe vs. shake debate 👀

Remember: no problem is too weird, too petty, or too embarrassing. Send us your Boy Problems — we're ready. ❤️

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