In this unreal episode, we were joined by Kaleem Bullivant, who spoke to us while literally being on the flotilla boat.

This was not a normal studio conversation.

Kaleem joined us from the sea, in the middle of a real journey, giving us a raw and personal insight into what it is like to be part of the flotilla, why he chose to be there, and what the experience meant to him on a human, spiritual and emotional level.

We discuss the reality of life onboard, the motivation behind the mission, the emotions that come with being part of something bigger than yourself, and the courage it takes to physically put yourself in that position.

A truly unique conversation, recorded in a moment that felt bigger than just a podcast.

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We sit down with Dr Yakoob Ahmed for a deep conversation on how modernity quietly reshaped the Muslim mind, and why so much of what we call "modern history" is built on myths, assumptions, and power.

We explore how colonisation and the nation state rewired Muslim memory, identity, and imagination, how the idea of "objective history" can become a trap, and what it takes to recover a more honest, grounded way of understanding our past without nostalgia, propaganda, or performative outrage.

We discuss:

- How modernity changed the way Muslims see themselves and their history

- The nation state, colonisation, and the editing of collective memory

- The myth of "neutral" history, and who gets to define what is true

- Why progress narratives can distort the Muslim past

- How to study history with adab, humility, and intellectual honesty

- Practical ways to rebuild historical consciousness today

Timestamps

00:00 Intro

00:10 Welcome, meeting Dr Yakoob Ahmed

01:23 Why this conversation matters, Muslim historians, background

04:15 Studying history in the West, "leaving God outside the classroom"

09:39 "History from above", centering Allah, hidden assumptions in academia

15:37 What is history, memory, identity, lived experience

23:14 Man orientated vs iman orientated history, nuance, darkness, realism

26:49 Romantic visions of the past, hero narratives, Salahuddin, Mahdi

29:32 Can we write history about recent events, Palestine and living memory

32:41 Erased local Muslim histories, Far East examples (Philippines etc)

35:12 Fiction, film, propaganda, and myth making (Padmavati example)

41:47 Moral lesson stories vs history, how we read Umar narratives

43:20 The trap of "objective" modern history

45:52 Gatekeepers, language, and how historians judge sources

51:14 How Muslims tend to read history, moral lessons vs fiqh vs patterns

54:15 Progress myths and teleology, Rasulullah as the compass

56:58 Modernity and time, clocks, industrial time vs sacred time

1:12:07 Can Muslims imagine again, beyond inferiority and apology

1:17:03 "The human" category, who counts as human in modern narratives

1:21:29 Linking stories across the Ummah, Ottoman, Mughal connections

1:29:49 Japanese "fake Muslims", spies, and forgotten interconnections

1:41:48 Colonial apologetics, language barriers, and modern history framing

1:45:05 The internet changed everything, publishing outside the academy

1:52:47 Writing the book post Gazza, emotion, hope, agency

1:57:59 Ottoman archery, craft, discipline, lived tradition

2:07:08 The cave question, 3 people you would hang out with

2:12:13 Wrap up and outro

Habeeb Akande, British-Nigerian writer, historian, and sex educator, joins us to unpack topics many Muslims argue about loudly, but rarely discuss with depth, nuance, and real principles.

We talk about the modern crisis of masculinity in Muslim spaces, why "Red Pill vs feminist" has become a rigid false binary, and how figures like Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson slot into a deeper identity struggle for some Muslim men.

We also explore how Islamic terms get weaponised in online discourse, including misusing concepts like fitrah to baptise personal opinions as "Islam", and flattening ghayrah into coercive control rather than principled, loving boundaries.

Throughout the conversation, we return to a core theme, prophetic masculinity is not a performance, it is integrity, responsibility, and protecting the vulnerable, not exploiting religious language to justify manipulation or abuse.

Topics that we cover:

- The "tribal" pull of sport, and why it bonds men so intensely

- Why the manosphere appeals to Muslim men, identity, insecurity, and performative masculinity

- "Red Pill vs feminist" as a trap, and how Islam pushes a more mature middle path

- Ghayrah, translation, boundaries, and how language can mislead

- Fitrah being used like a debate weapon, and why that's dangerous

- Intimacy in the Islamic tradition, and why we turned it into a taboo topic

Timestamps:

0:00 Football banter, sports as the male soap opera

11:42 Intimacy in Islam, why it became a taboo topic

15:20 Polygyny, ethics, and exploitation

36:13 Calling out hypocrisy, double standards with women vs men

37:17 Who we "expose" vs who we excuse

39:26 Platforming "reformed" gangsters, ignoring sisters

49:24 Minivan drug dealers debating aqeedah, the problem is control

58:00 Prophetic sexual ethics, the cave hadith, and euphemisms

1:05:51 "Protective jealousy" translation, what ghayrah actually means

1:08:14 Fitrah in manosphere debates, why it gets weaponised

1:10:10 Polygamy and fitrah claims, where the logic goes wrong

1:13:32 Haya and translation problems, how language traps people

1:14:34 "Sexual discipline" vs desire, framing that resonates today

1:19:58 Ramadan clarity, food, drink, and intercourse (not vague euphemisms)

1:24:27 What traits define healthy masculinity

1:26:15 Hijab, beard, and optics vs real akhlaq

1:40:12 Red pill thinking, religious language used as loopholes

1:44:09 Tarbiyah gap, knowledge without character formation

1:46:50 Protector and provider, stepping up not posturing

1:51:11 "Dawah bros" image, culture war performance, self branding

1:55:31 Dayuth and ghayrah, meaning vs misuse

1:56:26 "Providing" as status aesthetics, entitlement, control

2:02:56 Marriage "expertise", divorce rates, and what wisdom actually is

2:23:23 Final reflections, wrap up

In this deep-dive conversation, Professor Joel Hayward returns to unpack one of the most misunderstood periods of the Prophet Muhammad's ﷺ life, the politics of Medina under pressure.

We explore the Ghatafān confederation and their leader ʿUyaynah ibn Ḥiṣn, how tribal power actually worked in the Ḥijāz, and why the Prophet ﷺ practiced diplomacy even with deeply unreliable figures.

The discussion moves through the Battle of the Trench, coalition warfare, and how the Prophet deliberately fractured enemy alliances without unnecessary bloodshed.

A major focus is the Sawiq raid, a small but decisive event after Badr that exposed internal vulnerabilities within Medina.

Professor Hayward explains why Banū al-Naḍīr's role in the raid marked a permanent rupture, how insider knowledge mattered more than battlefield force, and why this episode leads directly into their later expulsion.

The episode also challenges common assumptions about "polytheists," Jews, and alliances in early Islam.

Drawing on sīrah criticism, archaeology, and comparative history, Professor Hayward shows why later narratives often oversimplified seventh-century belief, tribal identity, and treaty structures.

This is a conversation about statecraft, realism, and moral restraint, and why the Prophet ﷺ governed with strategy rather than slogans.

If you want a serious rethinking of Medina's covenants, treaties, and power dynamics, this episode is essential listening.

Professor Joel Hayward is the Dean of the Sycamore Leadership Academy in Istanbul, and repeatedly listed in The Muslim 500. Al Khaleej called him a world authority on conflict and strategy, and Kirkus says he is one of academia's most visible Islamic thinkers.

He has ijazat in Islamic sciences, focuses on ʿaqidah and sirah, and has led major programs at King's College London and the Royal Air Force College, as well as serving as chief executive of Cambridge Muslim College.

His 18 books include The Leadership of Muhammad, which won the 2021 Sharjah award, and The Warrior Prophet.

Timestamps

00:00:00 Introduction, framing the episode

00:19:46 Ghatafan at the Trench, Uyaynah, the date deal discussion

00:39:59 Ghatafan and Jews around Khaybar, identity and alliances

00:59:48 Sawiq raid setup, Abu Sufyan's motive and the raid begins

01:19:57 Sahifat al Madinah, why key tribes are not named, what that implies

01:39:57 Kaab ibn al Ashraf, poetry as propaganda, security and statecraft

01:59:59 Transition to Banu Qurayza, why this is the most controversial section

02:19:33 The sentence and execution reports, reading the sources carefully

02:38:49 Closing remarks and sign off

In this episode of Boys in the Cave, we sit down with Haroon Raza, a Dutch criminal defence lawyer and human rights advocate based in Rotterdam.

We unpack the legal strategy behind pursuing accountability for Gaza, the rise of state overreach across Europe, and how activism shifts when the "rules" stop protecting people.

Haroon shares how investigators gathered open source evidence and compiled an indictment covering 1,000 IDF soldiers across multiple nationalities, based largely on what was posted publicly online, and how that work fed into efforts taken toward international accountability.

We also discuss a major "first" moment, the arrest and interrogation of two IDF soldiers in Belgium and what it reveals about the shifting legal landscape in Europe.

Plus, we get into the darker side of modern "rule of law", secret evidence, surveillance, infiltration, profiling Muslims in local municipalities, and why Haroon warns that if law fails to protect legitimate advocacy, societies head into dangerous territory.

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Timestamps

0:00 Sponsor, Human Appeal Australia

1:04 Who is Haroon Raza, and what this episode is about

3:55 Iraq, Bosnia, Kosovo, activism roots (and the first wake up calls)

9:49 Netherlands Islamophobia, politics, and early racism

16:06 Protest crackdowns in Europe, policing, intimidation

20:31 Protest bans, "terror" labels, civil disobedience

30:34 Secret evidence, surveillance, and the limits of "rule of law"

38:24 Profiling Muslims, infiltration, municipality databases, legal pushback

43:20 Adversity, faith, and staying firm under pressure

47:48 Tomorrowland (Belgium), the detention story, what happened

54:26 Investigative unit, turning open source content into case files

55:30 The "1,000 soldiers" indictment, Instagram as evidence

56:17 ICC and embassies, long game, ripple effects beyond Europe

1:06:43 Why "Hind Rajab", impunity, impact, backlash

1:29:44 Closing reflections and duas

What does it mean to travel for Allah and not just for content or vibes In this episode of Boys In The Cave, Tanzim sits down with filmmaker and Revival Retreats founder Zoheb to unpack how spiritual travel reshapes the heart.

From his first work trip to Morocco, to documenting floods in Pakistan, to walking in the streets of Istanbul and the zawiyas of West Africa, Zoheb shares how travel became a mirror that showed him who he really was before Allah.

They discuss the ethics of charity media, not romanticising poverty, how to hold Palestinian and global suffering in your heart, and why sohbah and righteous companions may be the most important part of any journey.

Along the way, you will hear stories of hidden Moroccan homes, bustling Senegalese streets, and the teachers and scholars who quietly keep the light of the ummah alive.

If you have ever felt the urge to pack a suitcase for Umrah, retreats, or a trip that is more than tourism, this conversation will help you make your journeys intentional and rooted in love of Allah, His Messenger and His awliya.

What we talk about in this episode

• Why "your suitcase is a mirror" is the perfect metaphor for spiritual travel

• How filmmaking and faith came together in Zoheb's life

• Pakistan, Lebanon, Palestine and the ethics of charity campaigns

• How Revival Retreats began and what makes a retreat truly transformative

• Istanbul, Morocco and Senegal as lived expressions of Islamic civilisation

• Colonisation, travel etiquette and leaving your privilege at the door

• Sohbah, righteous companions and making every journey a journey to Allah

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Zoheb is a UK born filmmaker now based between Cairo and the UK, with a an Hons in Digital Media and Film Production.

He has filmed faith centred travel and cultural projects and humanitarian relief projects across the Muslim world, as well as events and music videos.

He now leads Revival Retreats, a platform hosting Islamic heritage travel and spiritual retreats.

Timestamps

00:11 Salaam intro, Gaza and global suffering

00:49 Who is Zoheb, filmmaker and Revival Retreats founder

01:39 "Your suitcase is a mirror" travel quote

03:52 Zoheb's background and discovering filmmaking

04:54 Why filmmaking became a path of service for the ummah

06:09 First work trip to Morocco and first time in a Muslim country

07:12 Humanitarian travel in Pakistan, Bangladesh, Jordan, Lebanon and Turkey

08:25 The birth of Revival Retreats and reconnecting Muslims to heritage

09:52 Pakistan trip in depth and what impacted him most

12:12 Listening to Syrian and Palestinian struggles on the ground

18:14 Not romanticising poverty and witnessing tragedy up close

20:29 The ummah as one body and what that really means

27:38 Living in Istanbul and walking in the footsteps of the sahaba

30:25 Zawiyas, scholars and why you must see Islamic civilisation for yourself

35:29 Senegal, West Africa and a lived experience of Islam

43:31 Countries that deepened his faith and the highlights of his travels

44:26 Why Morocco feels like home and a spiritual sanctuary

48:21 Hidden Moroccan homes and the lesson of inner beauty

52:34 Outward aesthetics, barakah and how we have been shaped by modernity

53:06 Teachers and scholars who shaped him on the road

59:57 Why traveling with like hearted people matters

1:02:30 Sohbah and the friendships that form on retreat

1:06:38 Quranic reminders about righteous companions

1:12:19 Fun Boys In The Cave question, three people to share a cave with

1:15:44 Where to find Revival Retreats and how to join

1:16:03 Where to follow Zoheb and his work online

1:16:48 Final reminder about Revival Retreats and Gaza projects

1:17:09 Outro, how to support Boys In The Cave

Habeeb Akande joins BITC to talk misyar, secret wives, polygamy, passport wives, sex negative culture, and the nafs.

We unpack how some men cherry pick fiqh to justify secrecy, how praiseworthy aims differ from loophole hunting, and what real justice and consent look like in practice.

We also ask the question, have Muslims adopted a Christian style suspicion of pleasure and projected it onto Islam.

Habeeb speaks from classical learning and lived research, Maliki fiqh, usul, erotology, African and Muslim cultures.

We cover consent, maintenance, time rotation, publicity, and the harm rule, then end with a practical justice audit couples can use today.

Key topics

• Misyar, valid form versus wise practice, rights that are commonly waived, housing, maintenance, scheduled nights, publicity

• Secret nikah and ghosted maintenance, predictable harm patterns, how to prevent them

• Polygamy, justice in time and spending, financial readiness, disclosure, consent, children and custody

• Sex negative culture, what Islam actually says about pleasure, reciprocity, privacy

• The harm rule and maqasid, when legal form must give way to justice

• Online masculinity scripts, cherry picked texts, how to read responsibly

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Timestamps

0:00 Intro and sponsor, Human Appeal Australia

6:20 Sham marriages and travel examples, Morocco and Indonesia

22:12 Secrecy and first wife, why that is wild

33:30 Utopia myth, gender tension is not new

47:40 Legal versus ethical, muhallil and misuse

1:07:26 Misyar defined, two types in practice

1:08:39 Rights waived, Sauda example and scholar logic

1:26:25 Legalism versus spirituality, closing reflections

1:28:39 Polygamy basics and justice

1:36:39 Misyar and secret marriage

1:46:39 Rights versus responsibilities

1:56:39 Secrecy and predictable harm

2:06:39 Ethics over loopholes

2:16:39 Practical safeguards and consent

2:24:39 Closing counsel and outro

Professor Joel Hayward unpacks how Medina actually worked, the Sahifat al Madinah, parallel pacts by clan, covenant enforcement, and the Prophet's statecraft in moments like the Sawiq raid, the Qaynuqa crisis, the Nadir siege, and the Trench.

We dig into source criticism, what the early texts really say, and why the dominant narrative needs a rethink.

What we cover:

• Sahifat al Madinah, what the charter says and how it functioned inside a web of bilateral pacts

• The Prophet's statecraft, treaties, arbitration, measured enforcement, generosity in terms

• Banu Qaynuqa, cause of the confrontation, order to depart, who stayed under protection and why

• Banu al Nadir, the meeting about blood money, the alleged assassination plot, the short siege, relocation to Khaybar

• Banu Qurayza, covenant breach during the Trench, arbitration by Sad ibn Muadh

• Sawiq raid at al Uraiyd, why it mattered, possible local complicity, stress test for the covenant

• Kaab ibn al Ashraf, incitement, poetry as power, targeted security response

• Al Mukhayriq at Uhud, a reminder that alliances cut in unexpected ways

• Abdullah ibn Ubayy, promises to the Nadir, hypocrisy in belief versus action

• How historians weigh isnad, matn, and hindsight bias when reading seerah reports

Professor Joel Hayward, dean at Sycamore Leadership Academy in Istanbul, award winning author of The Leadership of Muhammad and The Warrior Prophet, listed in The Muslim 500, scholar of sirah, strategy, and leadership.

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Timestamps

00:00:00 Introduction 00:06:16 Sahifat al Madinah focus 00:15:17 Bilateral pacts and who was named 00:24:30 Ibn Ubayy politics and leadership 00:33:03 Separate pacts versus one charter 00:38:06 Renew your pact, Banu Nadir example 00:48:52 Numbers on arrival, wealth balance, Ibn Ubayy still the premier leader 00:52:02 Minority status and oasis power map 00:56:24 Upper and lower Medina, early pact geography 01:03:03 Kinship politics, Khazraj links and acceptance 01:07:51 Qaynuqa reappraised, cause and corporate penalty 01:13:47 Expulsion accounts versus later returns and traces 01:25:46 How the sources work, scarcity and overlap 01:33:37 Method and edits, reading Ibn Hisham critically 01:43:51 Nadir stone plot, revelation or prudence 01:48:15 Weighing possibilities, cautionary analogies 01:52:58 Kaab and Abu Sufyan, hospitality and timeline 01:57:09 Response as realpolitik, proportion and restraint 02:04:26 Historiography wrap, assembling the mosaic

Shaykh Dr Asim Yusuf joins Boys in the Cave for a deep dive into Imam al Ghazali's Ihya Ulum al Din, how to read it in our time, and how its spiritual psychology maps onto modern clinical insights.

We cover decontextualizing and recontextualizing sacred texts, the metaphysics of eating, marriage and companionship, contentment in a consumer world, and why spirituality is the ruh of the religion.

What you will learn

• Why an Ihya commentary speaks to today's seekers, and how to apply it, context first, then decontextualize, then recontextualize

• Metaphysics of eating, turning sunlight into worship, tasbih into ibadah

• Reading Book of Marriage through Book of Companionship for modern couples

• A common good economy, contentment as a cure for hyper capitalism

• Where Islamic and secular psychologies meet, origin, nature, purpose of the human

• Why spirituality is not a niche, it is the breath of the deen

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Timestamps

00:00:00 Sponsor message, Human Appeal Australia, Gaza relief projects

00:01:12 Welcome back, Shaykh Asim Yusuf returns to BITC

00:01:40 Why write an Ihya commentary, teaching since 2014, page by page method

00:02:18 How to make the Ihya speak now, lessons gathered from 400 to 500 hours of classes

00:09:47 Metaphysics of eating, upgrading tasbih to ibadah, light into light

00:11:17 Book 12, marriage, reading Ghazali's context, sociology of relationships

00:12:14 Why some passages sound paternal, audience, education, and age gaps in the 5th century

00:16:29 From eternal principles to our moment, the Ihya's usul for reapplication, heart focused frame

00:31:03 Translating terms, jihad as striving, how a word can flip a verse's meaning

00:36:13 Hunger, restraint, eating with others, a common good economy, contentment versus consumerism

00:52:13 Theistic and secular psychologies, the X model, where experiences overlap

01:50:46 Closing reflections, every moment reveals a new facet, keep the tradition alive

01:53:02 Spirituality is the ruh of the religion, do not let your deen be a ghost, let it live in you

01:54:15 Final counsel, bring ruh and jasad together, closing duas and sign off

Dr Yasir Qadhi joins us to unpack Salafism, sectarianism, and how Muslims in the West can move from labels to leadership.

We talk about what healthy disagreement looks like, why unity does not mean uniformity, and how communities can build real capacity, from mosques and schools to media, philanthropy, and liberal arts education.

We get specific about funding ethics, local service to the poor, and civilizational projects that shape hearts and minds. The goal is practical, principled institution building that serves faith and society together.

What you will hear:

• Salafism in context, strengths, blind spots, and the illusion of correctness

• Agreeing to disagree, red lines, and ending the habit of turning rivals into enemies

• From masjid to media, why we need journalists, artists, scholars, and leaders

• Philanthropy with purpose, feeding the hungry locally, museums and public education, funding without strings

• Liberal arts and classical sciences, why breadth of knowledge matters for the next generation

• Living in the West with confidence, learning from Abyssinia

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Timestamps

00:00 Intro and book context

06:58 Criticism and following trusted scholars

17:47 Unity, red lines, civility

21:05 Mawlid and taraweeh, nuance

33:12 Diverse strengths in the seerah

40:33 Seminary reform and the modern imam

49:40 Training leaders, contextualizing in the West

56:38 Knowledge exchange, Israiliyyat and kalam

01:12:07 Read real history, what to build next

01:26:44 Philanthropy, public projects, local politics, funding ethics

01:39:21 Identity pressure, Abyssinia question

01:42:35 Politics is a dirty game, ethics of engagement