Breaking the Habit of Comparing Yourself: How to Unleash Your Gift and Create a New You

Author's Personal Experiences:

• Younger Years: Rilen, a dreamer and the youngest in her family, enters a four-year relationship and conceives a child before marriage.
• Unexpected Pregnancy: Feeling unprepared and her "world shutters," Rilen struggles with the reality of being pregnant.
• Birth of Daughter: Rilen has her baby, whom she loves, but still feels unready for the responsibilities of motherhood.
• Early Motherhood: Rilen's mother takes care of her daughter with the help of a nanny. Rilen finds a job while her husband works abroad as an OFW.
• Daughter's Upbringing: Rilen is not consistently present to protect and nurture her daughter, who grows up in an environment where she is compared to others.
• Realization of Mistakes: Rilen, through her own journey, comes to realize her immaturity and the negative impact her problems and resentments had on her daughter.
• Reconciliation with Daughter: Rilen makes amends with her daughter, explaining her past immaturity and apologizing. They reconcile and move forward.
• Inspiration for the Book: Rilen thinks about "Anna" and the many others who need help with comparison. Inspired by a friend who teaches her about ebooks and remembering her daughter's experiences, she decides to write this book.
• Writing the Book: Early one morning, Rilen wakes up thinking about what to write, ultimately focusing on the topic of overcoming the habit of comparing oneself.
• Encountering a Difficult Situation (Unspecified): Rilen recounts a time when her spirit was broken, she felt abandoned, and had no options. She relied solely on Jesus for help and was delivered from this "prison" of pain, sleepless nights, shame, and loss. She attributes her safe return home with her children and the peace given to her husband to God's intervention.
• Decision to Become a Writer: This decision makes Rilen aware of self-help books that inspire her to write her own ebook.
• Hiring a Singing Coach for Daughter: This decision increases Rilen's awareness of singers on TV and potential coaches, including her nephew.
• Learning from Employer: Rilen recalls her employer's perspective on multiple gifts and reliance on God, as well as her humility regarding material possessions.