Episode 8: Show Notes
In today’s episode we will be discussing emotional intelligence, how to find credible health-related websites, and the sleep-weight connection.
Part 1: Emotional Intelligence
Let’s get started with a discussion on emotional intelligence. It wasn’t until about 4-5 years ago that I even heard of this subject. Since then I keep seeing it pop up everywhere I look. A good place to start is to define this term.
Definition
A Psychology Today report states that
Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others. It is generally said to include three skills:
1. Emotional awareness, including the ability to identify your own emotions and those of others;
2. The ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problems solving;
3. The ability to manage emotions. This includes the ability to regulate your own emotions, and the ability to cheer up or calm down another person.
It is sometimes also called emotional quotient (EQ), similar to the intelligence quotient or IQ.
Merrian Webster defines IQ as a number used to express the apparent relative intelligence of a person.
We’re all born with varying levels of intelligence. Likewise, we each have a different degree of emotional intelligence too.
Measuring EQ
You may be wondering if we can measure a person’s EQ, like we measure a person’s IQ and the answer is YES!
There is a book called Emotional Intelligence 2.0 written by Travis Bradberry, and Jean Greaves that presents an explanation of Emotional Intelligence, offers you the opportunity to take an online test to determine your personal score. Then the book goes into several sections that provide strategies for improving your EQ. Yes, that means you can get better in this area, you’re not just left the way that God made you in this area, improvement is possible.
EQ Improvement Strategies
Emotional intelligence is commonly defined by four attributes. And each of these areas has potential for improvement. And you can find information in books and online (and certainly with professional counselors too) that will help you become stronger in these areas.
* Self-awareness – You recognize your own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behavior. You know your strengths and weaknesses, and have self-confidence.
* Self-management – You’re able to control impulsive feelings and behaviors, manage your emotions in healthy ways, take initiative, follow through on commitments, and adapt to changing circumstances.
* Social awareness – You can understand the emotions, needs, and concerns of other people, pick up on emotional cues, feel comfortable socially, and recognize the power dynamics in a group or organization.
* Relationship management – You know how to develop and maintain good relationships, communicate clearly, inspire and influence others, work well in a team, and manage conflict.
Improvement Example
Let’s look at an example of a low relationship management score. Our nonverbal communication influences our relationships. When I get irritated about something that being said that is upsetting or incorrect, I get a feeling like I need to get out of my skin. My upper body and shoulders start to twitch and I frequently need to adjust them.
If someone sees me start to move around like this, they may start to become uncomfortable too. They may start to sense that they are bothering me. It certainly is not likely to create a sense of peace and calm.