Brain Boogerz

Do you wonder why you do the things you do when you're dealing with old wounds from childhood? Or why react to someone's voice, tone or approach may cause your body to react in defense?

We briefly talk about adverse childhood experiences, or those moments in our childhood that shaped how we manage the world as adults.

***TRIGGER Warning***, you may find solutions as you discover the depths of your foundation.

Childhood sensitivities shape how we respond to stress, love, and conflict—often without us knowing.

In this episode, we unpack common triggers, trace them back to early patterns, and practice simple tools to regulate in the moment.

Listen in for grounded steps you can use today to build safer connections—with yourself and others.

Today we unpack SCARF: Status, Certainty, Autonomy, Relatedness, and Fairness—the five social needs that shape how we react.

You’ll learn what each one means, how they interact like a dashboard, and how to run quick self-checks in real moments.

Walk away with simple reframes and communication tips to lower threat, boost connection, and move forward with intention.

On this episode, I provide a quick pick, providing frameworks and tools that are often presented on other topics. With quick picks, it's an opportunity to get a "full" episode while on your lunch break, dog walk or stroll.

Enjoy this and other quick picks, as they provide quick insights for daily self management.

This episode is on Fear, Obligation and Guilt, or FOG and how we can use it to improve our social growth!

We talk about socially patterned defects as presented by Erich Fromm, diving into the why's behind our actions; how complacency, complicity and conformity coupled with ignorance, ideology and inertia keep us locked in a perpetual spin. If you're trying to figure out why you do some of the things you do, join me as I pick at and dig in on this fascinating topic.

Completing the MEAT series with a look at TIME, our relationship with it, it's value and how we can protect it. Join me for a dive into the last part of our semi-renewable resources.

In this episode of the MEAT series, we focus on our Attention, how to manage it, how it's under attack, how it can be manipulated, and how we sometimes create a sense of connection when we empathize with others attention hoarding medical conditions and social structures.

We talk about CANOE, attachement styles, HALT, Ho'oponopono, Socially Patterned Defects and more!

The episode emphasizes that energy is a precious, limited resource that must be managed consciously.

By understanding the interplay of emotions, personality, attachment styles, societal influences, and adopting mindful practices like HALT, SIFT, and Ho’oponopono, individuals can reclaim their energy to live more intentional and resilient lives. And here's my Book Shelf, the resources that inform what I share with you, that way you too can be acitizen scientist, learn about yourself and your community, and understand how to navigate the inertia we’re working to dampen, and adjust course on our ideology and ignorance.

These books informed this episode:

Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl

Zero Limits by Joe Vitale and Ihaleakala Hew Len

Why You Are Who You Are by Mark Leary and The Great Courses

Addiction as an Attachment Disorder by Philip J. Flores

The Power of Attachment by Diane Poole Heller, PhD and Peter A. Levine

Anxiety in Relationship by Melanie White

Anxiety in Relationship by Theresa Miller

Platonic by Marisa G. Franco, PhD

Terror, Love and Brainwashing by Alexandra Stein

Polysecure by Jessica Fern

Understanding the Mysteries of Human Behavior by Mark Leary and The Great Courses

Push Back: Assert Yourself in Relationships by Monica Johnson and The Great Courses

Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman

Science and Human Behavior by B. F. Skinner

How to Train Your Mind by Chris Bailey

Neuroscience: Understanding Emotions, Resilience, and Intelligence by John Feisel

Memories, Dreams, Reflections by Carl G. Jung

Happy Listening!

- MJ

Let's talk about your MEAT! Why you should protect it, let few people handle it, and how you can keep it healthy and supported! Let's take a deep dive in our MEAT, and better understand our Money, Energy, Attention and Time!

This episode touches on cognitive biases, and how to be better aware of when we're operating through them. We'll talk about the Dunning-Kruger bias, and others.