Brofessional Development Podcast

Check your ego at the door. Turns out this piece of advice is intended specifically for Matt as polling results show his ego towers above the rest.

This week we start off with the guys discussing what’s been going on in their lives recently including Dan’s incredible bedroom stamina.

Keep your ego in check. The guys take turns sharing quotes from the likes of Ryan Holiday, Maya Angelou, and Gary Vee. The idea being that a large ego prevents you from continuing to learn and self- improvement.

Defining the word “ego” can be difficult, but one must be able to learn to differentiate between that and self-confidence. There is a world of difference between one’s actual ability versus their perception of what they can accomplish.

Next the gang takes an introspective look at themselves and share their own issues with ego and self- perception.

Finally, we close with tips from Ryan Holiday on how to control one’s ego and questions from fans.

In this episode, we talk about “Saying Yes to Saying No.”  Why is it so important for you? How can you say it the right way and how do you know things to say no or yes to? We dive deep into the discussion on when you to say no and why having co-values can help you say no easily. Tune in to find out more about saying no and saying yes.

KEY HIGHLIGHTS

[01:44] What’s been going on?

[07:30] Quotes around saying No.

[10:14] Bitcoin price goes deep

[12:35] Books we’re currently reading

[15:20] Why is saying yes to saying no important?

[17:55] Learning to say No

[21:38] How do you know what you should and shouldn’t say no to

[26:49] How to know when to say no

[27:51] Using co-values to say yes and no

[31:12] How do you say no the right way? And why is it hard to say no sometimes?

[36:27] Is there anything, in particular, you wish you would say no or yes to right now?

[44:23] Only fans inquiry: What techniques do you use to improve your ability to delay gratification

• Our opinions and thoughts mean very little if there’s nothing we disagree with. (Henry Claude).
• It’s only saying no that you can concentrate on the really important things. (Steve Jobs).
• You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage pleasantly and unapologetically to say no to other things and the way to do that is having a bigger yes burning inside. (Steven Covey).
• Every time we say yes to our request, we are also saying no to anything else we might accomplish with the time. (Tim Harford).
• When you’re trying to say yes to everything, you end up doing nothing. (Gary Vee).
• I’m not going to be able to help anybody if I can’t help myself first
• If I’m not gonna grow from it, there’s no sense in doing it. Even if I’m treading water in the same spot, it’s not worth doing it.
• Don’t say no out of fear. Say no because it doesn’t align with your goals.
• If you have co-values, then your no and yes are easy.
• The more honest you are with people when you say no, the more appreciative of it they are.

Boundaries: When To Say No When To Say Yes To Take Control Of Your Life by Henry Cloud.

Changes That Heal by Henry Cloud

Relentless Solution Focus by Jason Selk

Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself by Joe Dispenza

The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy

Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins

The Yes Virus YouTube Video by Gary Vee

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Dr. Jason Selk is one of the top performance coaches in the United States. His clients range anywhere from Olympic athletes to fortune 500 executives. He was the director of mental training for the Saint Louis Cardinals and helped them in their first-ever World Series in over 20 years. Dr. Selk has written a tone of books with 10 minutes Toughness on the pace to be one of the best-selling sports psychology books of all time. His new book, Relentless Solutions Focus, just hit the shelves this year. Dr. Selk’s self-development programs use science and research along with practicals steps on how to improve.

In this episode, Dr. Selk talks about self-development by turning negative actions into positive ones through being relentless and influencing your thoughts. He also advises on how to get better when you’re underperforming and why you should not live in fear. Tune in to listen to these and many more exciting topics.

KEY HIGHLIGHTS

[01:31] The Cardinals

[03:00] Taking negative actions and turning them into a positive

[08:17] Relentless Solution Focus Book Content

[08:28] Visualization and Physical Practice

[10:35] Shifting from sports to business world.

[13:42] What is PCT and how to shift it to Relentless Solution Focus

[19:12] How to get people to try different solutions

[20:54] Does society influence PCT?

[23:32] Self-confidence as the leading factor in human performance

[25:22] Psycho-Cybernetics by Dr. Maxwell Maltz

[28:47] 2006-2011 Cardinals Team

[30:17] Getting better when you’re underperforming

[34:19] Only fans inquiry

[36:00] Fighting fear

• Our thoughts are our choice. Most people don’t know how to make the right choice with thoughts because they haven’t been taught what the wrong or right thoughts are.
• If you’re struggling with confidence, act as if you’re not struggling with it.
• If you can change the thoughts, then you can change the behavior and the way you feel and control performance at a much higher level.
• When a person is not using visualization and effective goal setting, they cannot be performing at their potential
• With the same problem that you experience, you must put the same energy into recognizing the improvements.
• During performance, do not be afraid of cocky. When you get out of your performance, be a human being.
• Self-image is determined by how we talk to ourselves about ourselves.
• Sometimes there are things worse than death. There have been many people in our country that have said the worst thing in life is fear. And for me, I would rather not be alive than living in fear.

Jason Selk Website: https://enhancedperformanceinc.com/

Jason Selk Books

The ONE Thing Book by Gary Keller

Psycho-Cybernetics Book by Maxwell Maltz

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In this episode, Brad Loyet and Matt Kresko talk about scarcity vs. abundance mindsets. Learn from St. Louis entrepreneurs and tune in to listen to the discussion as we go deep defining these mindsets, the effects of a scarcity mindset, and how to shift to an abundance mindset, among other exciting topics. We also share some reviews from our fans and introduce our next week’s guest Dr. Jason Selk!

If you are an entrepreneur looking to level up start here!

KEY HIGHLIGHTS:

[00:55] Update on what’s going on

[05:30] Scarcity Vs. Abundance Mindset quotes

[06:44] Defining Scarcity Mindset

[10:36] Defining Abundance Mindset

[13:28] Breeding the Spending Habit

[14:33] What’s wrong with our education system?

[15:54] How to shift from having a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset

[18:51] Reticular Activating System

[20:13] How scarcity mindset affects you

[21:00] Anything good with having a scarcity mindset?

[21:46] What it takes to have a true economic abundance

[24:21] Negative reviews from listeners

[25:54] Positive reviews

[27:17] Fans inquiry: Question from Tom Green

[30:43] About our next week’s guest.

• When you’re grateful, fear disappears, and abundance appears (Tony Robbins)
• If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough. (Oprah Winfrey)
• If you’re broke or poor and horrible with your finances and you go out and win a lottery, chances are you will be bankrupt within five years.
• You need to be grateful for the little wins that you have along the way.
• If you focus on your appreciation for what you have, you’ll start noticing more that you can have. If you start focussing on everything you don’t have, nothing will ever be enough, no matter what comes into your life.
• If you’re just focussing on anything negative in your life, and that’s all you focus on, you’re blocking out every possibility of making that better.
• If you feel like you’re in a scarcity mindset and do something for somebody else, there’s going to be a weight lifted on your shoulder.

Ben Newman is a highly regarded performance coach, international speaker, and best-selling author. His clients consist of fortune 500 companies, business executives, sales organizations, and professional athletes. He is also the mental conditioning coach of the Alabama Crimson Tide Football team. Influencive.com named him as one of the top 10 motivators in sports. Real Leaders Magazine listed ben in the Top 50 speakers in the world in 2019 and 2020.

In this episode, Ben Newman joins us to discuss how we can find our greatest strength through the story of challenge and pain. He also shares steps to help find your life’s purpose and give yourself permission to move forward. Tune in as we dive deep into Ben’s story and other exciting topics including his purpose and what wakes him up every day, the seduction of success, mental toughness, and connecting your burn as a mental training tool. Finally, Ben gives the release date of his upcoming book, Uncommon Leadership, in which he shares lessons he has learned from some of the greatest leaders that ever walked the face of the earth.

Key Highlights

[02:10] What Ben has been up to

[03:03] Ben’s purpose and why he wakes up early every day

[03:46] The story of Ben’s mother suffering from Amyloidosis

[06:40] Leaving mom’s legacy behind

[09:20] Seduction of success

[12:35] Troubling financial periods

[17:35] Mental toughness

[20:50] Ben’s morning routine

[29:55] Mental training tool

[32:45] Steps to help one find their purpose

[38:08] Giving yourself permission to go forward: Story of Mark Jones

[43:56] Looking into the future

[47:15] Upcoming Book: Uncommon Leadership

• My core has always been in my connection to fighting to be the best that I can be every single day because that’s what my mother did when she was dying of a rare muscle disease called Amyloidosis.
• My mother was the greatest champion of life. The greatest fighter who taught me about passion and conviction.
• Something you have been saying no to, for whatever reason; fear, doubt, uncertainty, give yourself permission and stop making excuses why you’re not going to move forward.
• Recognize that great success takes time. It’s not done overnight.
• Once you experience a little success, you should never stop. The goal should be to get better.
• If you have a mentor who just always tells you how great you are, keep that person as a loving friend and find a new mentor.
• Mental toughness is your ability to get back up one more time when you have been knocked down.
• Don’t allow your feelings to dictate how you show up. Continue to dominate the standard every day.
• The easiest way to build self-confidence is just by keeping the small promises to yourself.
• Everything that I do requires me to wake up at 2:24 am. I’m willing to make up the sacrifice of a little bit of sleep to build a calendar that gives me balance in my life.
• When you’re in the middle of pain and feel like you can’t go any further, you connect to your burn and the reason you’re going to do it.
• My greatest goal is to serve a billion people and I recognize that I can’t do that alone.

If you loved this week’s conversation, you may want to check out these previous episodes!

Discipline Moves The Needle

Quit Bitching And Complaining!

This week the gang hangs out with the Andy Frisella.

Andy Frisella is an entrepreneur, bestselling author, consultant, and public speaker.

He has been featured in Inc., Entrepreneur & Forbes Magazine. From 2015-2019 he hosted The MFCEO Project, and currently hosts REAL AF with Andy Frisella.

Listen along as we discuss the power of self-education and carving your own path and why getting stabbed was the best thing that ever happened to Andy.

Bobby talks about his struggles in the last year and how Andy’s 75 Hard helped him regain control of his life. Andy takes his example and builds upon it by laying out his three keys to happiness.

Your customers and clients are your lifeblood; they are what gives you purpose. Andy lays out why and how to shift your focus from your wallet to truly making a difference in people’s lives.

Andy also helps to build on last week’s episode in discussing why no single individual has to settle for being average. The tools provided in in the modern age such as Google, social media, podcasts, and content creators such as Andy himself lay a solid foundation for success.

We get into the proverbial “No Man’s Land” and how to navigate the negativity thrown at you by the people around you. As you outgrow a group in the search for self-improvement, loneliness is a new challenge until you can successfully surround yourself with like-minded driven individuals.

Finally, we grill Andy with some questions from the fans and he explains how he successfully bought his dream house with help from a meme.

Powerful quotes

Being successful is not the grades you get in school.

Make your scars your strengths.

Learn to take your hardships and turn them into foundations to build yourself upon.

I’m happy to lose because it taught me something.

… absorb that negativity and put it out into productive action.

 Key Highlights

[00:15] Introducing Andy Frisella.

[02:12] How Andy got started on his professional development journey.

[05:01] Being successful in America.

[10:43] Getting stabbed is the greatest thing that ever happened to me.

[16:05} 75 Hard

[22:30] Discipline, purpose, and gratitude.

[29:45] Shifting to a customer focused mindset.

[31:00] What is your legacy, Andy Frisella?

[36:12] You don’t have to be average.

[40:54] Do something that will move you toward where you want to go.

[45:38] No Man’s Land

[52:33] Golf is not a workout.

[56:45} Onlyfans inquiries.

[1:03:50] How to buy a house with memes.

If you loved this week’s conversation, you may want to check out these previous episodes!

That which you don’t hate, you’ll eventually tolerate.

Jordan Harbinger – Education, Partnerships, and Fake Taxis!

Discipline Moves the Needle

On this episode the guys dive into STANDARDS!  Why setting standards is important and getting above the average standards that are set by society.

Once you set those STANDARDS you know have to find a way to uphold them and make them become who you are.

With a short cast this week the content is still FULL with information curated from Andy Frisella, Ed Mylett, and Tony Robbins just to name a few!  

Be sure to listen to this one close and share with someone who needs to set their standards higher! 

In this episode, special co-host Corey Boxx joins us to shoot the breeze on a whole host of subjects. Corey is the Vice President Of Business Development at Drive Social Media which helps businesses of every kind grow through measurable and scalable ROI-focused advertising.

We do a deep dive on a selection of quotes by a variety of well-known figures, including Ed Mylett, Helen Keller, and Jim Rohn, among others. We also get into a bunch of other topics, from business to credit card debt all the way to getting yourself organized.

Listen in as we share the famous sayings that immediately come to mind when we think of the quote, “That which you don’t hate, you’ll eventually tolerate.” We then give our thoughts on how to apply this quote in the context of personal and professional development.

Finally, we talk about “should”s in our lives that, because of constant neglect, eventually turned into “must”s; why work-life balance is BS; and our tips for pushing past excuses and getting over the pain threshold toward change.

Key Highlights

• [02:00] Living through COVID season in Mexico
• [04:52] Sharing quotes related to “that which you do not hate, you’ll eventually tolerate.”
• [07:17] What the quote means to each of our hosts from a personal and professional development standpoint
• [13:58] When “should” becomes “must”
• [24:39] How to stop making excuses and cross the pain threshold
• [33:54] “What piece of advice would you give to a college graduate who wants to become an entrepreneur?”
• [36:11] This week’s Just the Tip

Powerful Quotes

• Anything that’s not moving you forward is ultimately an enemy to your progress and growth.
• Complacency is at odds with progress. [...] You’ve almost got to get radical with how you view yourself. Either I’m moving forward or I’m going backwards.
• You reward your dog when he does something good. So, if you accomplish your goal, reward yourself. Have something to work for, as big or as little as you want it to be, and then you set the next goal.
• Work-life balance is an illusion. Most people work just enough to be miserable.
• Work is just part of life. Finding rhythm with it and finding purpose in it allows me to enjoy life more.
• Once you find that one thing, put yourself in a room where you are the most out-of-shape; you are the brokest; you are the dumbest. You will naturally be like, “I’ve got to level up.” The cheat code is that, the quickest path there is being around people that know the way.

If you loved this week’s conversation, you may want to check out these previous episodes!

• Discipline Moves the Needle
• Quit Bitching and Complaining!
• Winning

Jordan Harbinger is a Michigan-born Wall Street lawyer turned podcast interviewer, as well as a communications and social dynamics expert.

His podcast, The Jordan Harbinger Show, was selected as part of Apple’s “Best of 2018" and today clocks in at over 11 million downloads per month. Often referred to as “The Larry King of podcasting,” Jordan has spoken to a score of high-profile guests on the show including Kobe Bryant, Moby, Dennis Rodman, Tip “T.I.” Harris, Tony Hawk, Cesar Millan, Simon Sinek, Eric Schmidt, and Neil deGrasse Tyson, among others.

In addition to hosting The Jordan Harbinger Show, Jordan is a consultant for law enforcement, military, and security companies and is a member of the Northern California Chapter of the Society of Professional Journalists.

Listen in as Jordan discusses his journey from frustrated Wall Street corporate lawyer to entrepreneur and award-winning podcaster.

He also does a deep dive into business partnerships and how to know whether it’s time to fly solo. On the other hand, Jordan shares when forging a new partnership might be the best next step.

Jordan then speaks on how the schooling system promotes mediocrity by default and what it means for the natural-born entrepreneur.

Finally, Jordan touches on how entrepreneurs can become better leaders and managers of a growing business.

Key Highlights

• [04:00] An introduction to Jordan Harbinger
• [13:55] Knowing when it’s time to part ways with a business partner
• [21:47] What a healthy business partnership looks like
• [26:11] How Jordan got kidnapped—twice
• [29:31] Securing high-caliber guests and upping your game as a podcaster in general
• [33:30] The problem with the school system and individual achievement
• [37:09] The link between entrepreneurship and ADD/ADHD
• [43:11] Discovering what you’re built to do
• [45:31] The best style of management for entrepreneurs
• [49:20] How The Jordan Harbinger Show gives back

Powerful Quotes by Jordan

• When you’re in business, your business married that person who’s your partner. If one of them spends a shitload of money wastefully, that’s your money and you can’t do shit about it unless you have an intervention. If one of them is like, “My parents were never successful so I’m going to self-sabotage all the time and make sure we’re never successful,” that shit is in your house.
• The Jordan Harbinger show would be less varied and interesting if there hadn’t been other really good podcasters that have done similar-ish shows. I would just keep doing things the same way. Competition makes you better.
• [The school system would rather educate than inspire kids] because you don’t need to do that if you’re trying to churn out a consistent product. [...] They’re trying to churn out a consistent product so that they don’t lose funding. Schools are playing defense.
• The fact that you didn’t pay attention in school doesn’t mean you have ADD. It just means that you can’t sit there with everybody else who is literally average, by definition, and memorize stuff. [...] Many people who think they have ADD probably don’t. They were just cooped up in a bullshit environment for a really long time and that’s not how they learn.
• No job is like school. Zero jobs involve sitting there, being academic, and memorizing things while a teacher lectures. Zero jobs do this. Listening to lectures is one of the worst ways I can think of to deliver information to young people with active minds.

Episode 30 for the Brofessional Development team and we are talking about minimum wage! 

With talks of raising the federal minimum wage to $15.00 an hour the guys talk about the effects it could have on small business and a country as a whole! 

The guys talk about what can be done to raise your personal value to get yourself above that minimum wage.  

Several action items that can be taken to show your employer that you are worth more and how to have those conversations!