Major events can show us that life is short, and precious. Do we want to spend it pursuing compulsive behavior, or in finding love and compassion with those we are close to?

Appreciation: Libby https://meet.libbyapp.com/. Borrow thousands of ebooks and audiobooks free from your library for free.

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Ben had a relapse, which is a drag. But what did he learn from it? And what can you learn from his mistakes?

Appreciation: Vacations! Take more of them.

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This week, Ben talks about a simple strategy to deal with times when your sobriety is more vulnerable. Hint: it may have something to do with connection.

Appreciation: Johann Hari’s book: Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions. http://a.co/0zogguW

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If you are an addict, it’s easy to get discouraged that things will never change. Ben Fraser says that change is not only possible, it’s unavoidable. There is hope!

This episode was inspired by an Invisibilia podcast. https://www.npr.org/programs/invisibilia/482836315/the-personality-myth

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You might think that porn ruined your life. But is it possible that it also saved your life? Ben Fraser explores the impact of compulsive porn use on his early life.

Foodist Podcast with Darya Rose

https://soundcloud.com/darya-pino-rose/how-to-stop-yourself-from-nighttime-bingeing

Appreciation: Science Vs. Guns

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As Harvey Weinstein goes to court to face charges of rape, Ben Fraser reflects on what meaning the #MeToo movement has for those of us struggling with porn addiction.

Tea and Consent: https://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8

Slate Interview with Weinstein accusers. https://slate.com/arts/2017/11/harvey-weinsteins-accusers-in-conversation.html

Fresh Air interview with Tig Notaro (partly on Louis CK) https://www.npr.org/2018/05/16/611585606/comic-tig-notaro-wants-you-to-know-shes-happy-to-be-here

Appreciation: The Hamilton Soundtrack https://soundcloud.com/user-247547064/hamilton-an-american-musical-full-soundtrack

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Ben Fraser reflects on how resisting something might actually make us more likely to engage in the behavior, and how to deal with that. Also, are current events triggering you?

Appreciation: The Instant Pot! http://a.co/d9DQaNR

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In this practical episode, Ben Fraser talks about three tools that have been very useful in his recovery - a filter, meditation, and the FAST check in.

A filter that Ben uses: https://x3watch.com/

A meditation app that Ben likes:

https://www.headspace.com/headspace-meditation-app

F.A.S.T. check-ins.

http://recoveredman.com/106-back-2-basics-f-a-s-t-t-check-ins/

Appreciation: Thunderstruck by Erik Larson

http://eriklarsonbooks.com/the-books/thunderstruck/

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Ben Fraser discusses how porn is like junk food. Consuming it gives you nothing of value, and is a poor substitute for what you really want.

Inspired by Darya Rose’s class on Creative Live called “Lose Weight without Dieting.”

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Also check out her Foodist podcast. http://www.summertomato.com/podcast

And her website, Summer Tomato: http://www.summertomato.com/

Appreciation: Michael Pollan’s book “In Defense of Food.”: https://amzn.to/2JeT0KD

Special thanks also to Kevin, Cameron, Thomas and InProgress for encouraging me to podcast again!

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It’s easy for a consumer of porn to forget that there is a human being behind the photos and images. And that smile is probably fake. Ben Fraser tells the story of one woman who got involved in the porn industry in the late 70s, and how her life was destroyed by it.

This podcast was inspired by an episode of the wonderful podcast: “You Must Remember This” by Karina Longworth.

http://www.youmustrememberthispodcast.com/episodes/2017/4/20/dorothy-stratten-dead-blondes-episode-13

A pulitzer prize winning article on this subject from 1980.

http://reprints.longform.org/death-of-a-playmate

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