Brick House

Ben Fraser gets interviewed by Jeremy Jones for the Tea and Crumpets Podcast and answers questions about the Brick House Web Series. Topics include how the series developed, new cast for Season 2, and why he chose “quitting porn” as the theme.

- By the way, in case you are wondering, there is no such thing as the Tea and Crumpets podcast. ;)

Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com

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Ben reminds every one struggling with addictive behaviors that feeling bad about yourself doesn’t help. If you have a set back, how can you turn things around so you feel better?

Appreciation: http://pornfreeradio.com/027-how-idiots-track-success/ A podcast by Matt Dobschuetz about 5 additional ways to measure success besides counting sober days.

Another episode that relates to the topic - knowing that you are lovable.

http://pornfreeradio.com/002-unlovable/

Ben refers to the 1981 movie “American Werewolf in London,” but does not recommend it because it has some potentially triggering scenes. Sorry guys! We can’t watch “R” rated movies from the ‘80s.

Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com

If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact

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Ben does a check-in about the challenges of staying sober this week, including unexpected triggers like helping a friend with computer stuff.

Appreciation: Iyengar Yoga:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Iyengar_Yoga

Want to do the “legs up the wall pose/” It’s actually called“Viparita Karani” and it’s very easy to do. http://www.yogajournal.com/pose/legs-up-the-wall-pose/

Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com

If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact

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Sometimes you can get caught up in the addiction and ignore the obvious things you can do to quit. Ben talks about H.A.L.T.S., which stands for Hungry, Anxious, Lonely, Tired, and Stressed. (Some people think the “A” stands for Angry, which works too!)

More about HALT: http://www.balboahorizons.com/halt-staying-sober-how-to-avoid-a-relapse-in-recovery/

If you can prevent yourself from feeling these triggers, it’s a lot easier to avoid the addictive behavior. For instance, if sleep is the trigger, then get more sleep! Here’s a site with some tips for getting more sleep.

http://sleepfoundation.org/sleep-tools-tips/healthy-sleep-tips

Appreciation: 2002 movie “About Schmidt” starring Jack Nicholson.

http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/about_schmidt/

Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com

If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact

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The podcast is on vacation this week, so Ben is sharing a song. Originally written and recorded in 2008, Ben was wrestling with urges on a daily basis. The process of writing and recording the song helped him get through a difficult time. He hopes it will inspire you as well.

Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com

If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact

Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv

Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

This phrase, often used in porn, seems harmless, but what are we saying when we use it? How are men and women affected by standards of beauty that are portrayed in the porn industry and commercial culture?

Appreciation: http://www.beautyredefined.net/lessons-from-porn-women-are-objects/ This article talks about how women and men are affected by the portrayal of women in pornography.

Photoshopping real women into Cover models

https://youtu.be/zRlpIkH3b5I

“Dove Evolution” how a model is photoshopped for an ad.

https://youtu.be/iYhCn0jf46U

Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com

If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact

Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv

Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

The internet is full of porn, but Ben thinks that it is still not enough. He’ll tell you why that is, and also what happened recently when he had a relapse after 498 days of sobriety.

Appreciation: Gary Wilson’s website: http://yourbrainonporn.com/ Also, check out Gary’s TED talk The Great Porn Experiment https://youtu.be/wSF82AwSDiU

Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com

If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact

Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv

Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben answers a question from Chris about when and how to tell a significant other about his porn habit. The answer is: it depends. But you should definitely tell.

Appreciation: The NoFap (no masturbation) community at Reddit. Find some people who are struggling with the same thing you are.

http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/

Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com

If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact

Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv

Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

The answer may not be what you think. In any case, it doesn’t help to feel guilt or shame about it. Ben continues his discussion with Jim from episode 9.

Appreciation: Johann Hari article about real causes of addiction. Hopeful and fascinating.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/johann-hari/the-real-cause-of-addicti_b_6506936.html

Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com

If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact

Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv

Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben hasn’t watched it, but he still has a lot to say about it. What’s it like to be a recovering porn addict and be inundated with the media frenzy regarding a popular book and movie that is about a BDSM relationship?

Here’s a movie that Ben recommends you watch instead: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

http://youtu.be/lnSgSe2GzDc

Appreciation: Free Ebook - Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction.

http://www.no-porn.com/#!tenkeys/cjg9

Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com

If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact

Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv

Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj