We talk a lot about grieving the person we lost. But we don't talk enough about grieving the person we used to be.

After trauma and loss, you don't come out the other side as the same person. You see the world differently. Your priorities shift. Some parts of you become stronger, while others feel broken. And for a long time, I thought healing meant becoming the woman I was before Owen.

In this episode, I'm sharing why I've stopped chasing my old self, how grief reshapes our identity, and why accepting the person you've become doesn't mean you've moved on-- it means you're learning to carry your love in a new way.

If you've ever found yourself wondering, "Will I ever feel like myself again?" this episode is for you.

Today I’m joined by loss mom, therapist, and creator of The Loss Mama Method, Elle Margetson.

Elle shares the story of her triplets—Noah, Eden, and Hudson—and how she learned to navigate life after the unimaginable loss of her children. Together, we dive into some of the most difficult parts of grief, including the belief that if we stop hurting, we’re somehow leaving our babies behind.

In this conversation, we discuss:

• Why so many grieving parents hold tightly to their pain

• The guilt that often follows child loss

• What grief looks like five years later

• How to honor your child while still allowing yourself to experience joy

• The difference between carrying your love and carrying your suffering

• Healing after trauma and learning to trust life again

Elle also opens up about her journey to motherhood after loss, sharing how fear and trauma initially made her never want to become pregnant again. She vulnerably shares the story of her rainbow baby and how she navigated pregnancy after loss while carrying both hope and heartbreak.

Drawing from both her personal experience and professional work as a grief therapist, Elle offers encouragement for loss moms who feel stuck in survival mode and wonder if they’ll ever feel like themselves again. This is for loss moms navigating miscarriage, TFMR, still birth, neonatal loss and infant loss.

This episode is a reminder that healing doesn’t mean forgetting, joy doesn’t replace love, and it is possible to carry your babies with you while learning to live again.

Elle's instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/elle.hypnotherapy

Loss Momma Method Form:

https://portal.dubsado.com/public/form/view/694039daa5ce5adecfddcefe

Loss Mama Survival Kit

https://stan.store/ellehypnotherapy/p/the-loss-mama-survival-kit

Nobody warned me that trauma wouldn’t stay in the hospital.

In this episode, I talk about what PTSD after medical trauma and birth trauma actually felt like for me — the hypervigilance, panic, body memories, fear, and feeling unsafe inside my own body long after everything was “over.”

This episode is for anyone who has walked through traumatic birth, NICU trauma, medical trauma, loss, or feels like their nervous system never got the message that they survived.

You are not crazy. Your body remembers what happened. And you are not alone.

What does “trying” look like after losing a child?

In this episode of Breathing After You, I talk about living with grief and PTSD, feeling like an open wound, and the quiet, exhausting reality of continuing on.

If you’re still here… still breathing… still trying—this one’s for you.

This is the first episode of Breathing After You —a podcast I never imagined I’d have to create.

After losing my son, I learned that survival doesn’t look like strength. Sometimes it just looks like breathing.

In this episode, I’m sharing who I am, why this podcast exists, and what you can expect here. If you’ve experienced loss, love someone who has, or feel like you’re just trying to make it through the day… you’re in the right place.

You don’t have to have the right words here. You just have to show up.

People don't mean to disappear... but they do. Not because they don't care, but because they don't know what to say.

In this episode, I'm talking about what grieving people actually feel, what helps, what hurts, and how you support someone you love without feeling like you're doing it wrong.

Because the truth is--

They don't need you to fix it. They just need you not to leave.

If you're grieving and wanting something to relate to, or you're someone trying to support a grieving loved one... you're safe here.