Breaking Chains

"Who are you when no one is watching?"

Welcome back to Part 2 of the Identity Series. Today we are diving into the topic of  SOLITUDE and discovering who we are beneath all the layers of noise and external labels. I trust you will get to know yourself better from today's episode! 

Being alone for any extended period of time is one of the most terrifying things for so many. On the other hand, a moment alone is also the one thing we crave but can’t seem to get enough of in the busyness of life. Not only does solitude give us relief from all the noise - but it reveals who we truly are, especially when we incorporate it as a practice. 

There are depths to our being that we aren’t even aware of yet. We keep playing at the surface; but God is wanting to reveal so many deeper - richer - layers of ourselves when we meet him in the quiet place, free from the distractions of the world. 

In this episode, we are unpacking 

• 3 steps to embrace SOLITUDE for better relationships
• How spending time alone makes you even more attractive to others and adds life to your marriage 
•  A personal story on marriage + passion + chemistry and more 
• Key questions to ask yourself if you want to discover more of who you really are in this season of life
• Embracing the FULL range of who you are, versus just the versions you want to show the world

If you KNOW you are positioned for an identity UPGRADE, apply to work with me - https://www.thechristinejewell.com/application-work-with-me. Together we’ll unpack the characteristics of leaders who multiply and prosper. It starts with the IDENTITY of the steward cultivating those God-given gifts.

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“We get so busy in the do-ing, we forget about the be-ing.”

This week, I want to explore the topic of identity and how it affects our confidence and fulfillment. It's astonishing how easily we can lose touch with our true selves amidst the pressure cooker of daily existence. We form and collect identities when we’re young as a method of survival and success, but these layers BLIND and INHIBIT us from entering miracle territory. Our TRUE ESSENCE is still within us, hidden behind a veil of deception.

Think of the last time you cleaned out your closet, tossing pieces you’ve outgrown or don’t flatter you anymore. We should do the same with the metaphorical closet of our hearts and minds - shedding our ill-fitting identities and layers of societal expectations that have ensnared us for years. Your nicknames, medical diagnosis, level of education, marital status - those labels are just descriptions the human mind created to make sense of a world in CHAOS. Consider that even positive labels - CEO, entrepreneur, award winner - are things you DO, but are not who you ARE.

In today’s episode, I invite you to upgrade your identity + dive into ways we can unveil the RADIANT TRUTH of who we truly are, including:

• Embracing self-reflection
• Challenging societal norms
• Cultivating self-acceptance

If you KNOW you are positioned for an identity UPGRADE, apply to work with me. Together we’ll unpack the characteristics of leaders who multiply and prosper. It starts with the IDENTITY of the steward cultivating those God-given gifts. 

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“Isn’t it interesting that our world is built on chronology + “Chronos” time – Chronos was the Greek god of time, portrayed as a destructive, all-devouring force.”

As children, we learned early how to measure time. But I bet you only learned ONE way to mark the passing of minutes, months, years, and decades. Did you know there is a second (better) way? To move into multiplication territory, I challenge you to see that there are TWO perspectives of time - the worldly pressure-driven driven system that treats time as a finite resource, and the heavenly system of eternal and divine timing.

Instead of being ruled by the time constraints of the world system, begin to anchor yourself in God's timing and tune inward for guidance. It’s about moving away from pressure caused from obligation and into connection for a higher purpose. When you practice this enough, you develop discernment, one that cultivates patience + peace within your heart. And when you’re at peace, you’re ready to flourish within the calling God created you for!

In today’s episode I outline steps to shake off the pressure of the world, including: 

• Ask better questions about the present moment
• Differentiate between pressure and urgency
• Shift from external seeking to internal knowing

The Initiation is officially open for men + women who are ready to RISE as the King and Queen they are created to be, rebuild thriving relationships and step into their God given missions. Join The Initiation: https://www.thechristinejewell.com/learn-more-initiation

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This week I have the privilege of welcoming Tanja Shaw, Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner, where we discuss the self-sabotaging pattern we fall into with our health & how to navigate different seasons of life.

When  it comes to optimal health + wellness, one approach does NOT fit all. How often do you find yourself battling against the one thing that’s trying to keep you alive - your body? Your body is your home as long as you are on this earth. We sedate, we ignore, we medicate to get by, we punish these bodies. We get aggravated when our bodies need rest and recovery so they can take us through the next challenge.

To truly heal, have the level of energy we desire, and show up ready to play full out in this game of life, we have got to dig deeper and look under the hood of what’s really at play. Diagnotics can be a great way to show us what's actually happening inside the vessel God gave us to do life! 

Perhaps it’s time to grant ourselves permission to ditch the rigid protocols that aren't cutting it anymore and instead embrace the balancing act of being flexible in our methods while uncompromising in our goals. 

Today I invite you to break through the clutter and stop fighting your body. Let's start focusing on truly feeling GOOD and fully ALIVE, rather than getting caught up in the “shoulds” of societal expectations. 

Connect with Tanja!

• www.tanjashaw.com
• instagram.com/tanja_shaw
• facebook.com/tanjashaw
• www.fitvibrantquiz.com

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The life you have right now is 100% a reflection of the level of internal growth you’ve mastered. Are you happy with where you are at in your marriage, in this season of life - or do you know there is MORE waiting for you when you go all in on where God is calling you?

If you are feeling the call to forge deeper/stronger marriages and  relationships, to create more impact through your work, experience more adventure in your life as you deepen your connection to God - I invite you to join us in the RoundTable INITIATION. 

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Today marks the 100th episode of The Untamed Life Podcast. For consecutive 100 weeks, we’ve challenged old ways of thinking, shattered chains that keep us stuck in the grind, and breathed life into fresh beginnings. 

In today's episode, we are exploring the beauty of aligning our hearts with our true purpose. 

Have you felt the persistent whisper inside, compelling you to leave the familiar and embrace a God-given landscape of abundance? 

The moment you choose to follow that whisper, instead of the incessant noise of the world - is the moment it all begins to change. 

And that is when the call to INITIATION begins. This process is one of shedding our old identities, old programs, old ways of doing things and emerging as a completely different person. It's a season of self-reflection, self-awareness, and readjustments. As we journey through this Initiation, we'll find ourselves stretched, and challenged like never before, ultimately leading us to a new level of strength, authenticity and fulfillment.

This is not a solo mission. We need community, support, and mentors to guide us along the way. It’s the most powerful and beautiful journey you will ever take - this journey from head to heart - from slavery into true freedom. 

And that’s what The Initiation flagship coaching and mentorship program provides. 

If you've been feeling the tug of your heart, if you're ready to step into your true calling and leave a legacy of love and connection, then this episode is for you - and it’s just the beginning. 

Together, we'll break free from the world's programming and embrace a new way of living. 

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Welcome back to part two of our three-part series on moving from codependency to healthy interdependence in relationships. I’ve been there before - fluctuating widely in my relationships, bouncing from each extreme like a ping pong ball. From crazy codependency to fierce independence, where “I will depend on no one and no thing but myself!”

Sound familiar? 

In this episode, we'll dive into how to become comfortable with the spectrum of interdependence.

Dependency is in our DNA. From the earliest times, we relied on our caregivers for our survival.

Even as toddlers, we craved a safe and nurturing environment that allowed us to explore while still knowing there were boundaries and support in place to keep us safe.

Our childhood experiences shape how we approach relationships later in life. 

Were you given the freedom to grow, explore, and develop your own sense of self? Did you have the chance to be independent while still knowing there was a safety net to catch you if you fell? Or maybe you were controlled or neglected, which led to fear or an excessive need for independence?

Understanding these patterns helps us figure out where we stand on the whole dependence versus independence spectrum. Being codependent means relying solely on someone else as our source, while being fiercely independent means relying solely on ourselves. But you know what? 

The sweet spot is interdependence. 

It's this beautiful balance where we recognize that our ultimate source is a higher power, and we can depend on ourselves, our loved ones, and God all at once.

Interdependence allows us to celebrate our individuality and autonomy while cherishing and appreciating our differences. By nurturing our curiosity about ourselves and our partners, we deepen our connection and create a space for mutual support. We can rely on each other's strengths and gifts, which means we enter MULTIPLICATION TERRITORY.

In this episode, we’ll break down the 5 G’s of practicing interdependency:

1. Gain awareness (listening to this series is a great start!)
2. Get curious about each other
3. Give advice when asked, but listen if needed
4. Gravitate around joy - God’s, yours, your partner’s
5. Give radical grace - to yourself and your partner

We are greatly blessed when we come together in love, build each other up, keep peace in our home, and bring life into our children and our communities. 

This podcast is just the beginning. To go deeper into this work and get step by step support:  

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**Welcome to the first part in a three part relationship series designed to help you build thriving relationships. This week we’ll unpack how to move from codependency to a place of interdependence, one that creates healthy dynamics with your spouse, family, and team.**

Does a relationship of extreme dependance sound familiar? “I can’t function without you, or without you needing me.” 

We may have a distorted view of what we bring to the relationships in our lives. When we get anxiously attached to someone, we feel responsible for their thoughts, feelings, reactions - even their happiness. We search for who we can fix and save, creating a revolving door of those issues in our lives. We become ADDICTED to being needed, wanted, significant. Our worth is tied to being the saver, the fixer, the source.

This self-imposed burden becomes heavy - spiritually, mentally, even physically. If your body and mind have been hijacked by these struggles, it’s time to bring you back to the here and now. We are not the source. Allowing our loved ones time of productive struggle is a reflection of our abilities to be comfortable with not being in control. What does holding space in a healthy way look like? What is the balance between support and growth?

Join me as we learn to disentangle ourselves from the idolatry of codependency. We will:

• Identify the signs and symptoms that codependency rules your life
• Redirect where our source is (live giving vs. life draining)
• Reclaim the territory of your mind

The weight of the world is not on your shoulders! Step out of the wilderness and into aligned relationships. It’s time to get out of your head and into your heart.

The best part is, you don’t have to do it alone. Surround yourself with a community of those who want to grow spiritually. The best guides are those who have once been there themselves. I work with 3 couples each quarter to help align values, deepen connection, build trust, and clarify lines of communication. To learn more, fiil out this short application. 

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EPISODE RESOURCES:

• Proverbs 29:25 - https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Proverbs+29%3A25&version=CSB
• The UNTAMED Life Podcast - Reclaiming Your Boundaries - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redefining-boundaries-curating-your-ideal-day-letting

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Can a basketball team truly win if its players are constantly fighting each other for the ball?

Is it possible for a relay to be won if one runner trips their teammate?

How can a soccer team defend their goal effectively if the defense is caught up in infighting?

Sometimes, we fall into the trap of living as individuals within our marriages, trying to operate as a team. We treat marriage as a BATTLEFIELD, constantly vying for control and dominance. This approach creates canyons of disconnection between partners, leading to strife and friction. Couples end up living in turmoil because they don't trust each other to take the ball over the goal line. 

But here's the thing my loves: marriage is not an individual sport. 

We shift the game when we go from FACING EACH OTHER on the field to STANDING SIDE BY SIDE, creating a healthy and safe home that multiplies blessings. How about we stop pointing fingers and change our mindset from "you" to "we." 

Our families are precious treasures entrusted to us by God, and He wants to see how well we lead and nourish that treasure.

Winning championships isn't just about what happens on the playing field. The true victory comes from conditioning and practice. In our marriage teams, we can focus on behavior modifications that go beyond the surface level and truly change our hearts. By becoming aware of the patterns that play out in our lives, we can interrupt them and make lasting changes.

Today’s conversation will provide a playbook of rhythms for your marriage that can lead to a permanent shift in your heart:

• Decide you are on the same team - What you’re fighting, you face together.
• Establish your team foundations - Spread out and look at the lay of the land.
• Assign positions and practice the drills of life - Where in your marriage will you pass the ball, and where will you lead?
• Clarify your values - What is the God-given mission of our marriage?

Getting God involved amplifies and multiples your union. When you have divine protection and covering, you don't need to constantly play offense and defense against your spouse. Instead, you can come off the field feeling strong and more connected. 

Every team needs a coach! Feeling the call to go deeper? I work with 3 couples each quarter to help align  values, deepen connection, build trust, and clarify lines of communication. To learn more, fill out this short application.

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Are you finding yourself running to ALL the wrong things to get your emotional needs met?

Are you constantly beating yourself up mentally, ridden with guilt that you ‘should’ be doing better?

Some of us are used to operating in the place of anxiety, living in the place of TURMOIL inside that we don’t know HOW do I get out from under this. At times, we may even find ourselves being crippled by the hold these things have on our life!  Unable to think clearly, execute on decisions we know we must make, we instead become paralyzed second guessing ourselves or simply stay in one place - spinning our wheels. 

Growing more frustrated and more anxious by the day, the guilt keeps piling on. 

In today’s episode we are talking about why we keep SELLING OUT.

Yup. As humans - we will sell out our core values, the CORE of who we are, to get our primal human needs met - every time - if you don’t have things right on the inside.

God designed a beautiful experience for us, one with healthy, life-giving variety. But too many of us are addicted to short-term fixes and constant distractions. An INNER CIVIL WAR rages when we satiate your desires with superficial fixes and dopamine hits one after the other. It’s like a crumb when you’re starving or a bandaid on a bullet wound. 

We may recognize the toll these short-term solutions take on our souls, yet a spirit of FEAR holds us back from breaking the cycle. Fear of judgment, of time running out, and of pain itself. But operating from a place of fear means a lack of trust in God, ourselves, and others. God did not design us to operate from a place of darkness, so how do we realign? 

We have to get clear on what matters to us so we know what we’re fighting for.

In this episode, we’ll touch on these vital aspects of realigning your values to get off the grind and out of the trenches:

• The 6 human needs we all have
• How WHERE we get these needs met can cause more friction or flow in our lives
• Are you Creating from FEAR or LOVE?
• The importance of clear values and defining them
• The two areas we must evaluate within ourselves to create change

We can learn to operate from a place of genuine contentment and alignment with our God-given gifts and genius, instead of chasing after fleeting fulfillment. If you are struggling to do this on your own, working with a coach or mentor like myself can be the perfect next step.

If you want to wake up with a clear mind and be able to get through your days feeling charged,  without the constant guilt and pressure, I invite you to learn more about 1:1 Mentorship or Group Coaching -  Fill out this Short Application and we will reach out with the next step!

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Episode 96 Resources:

• Tony Robbins - 6 Human Needs